what do you advice doing with a mental patient in your family?

@liranlgo (5752)
Israel
March 9, 2007 11:54am CST
i have a very close member of the family that is mentally ill she is old already and i do honor her the problem is that i have to see her daily and help her and she keeps telling me what a loser i am when i do not see her i talk to her on the phone there is no way to talk to her about it cause she does not understand she hurts me and i find that she has a great influence on me even if i am having a great day she with one sentence will ruin it by telling me i am not worth existing what would you do in this case? there is no way i can leave her and the my logic does not help me here
1 response
hazydazy
@hazydazy (783)
• United States
9 Mar 07
She does not understand what she is saying. I am sure she does not mean it. Just smile and say thank you for your opinion and go about your business.
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liranlgo
@liranlgo (5752)
• Israel
9 Mar 07
she does understand what she is saying and she means every word that is the problem
hazydazy
@hazydazy (783)
• United States
9 Mar 07
Just tell her you love her and are doing your best. If she is not happy with the care that you are providing for her and you are exhausted, then ask for help. Are there other members of the family that can help? You need a break.
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liranlgo
@liranlgo (5752)
• Israel
10 Mar 07
they do try helping. and it did inform tham of the situation a long time ago.