Girls: Have you ever been cheated on?
By safiyyah319
@safiyyah319 (2)
United States
February 23, 2007 12:23pm CST
My dilemma is just like Ross and Rachel's, we were on a break and he slept with multiple girls. It happened every time we took a break. Now we have two kids together and I am always skeptical about where's he been and whether he lies to me or not. There's a specific neighborhood he used to live in where he knows a lot of girls, and coincidently, all the girls he slept with lived there. So I forbid him to ever go there again. I don't want to be the jealous girlfriend, but I also don't want to be anybody's fool. Does anyone have any advice or tips to know when a guy is probably cheating? And is there anyway of moving past this without always wondering if he will do it again? Should I trust him?
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@nicolec (2671)
• United States
23 Feb 07
Was he honest about sleeping with the other girls while you were 'broken up'? Or did you find out some other way? If he was honest with you then, hopefully he is honest with you now. if you had to find out some other way, like through a friend, then he is hiding things.
There are lots of ways to know if he is cheating. Does he not answer his phone often when you call? Do you live together and he is coming home late? Does he seem distant towards you?
I think the best thing you can do, and for the sake of your children, is to sit him down and have a heart to heart.
Don't accuse him of anything. But talk open and honestly about how you feel. Then make the choice based on his words and actions. Good luck.
@judyt00 (3496)
• Canada
23 Feb 07
So, why did you take him back after he slept around? This shows a lack or respect for yourself. Do you really think he isn't going to sleep with other women, since you have told him its OK to do so by taking him back more than once. Come on, if you suspect he is fooling around, he is, and its your own fault. You've told him he could. If you aren't married, leave him now, If you are, set down new ground rules stating that he isn't allowed to go out without you any more.
