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heatian @heatian (49) • China 7 Apr 08

Sometimes, my friend talked with me. He stated he was in a financial trouble. And He was so unhappy. Then he asked my assistance and borrowed a little sum money from me. He promised he would return it half a month later. Though I...

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heatian By now, after a long time thinking about it, I figure out, the best way to keep the friendship, that is not to lend any more. But it doesn't work very well when my friend is tough.

7 Apr 08

heatian @heatian (49) • China 7 Apr 08

Sometimes, my friend talked with me. He stated he was in a financial trouble. And He was so unhappy. Then he asked my assistance and borrowed a little sum money from me. He promised he would return it half a month later. Though I...

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heatian According to my friend circumstance, he has ability to repay the money, but he doesn't do it. So, I feel sick when I think about this.

7 Apr 08

heatian @heatian (49) • China 7 Apr 08

Sometimes, my friend talked with me. He stated he was in a financial trouble. And He was so unhappy. Then he asked my assistance and borrowed a little sum money from me. He promised he would return it half a month later. Though I...

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heatian I have the experience of break of friendship for the borrow and lend. I feel sad for that. Some friend think that I care money rather than friend. So they part away from me. So, I am sensitive about borrow and lend.

7 Apr 08

heatian @heatian (49) • China 7 Apr 08

Sometimes, my friend talked with me. He stated he was in a financial trouble. And He was so unhappy. Then he asked my assistance and borrowed a little sum money from me. He promised he would return it half a month later. Though I...

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heatian Thanks. Sometimes I introspect and conclude that I am not enough generous to others. I should learn to forget easily. Like that, I maybe live happier than before. I believe in karma also.

7 Apr 08

heatian @heatian (49) • China 6 Apr 08

My son is 11 years old. Sometimes, he does something but I think it is not good. So, I ask him to stop. But he doesn't follow me and argues with me. I am angry. I can't persude him. I am disappoint with him. I don't know how to...

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heatian It is ture. Example is important and affect the mind of child . It is more effective than words.

6 Apr 08

heatian @heatian (49) • China 6 Apr 08

My son is 11 years old. Sometimes, he does something but I think it is not good. So, I ask him to stop. But he doesn't follow me and argues with me. I am angry. I can't persude him. I am disappoint with him. I don't know how to...

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heatian I make a wrong operation. So, I upload two discussions. Sorry.

6 Apr 08

heatian @heatian (49) • China 6 Apr 08

My son is 11 years old. Sometimes, he does something but I think it is not good. So, I ask him to stop. But he doesn't follow me and argues with me. I am angry. I can't persude him. I am disappoint with him. I don't know how to...

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heatian Good advice. I realize that I should insist my correct points and don't bent to children's wrong action. But, in order to correct their behavior, I have to use punishment. This way hurt my heart and I am worried if it damages our relationship.

6 Apr 08

heatian @heatian (49) • China 6 Apr 08

My son is 10 years old. Sometimes, he do something, but I think it is not good. So, I ask him to stop. But he don't follow me. I am very angry. And I argue with him but I can't persuade him. I don't know how to treat it. Is it...

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heatian Just like you said. Teaching child need time and it is a course. They grow up when they have some experience and lesson. Then, they realize the truth of fact. Only blame and shouting, sometimes no function.

6 Apr 08

heatian @heatian (49) • China 6 Apr 08

My son is 10 years old. Sometimes, he do something, but I think it is not good. So, I ask him to stop. But he don't follow me. I am very angry. And I argue with him but I can't persuade him. I don't know how to treat it. Is it...

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heatian Right. The reason why I shout him is that I am ashamed for it if the neighbour came up and complained to me. Maybe, it is good way to teach my son. But I think that I lose my face in the case of neighbour coming.

6 Apr 08

heatian @heatian (49) • China 6 Apr 08

My son is 10 years old. Sometimes, he do something, but I think it is not good. So, I ask him to stop. But he don't follow me. I am very angry. And I argue with him but I can't persuade him. I don't know how to treat it. Is it...

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heatian After dinner, my son was sitting on the chair. He shaked it to make some noise. For we are living in an apartment and on the third floor. I told him that his actings may affect the people on the second floor. But my son doesn't stop. I told him that the people...

6 Apr 08

heatian @heatian (49) • China 6 Apr 08

My son is 10 years old. Sometimes, he do something, but I think it is not good. So, I ask him to stop. But he don't follow me. I am very angry. And I argue with him but I can't persuade him. I don't know how to treat it. Is it...

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heatian I have the experiences of punishment to my child. After that, my child is very sad and I am very sad also. I always regret to punish him and blame myself. I am hard to overcome this feelings.

6 Apr 08

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