false accusation

Philippines
March 12, 2007 2:33am CST
Today it seems that the only way to get a quick divorce and to make sure that mediation and reconcilliation is not possible is to apply for a divorce using "Domestic Violence". I am not saying that true Domestic Violence doesn''t happen, of course it does and should be condoned. However, there is growing evidence that this is not the case and false accusations is on the increase. This is the preferred route as the one being violated will gain a lot from the authorities and will even turn the families and friends against the accused violator ruing the violators life completely. Islam doesn''t like domestic violence but it doesn''t like false accusers either. They will face the same punishment in the hereafter. What are the benefits of false accusation ?
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7 responses
• Philippines
13 Mar 07
I don't see any benefits from FALSE ACCUSATION. It is all but negatives. It will damage the individuality of the one being accused, it will bother the accusser and will make him guilty. It is his or her conscience that will always remind him of what wrong he had done to an innocent person. people will never respect the accuser and the accussed. And lastly, people will no longer believe on words that the false accuser will say. In short, NO BENEFITS AT ALL WHEN YOU DECLARE A FALSE ACCUSSATION!
@Mbirck (73)
• United States
13 Mar 07
There are no benefits for false accusations. It also hurts people like me who did go through it and have to deal with being under a microscope because of people who do file these charges falsely. It also sickens me that some one would cry out with false accusations causing someone hurt they could carry for the rest of their lives. This could effect future jobs or a current job, it could also set up a habit for the next person in there life to cry this out fasly and because of being found guilty of it once it would be almost like an automatic sentence. Anyone who could do this truly has to be heartless.
@emeraldisle (13138)
• United States
12 Mar 07
I am sure that just like with any crime there are those who false accuse. It's unfortunate that you have those who will do that to make the system work for their advantage. All they do is hurt the legitimate accusers, the ones who have been victimized and need the help the system can give them. Personally I think those who false accuse with any crime should be penalized and brought to justice. Make some examples of them and then perhaps the number of false cases would diminish.
@sizzle3000 (3036)
• United States
13 Mar 07
I do not see why there should be false acusations. You can get a divorce for any reason under the sun. You just have to wait in some states for up to a year. It should not matter how long you wait for the divorce since you should give yourself time to heal before jumping into another marriage. There are some who are vindictive and want to make things hard on their spouse. In these cases it makes things hard on people who really experience domestic violence.
• India
12 Mar 07
Though it seems very unfair, but some resorts it is to accuse and get away from the accusation. But it's an easy route especially if one of the spouse is violent and unpredictable. I would prefer this route rather than undergo torture and mental agaony, with such unreasonable and violent people
• United States
12 Mar 07
I dont think there would be benefits it would just cause alot of problems and if children were involved thats a little serious.
@aries_0325 (3060)
• Philippines
12 Mar 07
While I appreciate that there will inevitably be a small number of false and vindictive claims of domestic violence, I have observed time and time again that Pierre is not viewing matters from a rational standpoint at all. It is disturbing to read such anti-female comments. He has a particularly bad attitude relating to DV. In most cases of DV, the facts are far removed from those cited by Pierre. Women who flee stand to lose everything. From a financial point of view they lose out big time. Just the fact that many women are willing to risk so much, and put themselves to such inconvenience (as usually she is the one who has to bundle her things into bin bags and run, leaving the perpetrator in the comfort of the family home), suggests that she would not do it for personal gain. Children who are in the regular company of a perpetrator of DV face a multitude of risks. This ranges from emotional trouble/learning bad attitudes towards vulnerable members of society to sometimes even murder. Often, only the victim can invisage the damage potentially caused. Therefore, if a victim of DV states that the children are better off protected from the violent or abusive parent, this should not be dismissed without attempting to understand the facts (as Pierre does without batting an eyelid). The majority of cases where a child has no contact with absent parent, this is caused by lack of commitment, not by prevention. And what is all the fuss about paying child maintenance? In the main, the absent parent is miles better off financially than the carer, who often loses the freedom to pursue a career because of family responsibilities. Of course it is fair that both parents should contribute financially. Except in rare cases, the only reasons a father (or mother) does not have contact is because they are too damaging to the child, or because they are not interested. Of course, the rare cases where injustice has occurred, I sympathise. However, I am grateful that DV is being publically recognised at last, and that women are believed. At the end of the day, it is one person''s word against anothers. However, in most cases by far it is shown to be true. And the majority of the victims are female. That is just a fact.