Childless and hurting
By dcroome2005
@dcroome2005 (1210)
United States
April 2, 2007 4:49pm CST
I am so bummed right now. Hubby and I just got done talking about it but wanted to express it in words so others who don't know me could give me their best opionion. I am 29 ( will be 30 in May) Hubby will be 30 in June. I love him and we have been married almost 2 years. From the time I was little, I could remember that all I wanted to do was get married and have kids. Both my brothers have 1 girl each. Here I am - childless. It sucks. I want a child so bad. Adoption is soooooo expensive and not gauranteed. I was diangnosed in Nov 2005 with Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome. They said getting pregnant COULD happen but they aren't sure because of my cyst. I was with my ex husband for 8 years and never got pregnant either. Because of knowing that I could possibly never get pregnant, I have lost my drive to be intimate. Thank GOD my husband still loves me and won't leave me.
Now, my question- anyone else yearn for a child but it's not happening? Anyone go the adoption route and maybe have some sites to refer me to? Anyone do other means for getting preggo or having someone else carry your child?
Just curious ..
Thanks
Christina
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3 responses
@Impervious (1147)
• United States
12 Apr 07
I have to respond from the other side of adoption. About five years ago my wife and I were in a terrible position and could not properly care for our son. We ended up using an agency that was absolutely wonderful. I don't know that they can help but would like to pass on their # 1-800-884-4004 The agency is called adoption ARC and they are fantastic
hope it helps
@dcroome2005 (1210)
• United States
12 Apr 07
Thank you so much. Oh I wish I would have known you then. Do you have your son back? I bet that was horrible for you to go through.
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@Impervious (1147)
• United States
12 Apr 07
No we do not have him back it was our choice to put him up for adoption. But he was adopted by a wonderful couple and we have an open adoption. So we hear from them often and recieve photo's regularly.
It is difficult but when we see the photo's and speak with them we know that we have done the right thing for him.
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@dcroome2005 (1210)
• United States
12 Apr 07
I'm so proud of you :-) That is a difficult but brave decision! I respect you so much for that.
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@harwoodkp (285)
• United States
2 Apr 07
Me and my wife did not get married until we were 30. Then it took 12 miscarriages unitl she carried our only child to term. I urge you not to give up. One thing that helped a lot of people we know is stinging nettle tea. (My wife used to be a lay midwife). This has helped a lot of couple to achieve getting a child. Another suggestion is what a friend of our did. They adopted an embryo. They know have a beatiful daughter. I urge you not to give up. There are always ways. God Bless
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@dcroome2005 (1210)
• United States
3 Apr 07
Thank you so much Harwoodkp.. Where can I get this stinging nettle tea? You can message me if you would like and don't mind.
Thanks
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@carolscash (9491)
• United States
31 Oct 08
Well, I know that adoption is expensive but if you want a child that bad and can't have one of your own,then adoption is a good idea. I hope that you can find a way of becoming parents and living out your dream. There are so many people in this world that want to be parents and can't and yet there are so many people that have them that do not need to be parents.
