Who Had Declare The Love Feelings First? You Or Your Fiance?

Love Feelings - Love Feelings in Relationships
@4signup (104)
Italy
April 17, 2007 10:35am CST
Who had declare the love feelings first? you or your fiance? do you feel shy to declare your feelings or you are brave obviosly saying what you feel? are you hasty declare your feelings or firt you must to be sure that your fiance love you? who should begin to declare love feelings first the man or the woman?
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@bugbaby (1787)
• Indonesia
22 Apr 07
me...i am not feel shy at that time because i know my wife loves me too...and i think the best way to declare the love is man first.
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@vebela (310)
• United States
18 Apr 07
My husband and I had been best friends for years. But, we always secretly had romantic feelings for each other. I tried giving hints for him to say something to me because I didn't want to make a fool of myself if he didn't feel the same way. He declared his love for me first, and I felt so relieved, that I couldn't answer him right away. He got scared that he did the wrong thing and he shouldn't have said that he loved me. But, I came out of my shock a minute later and gave him a kiss. We've been together ever since, and more in love than ever.
@magnel (2263)
• India
18 Apr 07
I think its the man who should take the first step, but there is no such rule about who starts first, finally what counts is both love each other.
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@Angelinka (1410)
• Italy
18 Apr 07
it was my boyfriend first to say that he loves me..i was juist schocked,because i thought that he was only playing with me,so it was very nice surprise to me...after some months i made tatto with his name on my back,i think it was the best way to say i love you too:) i think its not important who is first to declare feelings..if you are girl and you feel that you are in love,say it to your boyfriend without any shame:)
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@gberlin (3836)
18 Apr 07
By the time my wife and I were engaged I felt secure in our relationship and was not shy any more. I had no problem telling her how I felt and the same with her.
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
17 Apr 07
My husband had to declare his feelings of love to me first. I wasn't looking for love when we met. I was only looking for friendship. I wasn't shy to tell him that I was only wanting to be friends and he wasn't shy in telling me he wanted a relationship for the rest of his life with me. I had been hurt so many times in the last. I was in no hurry to show feelings for another man. I had no problem in having the relationship with my nowhusband though because we loved each other very much and still do. I had to first know he loved me before I would show him my feelings. I used to be the one who did that first but he did it for me this time. I think whoever is most comfortable with sharing their feelings first, should go ahead and do it or say it.
@4signup (104)
• Italy
17 Apr 07
I agree with you , hope for you Good luck , thanks for sharing .:)
@Lydia1901 (16351)
• United States
24 Apr 07
I think whoever feels it first can express it accordingly. My husband was the one who told me that he loved me when we were dating and stuff. It was just something else.
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
18 Apr 07
My fiance told me that he fell in love with me the minute he met me and he was indeed the one that said he loved me first. I grew to love him. And he is the best thing that ever happened to me.
@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
18 Apr 07
I really cant remeber but my sis in law said she knew we were in love why before we did. I guess thru the years we both declared our love most of the time it went unsaid as He thought I should know and I felt the same. Altho I dont think either of us really declared it first we just got to saying 'I love you" We lived together for 4 years before he asked me to marry him and then he got on his knee to ask me. When My mom and dad came to see us in tennessee we went to Alabama and got married my mom and dad and brother eas there to see us marry ( They live in Utah so it was along way for them to came to see us get married! So I dont know what is proper for him to say it first or her to say it first.
@cwilson26 (2735)
• United States
18 Apr 07
When my husband and I started dating almost 9 years ago he started saying "I love you" after only a couple of months. I feel bad about it now because I would just say "Yeah" and that was it. I was afraid to say it back because I had been hurt in the past and of course I was only 17 years old and he was a 29 year old man then. I thought he was just saying it to get me in bed. Then about 6 months into our relationship he started asking me to marry him and I just kept telling him it was too soon. We lived together for almost 6 years before we got married almost 3 years ago. Now I know for sure that he really did love me then and still loves me, even more, today. I really don't see the difference in the female or male saying it first. It all comes down to if you really love that person and we really love each other. :)
@aweins (4199)
• India
1 May 07
its only one and a half year that we are married but i dont remember that who said it first, funny, isn't it? i think, before getting wed, we were in talking terms with each other on phone(as we have not seen each other), he use to teach me Spanish Language, because he lived in Mexico, and is very fluent in that language. if i m not wrong , while teaching one day, in Spanish only he said that he love me. then he also taught me how to say the words back if someone has expressed such feelings, and that is how, if i m all correct :), happened. it was a cool time........ i really remember those days, when i use to wait for his call and in the morning , use to check my messenger, where he use to leave lots n lots of offliners, before leaving for his office. it was really a golden time spent (without each other, waiting to see , to meet each other).and finally the day we met, we saw each other for the first time, the other day we decided to get an engagement done, and then finally on the same engagement day, we planned for the wedding. it was all, very very fast, all very uncertain, with no planning.all life long decision was taken in mere 2 days. now we are living happily with each other, he is a gem of a person i have found (infact he found me)it was all his effort, because i was online chatting, we met online, became friends, and then..................... i think, i m too much out of the topic of discussion, sorry friend, i was all in a flow of emotion, writing n writing n writing.
@KarenO52 (2950)
• United States
18 Apr 07
I've been married so long I don't remember, but I think it was him, though I remember saying it too.
@crackhead (1826)
• India
17 Apr 07
When i was love for the first time it was me who expressed my feelings. I didn't feel shy or dint have any worries expressing my love. Since we were close and we understood each other very well she was a bit shy to express her feelings and i had to take care of her and express on behalf of her. I don't know about how every one express their feelings. To me it depends on the situation i am in. If i am supposed to express i don't hesitate.
@4signup (104)
• Italy
17 Apr 07
Yea , some lovers being shy to declare their feelings , thanks for sharing .:)
@OURDEW (4809)
• United States
18 Apr 07
My husband said he loved me first. It wasn't for a few more weeks until I said it back. We have been together over 16 years.
@kathy77 (7486)
• Australia
17 Apr 07
Oh I would have to declare that this would of been my husband before we were married, no I did not feel shy to declare my feelings, I am brave enough to save exactly what I feel. No I am not hasty to declare how I feel, but I think that the reason I did not declare my love first was due to I had been married before and had been hurt deeply and this is why I held back to declare my love for him at the time, but when I knew that he loved me well of course things were different then. I think in declaring who should show love first it depends on the two individuals.
• United States
18 Apr 07
My boyfriend declared his feelings first. I'm quite conservative and laid-back when it comes to relationships (because of my cultural orientation and upbringing), so I would always wait for the guy to declare his feelings first towards me. In my opinion, the times have indeed changed, and I don't have anything against women who make the first move. I just feel uncomfortable doing that, that's all. Happy myLotting!
@elisa812 (3026)
• United States
17 Apr 07
I think it was my husband who first told me he loved me back when we were dating. I had been wanting to say it to him for a long time, but I was afraid of freaking him out by saying it too soon, so I just waited for him. I don't think it matters who says it first, as long as the person means it. I guess it just depends.
@aprilgrl (4460)
• United States
17 Apr 07
I think both, it's been so long we met 25 years ago and we got married and so it will be our 25th anniversay in August.
• Philippines
17 Apr 07
I don't remember (^^,lOL) It was a long time ago. But I think for a woman it is more proper if the man is the first to declare his love. Than for the woman to be the one to declare it first. Because she might be taken for granted and end up hurting or broken hearted. (^^,)
@aciddrop (798)
17 Apr 07
my bf declared his feeling first:)if i plan to do it first,i will make sure he feels for me as well.(so that i wont get embarrassed being refused)hopefully brave to express my feeling:)