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sanjana_aslam @sanjana_aslam (4187) • Malaysia 20 Jan 10

.. do u like who u are is what , most people around us may not recognise or appreciate all that is good in you .. well i learned this the hard way, no matter what i do, it is never enouugh for my in laws .. - i buy gifts,...

lworth

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magara Don't feel as if you are not a worthy person. Of course you are!.. Just always remember, as long as you don't do any harm to your inlaws, you are just doing good!.. Stay sweet and thoughtful...

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magara @magara (31) • Philippines 16 Jan 10

What do you do when you are stressed out??..Do you keep it to yourself??.. Or you'd rather talk to someone like your friend??.. I personally deal with it first. I'm giving myself time to think and a space to breathe. I always...

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akssah @akssah (118) • India 16 Jan 10

Most of to people try to speak only without listening other. It sometimes irritates. So be a good listener.

good

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magara To be a good listener one should learn when to stop talking and sincerely listen. Then respond when response is needed. Listen with comprehension, understand what the other person is saying. Read between the lines. By then you'll be a good listener...

16 Jan 10

worldwise1 @worldwise1 (14885) • United States 8 Jan 10

I can remember a time when families were focused on working to provide for their family, and the average ones didn't feel the need for a lot of useless things that would only cause them to get deeper in debt by trying to keep up...

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magara Worldwise1, we did not lose those times. It's just that most of us are too busy doing errands. We just have to learn prioritizing things and be mindful with our actions.

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drakesuyat @drakesuyat (1063) • Philippines 8 Jan 10

watching over 4 little kids wherein one of them requires special needs is really tough! fighting over toys, crying, running around, watching them when they're sick and a looooottt of those scenarios that will really test your...

patience

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magara When it comes to my family and friends my patience is well tested. There are times that they are forcing you to get mad and loose your temper. Sometimes I can't control that but once you think of they are your family and you love them so much everything will...

8 Jan 10

rlockheart25 @rlockheart25 (103) • Philippines 8 Jan 10

Do you believe in 2nd chances? 3rd? 4th?...5th?

chance

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magara I do believe in patience and underderstanding. Coz people make mistakes. We are not perfect so why can't we give others a chance to change.May it be a 2nd, 3rd, 4th or so forth chance to make a difference and grow up.

8 Jan 10

mimpi @mimpi1911 (25464) • India 8 Jan 10

A study showed that Costa Rica is the happiest country on the planet! United States ranked 114 and Britain 74. Costa Rica has dissolved it military, shifted the expenses to education, it has very little carbon footprint, high life...

costa rica

happinest planet

measured

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magara You cannot quantify happiness. Besides, it doesn't mean if they are ranked highest and other countries are far beyond then it makes other countries less happy.That is not true at all.

8 Jan 10

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magara @magara (31) • Philippines 6 Jan 10

When I think of chocolates I feel good. Especially when I'm depressed or something, chocolate is definitely first on my list.How about you??..does it makes you happy???

chocolate

happy

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magara @magara (31) • Philippines 6 Jan 10

Have you ever been in a situation where you are completely lost and restless? Have you ever been in so much pain that you even forgot the taste of its bitterness? I've felt maybe half of tasting the bitterness of life and become...

life

pain

porblems

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magara @magara (31) • Philippines 5 Jan 10

Few years back when I was sixteen I thought of running away from my family. I was so insecure and felt that pity to myself when I finally learned that I am adopted. It hurts too much that I feel numb and somehow ignored the pain....

adoption

life

parents

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magara I am still hoping for that. And I know I can still put a closure to this and move on.Thanks....

6 Jan 10

magara @magara (31) • Philippines 5 Jan 10

Few years back when I was sixteen I thought of running away from my family. I was so insecure and felt that pity to myself when I finally learned that I am adopted. It hurts too much that I feel numb and somehow ignored the pain....

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magara Thank you.I know I can find them.

6 Jan 10

magara @magara (31) • Philippines 5 Jan 10

Few years back when I was sixteen I thought of running away from my family. I was so insecure and felt that pity to myself when I finally learned that I am adopted. It hurts too much that I feel numb and somehow ignored the pain....

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magara In search for my biological parents doesn't mean I am disrespecting them or anything. It's like simply completing the jigsaw puzzle to finally have it done and move on. I love my adoptive parents so much. I appreciate everything they've done for me. They are...

6 Jan 10

magara @magara (31) • Philippines 5 Jan 10

Few years back when I was sixteen I thought of running away from my family. I was so insecure and felt that pity to myself when I finally learned that I am adopted. It hurts too much that I feel numb and somehow ignored the pain....

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magara I agree with you!..The only reason I want to know and meet my biological parents is to simply find myself. Find the missing part of me. Once I meet them and ask the question why did they do that, I'm good. And you know what, my adoptive parents too is very...

6 Jan 10

magara @magara (31) • Philippines 5 Jan 10

Few years back when I was sixteen I thought of running away from my family. I was so insecure and felt that pity to myself when I finally learned that I am adopted. It hurts too much that I feel numb and somehow ignored the pain....

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magara I am still waiting for that day that I can finally see my biological parents. Even though until now I don't have the slightest idea who really they are. That's why I'm kinda frustrated with everything.

6 Jan 10

magara @magara (31) • Philippines 5 Jan 10

Few years back when I was sixteen I thought of running away from my family. I was so insecure and felt that pity to myself when I finally learned that I am adopted. It hurts too much that I feel numb and somehow ignored the pain....

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magara Honestly I've been waiting for that closure. And if that happens I can finally say I am okay.

6 Jan 10

magara @magara (31) • Philippines 5 Jan 10

Few years back when I was sixteen I thought of running away from my family. I was so insecure and felt that pity to myself when I finally learned that I am adopted. It hurts too much that I feel numb and somehow ignored the pain....

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magara Always remember a secret cannot be kept for the rest of your life. I only found out the truth about me when I was sixteen. But when I was a child I've heard them talking about that alot of times. However, my parents were just like you, hesitant to admit the...

5 Jan 10

magara @magara (31) • Philippines 5 Jan 10

Few years back when I was sixteen I thought of running away from my family. I was so insecure and felt that pity to myself when I finally learned that I am adopted. It hurts too much that I feel numb and somehow ignored the pain....

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magara I think that's basically their fear. They don't want me to get hurt by finding out who really are my biological parents.

5 Jan 10

prettychai @prettychai (110) • Philippines 21 Dec 09

What would you feel if you knew that the parents you believed to be so is not your biological parents-- that you were only adopted? Would you feel betrayed for they lied to you?

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magara Somehow I feel sad about it. It's like missing half of what you are. But as they say, "time heals all wounds", in due time everything will be okay. Pain will go away. Then forgiveness sets in...

5 Jan 10

sunisami @sunisami (93) • Australia 1 Jan 10

Or am I the only one to think and feel this sad conclusion? I truly believe that the biological child has less of a chance of being rejected by their parents, especially the mother, when the child does not live up to the parents'...

adoption

family

rejection

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magara I myself, don't agree that the bonding between mother and adoptive is less.I am adopted, my mom and I are very close. But I admit there was one chapter of my life that we were at the both ends of the rope, trying to pull each other, moving towards what we...

5 Jan 10

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