ATTACK of the over zealous grandma!!!
By astromama
@astromama (1221)
United States
March 16, 2007 6:33am CST
I spent the afternoon with my mother today and practically had to tie her hands to keep her from buying more crap for the coming baby! I appreciate the thought and everything, but I really don't feel we need this much STUFF. So far, she's bought us: stroller, carseat, pack n' play, Maya Wrap sling, co-sleeper, patterned cloth diapers, plain cloth diapers, bibs, 8 pairs footie pajamas, 15 onesies, 5 3 piece outfits, blankets, sheets for the changing table, plush toys, nursing bras, maternity clothes, 5 hooded towels with matching washcloths, 3 packs organic cotton wipes, tubes of ointment, hand sanitizer, baby first aid stuff, and supplies for my homebirth. I'm sure I'm forgetting a number of things, and we haven't even had our baby shower! Is she out of control??? How much stuff did your mother buy you when you were pregnant, and is this a normal thing? After today I'm thinking about having her committed! I think just the stroller is a pretty big gift, personally... but she just keeps spending and spending..
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@sandgroper1 (628)
• Australia
16 Mar 07
You are so lucky to have a mum who is willing and has the money to be able to do that for you, my mum would have loved to have been able to do that for me but she wasnt able to because of a high morgage. No you probably dont need all of that stuff but your mum is going to make sure that you have more than enough , you probably are feeling a little taken over by mum and i would be too, she loves you and wants to make sure that you have all that you need and my guess is that she wants you to have more than she did. Bless her heart you have a great mum, just say thanks and you can always give the extras away later or sell them with out mum knowing. Big hugs to you and all the best
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@astromama (1221)
• United States
16 Mar 07
Thanks. She is great, but a little overwhelming! She took me to three stores and at every one she kept holding up random things saying 'OH... look! You need one of these, and these, and these..' I was taking stuff out of her cart! It's her first grandbaby, so I know she's really excited, but still! My husband and I are not materialistic and are trying to buy the minimum amount of 'stuff', and there she is debunking our plan! I don't really mind too much, I'll let her have her fun. I just wanted to know if this was normal for grandma's to behave like this... I saw two bibs in her hand and I told her 'no, we already have plenty of bibs'... she's like, 'Yeah, but what do they SAY'... the bibs she had picked up said 'I love Grandma' on one and 'Grandma loves me' on the other. So cute...
@sandgroper1 (628)
• Australia
17 Mar 07
If your mum gives you all and expecially your baby as much love and attention as she does baby goodies, you are in heaven. Although i can see your point as i think i would be feeling a little weighed down and smothered with it all. She probably just wants to give all she can so that your child never goes without anything and that you will want for nothing. Maybe tell her to put the money she wants to spend into an account to go towards your childs education and future outings and whatever. When are you due , i know your not far away from delivery now.
@astromama (1221)
• United States
17 Mar 07
I'm due around mid April... this is my 36th week, so truly anytime in the next few weeks, depending on when he's ready to be born! I think she's milking this experience for all it's worth, because I'm her only daughter and the odds are that my brothers either won't have kids, or won't have them for a good long time. She's so thrilled to become a grandma... I love that she's sharing my excitement, I just want her to understand that we want our child to value relationships, not 'things'. But, seeing as he is not here yet, buying him things is one way for her to express her love for him. She will be here for my homebirth, and will stay a few days afterwards with me. I'm sure once he is born I wont be able to keep her away!
@lordwarwizard (35747)
• Singapore
16 Mar 07
Hey, your mum is sweet haha! You should be glad to have such a mum. I would think every grandmama loves her grandchild.. so indulge her! ;-)
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@michelledarcy (5220)
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16 Mar 07
My mum bought me a cot for my first baby and just a small gift for the second. However she bought them cuddly toys and clothes when they were born and continues to spoil them. However it is nothing compared to what your mother has done, maybe you should say to her that you would like to be able to buy a few things yourself.
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