Should I or shouldn't I? Help me decide.
By secretbear
@secretbear (19448)
Philippines
February 19, 2007 4:22am CST
I have this suitor which i have dated a few months ago. We were going along fine and i was expecting we'd be going on to the next level. So one day i was expecting him but he didnt show up. Not one word why he left. I just knew from a common friend that he went to a training and schooling which were requirements for a promotion in their work. He sent me a few messages explaining why he didnt even said goodbye. And then told me again he was coming to see me but again, he didnt show up. I was so mad at him. I felt like he was not really serious like he was always saying and i felt like he was taking me for granted. We had no communications for almost two months. Then i received a text message from him yesterday, y'know, the "hi. how are you? i hope you're not mad at me.." and all that. I was so indiffirent. Should i reply to him? Should i entertain him again? I feel like my anger is flaring up again. But at the same time, there's this happy feeling coz he still remembered me and i feel like i wanna hope for us again. Im really at a loss. Help me decide guys.
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4 responses
@crazy_me (588)
• Philippines
20 Feb 07
I agree with the other posters, the guy is not really into you. If he really loves you, he would be persistent and consistent in courting you. He would not be like the way he is with you - disappearing and appearing whenever he wants to. Do not reply to his message. He would just think that it is okay with you that he forgets about you and then contact you again if he likes to.
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@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
20 Feb 07
Thank you for being honest and for telling the obvious truth. ^__^ Maybe i just needed someone to tell it to me straight to the face. I just cant seem to accept it to myself that i have expected and been disappointed. But i do accept the truth that i still like him despite of it all. And it just makes me so sad coz i seldom feel like this towards a guy. Not only the chance i gave him that is wasted but also my feelings for him. Thanks for your advice! I appreciate it. ^__^
@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
19 Feb 07
i know. i have always known that to expect too much is to get hurt. That's why i really try hard not to assume and not to expect. and its kinda hard really when i really like a guy. yeah.. i guess i should not be problematic about it and just let things happen.. if it's that's easy. geez.. i dont like being in this kind of situation.. thanks for the advice cheenlly!
@y_lokesh_tem (465)
• India
19 Feb 07
i think u can not take the decision because u r ready to committ but he is not so i think u should apporched to him
and tell ur feelings to him and then if he ready to committ then u go ahed.
@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
19 Feb 07
i have never approached a guy i liked and tell him directly my feelings! its kinda embarassing dont you think? but i have considered this before just to really set things straight, you know, to know the real score, what he really feels about me. but i dont have the courage. thanks for the advice! ^__^
@vicky_lane4987 (980)
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19 Feb 07
i guess if you REALLY like/love him then you shouldnt let him go. but he doesnt seem to be very commited :S maybe he isnt the one for you
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@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
19 Feb 07
i really like him and i would really want to keep him. but as u said, he does not seem to be committed. and that's my problem. i dont want to go in a one-sided relationship where i am the one in the disadvantage. i dont want to take the risk. deep inside im wishing he's the one but i guess i can't do anything if he isn't right? thanks vicky_lane! ^__^
