Do you let your children shower with you?

United States
April 21, 2007 3:00pm CST
My daughter started having problems with bubble baths. They were giving her infections. The doctor recommended that she start taking showers for a little while because the bubbles were what was giving her infections and she wouldn't take a bath without them. So I have resorted to letting her shower with me because she won't get one by herself. We have to put bubbles on the bottom of the tub so when the shower hits them they bubble up and she can still play without sitting in them. Have you ever heard of bubbles being the cause of infections? My daughter is 5, do you think it's okay for her to shower with me? Do you let your children shower with you?
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@mememama (3077)
• United States
21 Apr 07
I think it's fine as long as both of you are comfortable with it. I know that bubble bath can cause UTI's, I can't remember exactly why but I remember as a child my mom yelling me to get out of the tub or it will burn when I pee lol. My son is 1 1/2, he takes baths by himself, bubbles scare him for some reason. When I shower, he usually hangs out in the bathroom to make sure I'm okay.
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@Galena (9120)
22 Apr 07
it's because the urinary tract isn't fully formed until about the age of 7
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• Philippines
22 Apr 07
no,my kids are now grown up and most of them are girls... and they need their privacy..:)
• United States
22 Apr 07
lol, yeah, after a awhile I just didn't want to see my mom or other way around! I also grew ultra conservative and wore high necks and long sleeves even in the summer. I then finally grew out of that as well.
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@KissThis (3006)
• United States
21 Apr 07
I knew that bubble baths aren't good for girls because they cause UTI's. My sister had told me about that a long time ago. My daughter has always taken a shower with me. As long as you both are comfortable with the situation I think it is fine for a mother and daughter to shower together.
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@steney (1418)
• Philippines
21 Apr 07
Liquid bubble soaps are usually strong as they are heavily scented. Children even at the age of five still have sensitive skin and are prone to UTI especially if we use strond soaps or cleansers to wash their privies. My daughter is also 5 and we used to bath in the tub together where she can swim and play with bubbles. But when I got busy I hardly had time to bathe her myself, moreso take a bath together. I don't feel uncomfortable bathing with her though. If you're okay with it, then I think it won't be a problem. It can also add to your bonding moments that your child will appreciate and remember in the years to come.
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• United States
21 Apr 07
My daughter is 5 and we also are having the same problem. We started with letting her shower with me ( which is fine!) and then she progressed to showering alone. we have to leave the curtain half open and when she gets out i go in and turn off the shower because she is scared. I got her to start doing it alone by playing up the "big girl" stuff. Yes, bubble bath can cause infections as can just plain water that has gotten shampoo or body wash in it. Our little girls private areas are VERY sensitive at this age. some more than others. They get super irritated easily. I also let my daughter sleep with no bottoms to help her "air out" hope this helps!
@lillake (1634)
• United States
21 Apr 07
Sometimes, but not often. I know a lot people who do, but I'm a huge klutz and am afraid of dropping them. My oldest done occasionally now that he can stand on his own better, but he hates the water in his face so its usually when we're running late.
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@k1tten (2320)
• United States
21 Apr 07
I have actually heard of there being problems with bubble baths. My mum will break out in a horrible rash if exposed to the wrong bubble bath. So getting an infection is very likely. I see no problem with letting your children shower with you until you think their old enough. I don't have any children yet but I'd let them if I didn't feel comfortable about it. Five is not a problem but hopefully your little girl will get out of the bubbles stage. I know I did! lol
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@KrisNY (7591)
• United States
22 Apr 07
Yes I have heard of bubbles causing infections- I have the same problem- Not every time I take a bubble bath- but enough that I don't take them too often. Try using a milder soap after the doctor allows her to take bubble baths again- Sensitive kind- I don't see anything wrong with the 2 of you showering together- I would if it was a son-- at the age of 5... I can't remember when my daughter stopped showering with me- It was scary at first- to shower alone for her- water in the face--etc. She is 10 now-- I want to say she was probably 5 or 6 when she started alone- Give her some time-- Soon she won't you in there with her : )
• United States
22 Apr 07
I personally don't shower with my children. I prefer scalding hot showers so my kids wouldn't tolerate that, plus I just don't like them being in there with me. My husband still showers with them occasionally (mostly my son but will take our 4 year old in with him if we are in a hurry). I think as long as everyone is comfortable with it then there is no problem. My kids are 6, 5 and 4 and they take showers now. I just wash their hair from the outside. Usually the girls go first (6 and 4) and then my son. And, yes, bubble bath can cause urinary tract infections in girls. I think there is even a warning on some of the labels. Bubble bath should only be used once in awhile because of that. That is what our doctor told us with all of our girls. I use baby bath in the water. It still bubbles. not sure it causes infections but my kids only take 1 bath a week in the winter. In the summer it is more--depending on how dirty they get.
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@roger_bv (17)
• Philippines
22 Apr 07
sometimes bubble bath can cause infection especially to female... i dont think there is a problem with your daughter having a shower together.. i used to bath together with my kids when they were still young.
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• United States
22 Apr 07
Well, I had three boys and they did not shower with me ever, but my grand daughter is five and she showers with her mom. I let her shower with me also.
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@Galena (9120)
22 Apr 07
bubble baths can cause infections in children under about 7, as the urinary tract is not fully developed and things in the bath can get in. have a look at www.lush.com to see if you can get some bath ballistics instead. they were designed as the head of the companies son had the same problem with bubbles, so they made ballistics to give him something to play with in the bath that wouldn't cause problems. they are sodium bicarb and lemon juice, basically. but also really lovely essential oils, so they smell great, make lots of colours in the water and some have bits in, like seaweed or flowers, or heart shaped confetti. so she might enjoy having one of those in the bath instead, and they are designed for the purpose. but I can't see any harm in her showering with you.
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• Philippines
22 Apr 07
I think there's nothing wrong with it. But i don't think i'd still be saying this when my children are grown-ups. I mean 12 years onwards.
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@Calais (10899)
• Australia
22 Apr 07
Apparently little girls get these all the time, I just had my 7 year old at the doctors about this. And yes, we shower together everyday, We make it a game and get washed as well as save water at the same time.
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@kathy77 (7488)
• Australia
22 Apr 07
Oh well with my children when they were young the boys would go in the shower with their father and I would take the girls with me into the shower there was no problem with this and I agree that you should be showering with your child.
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@student7 (1002)
• United States
22 Apr 07
I don't think it is a problem. Sometimes when I am in a hurry I take my youngest in the shower with me. I still have to wash her hair for it is very long. I help her with that and leave. I don't do it every time I take a shower. Sometimes she and oldest (I have two girls) take baths together. I have heard of girls getting infections from bubble baths.
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@Gemmygirl1 (2870)
• Australia
22 Apr 07
Have you thought maybe it could just be the bubble stuff you're using that causes infections? There are some all natural products here in Australia, maybe you have them there too? Then you could try it to see if your daughter has a reaction with it. For the moment my daughter has normal baths & the Johnson's baby bath we use is good for her skin & it does bubble up some. Maybe you could try that or just find a shop that sells all natural products & see if you can get something from there. I guess it would be ok for a 5 year old to shower with you, maybe you could try letting her shower alone if you think she's getting a little old for it! My daughter doesn't shower with me yet, she's only 10 months old & enjoys her bath too much so i just let her bath!
@Foxxee (3653)
• United States
22 Apr 07
Yes I have heard of bubble baths giving little girls infections. My doctor told me the safe way for kids to take bubble baths is to use "baby wash" like baby magic or johnson and johnson baby wash. You know the same kind of baby wash you would use on a new baby. It might not be the real deal that you get with bubble bath bubbles, but it does make bubbles and they are safe becacause baby wash is gental and is made for babies. But you can use it for bubbles. The reason bubble baths can cause infections is because of the fragrance in some of them. Kids are sensetitive. Even some adult women can get infections from bubble baths. I have heard by a doctor that small children should not take bubbles baths every day, but maybe once a week. Also, in a bath, I always rinse my daughter off with soap and water first before I give her a bath because of all the dirt and germs so she doens't have to just sit in her own dirty water. Sometimes baths are not always good unless done correctly. And I don't see nothing wrong with your daughter taking a shower with you. Although she is getting older and she should try to take showers on her own. Maybe you could stand outside the shower and keep her company or something by talking to her. And if all fails. She is only 5 and she shouldn't be throwing fits if you say no to bubbles. Sometimes you have to put your foot down. I know how it is. I have a 4 year old daughter who loves her baths and bubbles as well.
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@sanell (2113)
• United States
22 Apr 07
Yes, it is actually not a good idea to have bubble baths for little girls because it can cause a lot of infections. However if she does have a bubble bath, maybe just take it down to once a week and when you have the bubble bath, after she gets out you want to rinse her down very well so that the soap does not get irritated in her regions... I do not do any bubble bath, not even soap at this point in the tub, whenever I see my husband has given my kids baths with bubbles, he promptly tells me that he did rinse them off to make sure all the soap was off or no longer around or on their bodies. My kids do take showers with me they will take a bath sometimes while I am showering because our bathtub is right next to the shower....it is nice when they just sit in the bath gives me the opp to have my own little time to myself in the shower which I have not had in a really long tim, I can not wait for the girls to get a bit older.
@Sissygrl (10914)
• Canada
22 Apr 07
I think its fine that your daughter showers with you. At least untill she tells your she's no longer comfortable doing it, and by then i doubt she'll have a problem showering alone. I completely understand about the bubbles. If i bath i can't use any purfumey soaps or bubbles or i get infections too. Try baby bath bubbles, such as johnsons & johnsons, when she is able to have baths again. it is more gental and has no strong purfumes. I get the infections fairly easily and i've had baths with that stuff and had no problems.
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