Is it right for parents to demand that their children "pay them back" someday?  

No. Surely God has not allowed us to have children to have them support us. As parents we give our children as much as we can because we love them. Not because ten years from now i will need them to help me pay my mortgage or credit cards! I know many people who think that way. I don't think this is right.

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I don't think children when adults don't have the obligation to pay in return what their parents have done on them, it is the natural way that parents do this because they are the ones responsible in the up-bringing of their child.

But I think their children could still choose what they think is more appropriate, they can always give something for their parents as a token of gratitude. Support them and tend for them, when the time comes that parents have grown old..

i believe that children should really help their parents when they are able already for all the efforts that they made but i don't believe that parents should demand or force their children to pay them back. as parents, it is their obligation to raise and support their children in everything that they need. they should also be responsible enough in providing them good education. when their children are already old enough to stand on their own, they should let them be independent and decide on their own whether or not they should help their parents or not. it is not the obligation of children to pay back their parents but they may be able to help them.

yes...it is our right..we can pay them back not just by means of money..i mean we pay them by helping them..for me, honestly it is our dutey to pay back to our parents

Sounds wrong to me. Parents choose to have children, therefore they choose to care for and support them. Hopefully if your parents are old or sick or for some reason unable to care for themselves you would help out if you can, but you should not be expected to pay them just because they cared for you as a child. That is one of the weirdest things I have ever heard of.

Kelly

I would never expect my daughter to pay me back for the cost of raising her!! Having a child was our choice, and so it is our responsibility to pay any costs involved.

However, i do think if a child is still living at home, and working fulltime it isn't unreasonable to expect them to contribute in some way. What my parents did was got us to pay $50 a week in board (much cheaper than living anywhere else). But, when we moved out of home, we got all that money back in one lump sum. I was so surprised when they did it, and it was fantastic. That money enabled hubby and I to get the backyard landscaped and done in ways we could have only imagined!!

Although my parents don't ask for money to pay back or anything, if they ever needed it, I would be more than willing to help out in anyway I can.

Catcai we come from totally different backgrounds and I understand from previous discussions that attitudes vary between countries! Here in the uk it is very unusual for children to financially support their parents unless they still live at home - then they will contribute towards the running costs of the house! I really don't know what is expected in your country but I will say this if my oarents needed my help I would give it as much as I could in a heartbeat! Yes our parents looked after us since we were born and deserve our love and respect for this, my culture however believes that we all have our own incomes so there really is no need to support your parents financially! I hope all is well honey!

Course it isn't. However if you are living with your parents still and using their home and eating their food etc then you should pay them board and lodging. They could charge board and lodging to a guest using your room if you were not still there and it is good to start paying your way before moving out.
I gave my mother board and lodging from my first job onwards until I moved out.After that,my wages went on my own board and lodging and later a mortgage etc.
In the UK there is the state pension,does your mum have that for when she is old or how does it work where you are for when people are too old to work?

if they fall in distress,they have the right to ask definately. it is our own feeling to feed them as they had given us since begining. thanks.