18 yr olds and drinking

I would not allow them to drink in my house. If they are out drinking & driving at 18 then they better hope they bought the car themselves & pay for their own gas, insurance, maintainance too. If they didn't & I caught them driving drunk the car would be mine. At 18 if they can't obey the laws of the world & my house then it is time to go. That may be harsh, but I do not agree with under aged drinking. My children will know that & will know the punishment if they get caught.

I don't know about your area of the country but here, 18 is not legal drinking age. In my area, your son could be arrested for underage drinking and you could be arrested for allowing it to occur in your home. Your son needs to be totally aware that there are consequences to his actions and that his actions can affect other people.

At that age they are going to do it whether you want them to our not, so I'd rather know where they are and what they are doing. My parents allowed my brother to drink in the house to a point. For the same reason. They wanted to know that he was safe.

Well, unfortunately I was not able to have any kids, but if I would have, I would have really rather have my Son or Daughter come to me and let me know that they are choosing to drink instead of hiding it, and in turn causing an accident while drinking or driving, or being caught doing something else as well. I feel it is better for a child to be Truthful and a parent be able to help work them thru the situation than to hide something and end up having to pay big time later for it as well.

if he tell that he drinks ,i would appreciate him for speaking the truth.... So i would tell him to drink at home once in 15 days.... i would not shout at him....

There are some things in life that are black and white, and underage drinking is one of them. It is not okay if it is illegal. Here the legal drinking age is 21, and drinking before 21 should be strictly prohibited. If I found out about a friends house where my child was allowed to drink they would not be going there. How can you teach a child to obey the rules when you allow them to be broken?

I would definately want to know, there is no doubt about that but I'm caught as to whether I'd rather they drink at home where I know they are safe or forbid it only for them to be out and about drinkin anyway and possibly getting hurt or in trouble...I think I'd ask them to hold off til turning 19 then just take them out periodically back to Canada and when we are here in the U.S allow them to have the occasional drink at home but thats about it...I dont think it'll really be something I'll ahve to worry about mind you but you never know...

I certainly would allow my older teenage kids to drink at home, not regularly though, especially the girls as I would like them to be able to handle their drink (pint or two) so that the first drink outside my home wouldn't put them in a compromising position.

Not that I approve of under age drinking (I don't think many parents do) however I appreciate the fact that my 18 year old son trusts and repects me enough to tell me about it. If I didn't "allow" it he would just party heavily with friends. Also if he is at a friends house, he stays the night. He knows I don't want him to drive if he's been drinking, he tells me he never will, even if he just sleeps in his car in front of his friends house.He usually tells me where he's going when he leaves to go to a party also, which I don't think he would if we weren't open with him about it.