Controling Parents

yes I agree with you....what country a person lives in would play a major role. Here in the USA usually by 18 people are making their own decision....like for me, I am allow to do what I want even though I live at home...there are certian thing my parents want me to do like call them if I go outta town to let them know I arrived ok. I respect that..and if im gonna be home late they like to know. If im going to go out with someone, it is my choice completely, however if they see a problem with that person they definatly let me know, and I always try to respect that. This guy I am talking about though I think has let it go further then just respecting his parents oppinions...he lets them control every aspect and I think they should give him a little more freedom of choice because of his age.

Yes, as I mentioned I still live at home with my parents also and I am 22. I choose to live at home until I get married. My parents have rules and things they want me to do...it is their house after all so I respect that and realize that no matter the age, if you live at home there are things that parents will expect...and I think people that are still living with their parents should resepect that. But I also think that there should be a cut off point in age when parents say..."ok they can make their own decisions"...if someone is pletny old enough to get married legally and drink and smoke and vote legally, then they are old enough to decide who they date or for that matter marry. I think 18 should be the cut off point when parents say ok you can do what you want depending on the circumstances....if they see their kids getting into trouble they should give advice but not say that the kid has no choice in the matter.

Thats how my parents are...they tell me i can stay there as long as i want. Infact my parents will give me land to build a house on so that i can stay close by them when i move out. And while im in their house I have to follow their rule and ways of doing thing, but I have no problem with that because at 22 their ways of doing things arent that much different from my own. and im very close with them. But they give me the privacy and space I need. they let me do what I want when i want and only give advice in serious issue. They dont try to live my life for me... and im trying to tell my friend that he needs to get respect and space from his parents if he ever wants to be happy. because at 23 years old he should be able to have a GF or get married and start a family of his own if he wants....not be a Mommys boy for the rest of his life. I think he should respect his mom but then again she should respect him also.....and if she doesnt, then he should demand that respect.

Yes I completle agree with you. My parents have always let me have quite a bit of freedom even as a young teenager...which is why I see no need to leave home till i get married. But this friend of mine is very different...and he is very much of a momma's boy and I (as his friend) am trying to show him that he is capable of controling his own life. I love him to death but i hate how she lives his life for him and he has no choice. I get mad at her lack of respect for him but I get more mad at his lack of respect for himself. how do you show someone how to take control and be grown up?