Why are people so judgemental?

Hi MsSnow, I am the same way. The only way I can juge a side of the story is if it's my side and I know what happened. Other then that all you can do is hear both sides and try to help figure it out from there but I hate playing the guessing game and trying to figure out who is right and who is fibbing. Times like those I just won't get stuck in the middle and tell them to figure it out. If I only hear one side then I will say stuff like "Maybe this could have happened". I also try and ask as many questions as I can and help the person figure it out. I don't judge and just assume that the person who told me the situation is right, and I never pick sides either.

That my friend is one of my personal HATES, my housemate is GUILTY of ASSUMING! He assumes that I will pick him up from the station, he assumes I'll do the washing up for him, he'll assume I'll do this or write out his application for him. Remember this: ASSUME = You make an A55 out of U and ME! It is so easy for people to assume the worst in others and it takes a skill and a talent for people to say ok, that's Joe's story, what about Sharon's? I like to think I judge people fairly and don't tar them with a brush someone else has given me to tar them with.

I wish I knew. I am the same way I don't like to judge anybody and I like to hear both sides of the story but won't judge them or take sides. I agree with you think of the other reasons of why a person might have done and what they did before we judge them.

I agree. I always try to get both sides of the story if at all possible. I have a rather large circle of friends where he said/she said situations happen all of the time, most of them minor but a few have been really big. Years and years ago, before the possibly of us getting together was thought of by either of us, my boyfriend was involved in one such big situation. Almost all of our friends took the other persons side without even talking to him and haven't spoken to him since then, which really hurt him at the time. So, it came as a complete shock to him the day I just randomly showed up at his house to get his side of the story. He later told me he had expected never to see or hear from me again and it was such a relief to see me walk through the door. We were already one of each others best friends and had this habit of being able to have conversations without words. Apparently, even just as friends, he had been terrified of loosing that. My non-judgemeental, "Tell me what happened in your own words," attitude has surprised a lot of people in the past and continues to surprise new people I meet. I'm guessing it is a rare quality. But, once I do hear both sides and I think one side is incredibly stupid, I have no qualms about telling people, and the person I think is being stupid, exactly what I think.

Because we are people and we are not perfect. We love to take sides and our possessive streaks make us want to control the way situations turn. Most people are pompous and self-important and feel that they know everything to judge and condemn.

That's people. And not many are taught to see things from 2 or more angles. Most see things based on their own limited experiences and exposure and made the conclusion. I hope I am not being judgemental here. I am also sharing my views only based on my limited scope though I am trained to look things from various angles. At times, the mind is just too crowded to allow a second dimension :P

Right on .there is always two sides of a story..I know this too well..many times have fallen victim to the one side story listeners!!

The same here Snow but not everyone thinks like us There are to many People now that just love to judge People and make them out bad

Not everyone can see both sides of a situation. They either see one side or the other. I have always been able to see both sides, and in some instances, that has caused me to be on the receiving end of a lot of criticism and "How can you think that? or How can you think this person has any good in them?" It is being able to look at both sides without any emotional ties pulling you in either direction...just looking objectively at the situation. Most people can't do that.

Things my 16-year old daughter would or has said: "First, let me say, please don't judge me. No, I mean it, don't judge me. I am only human. I have feelings. I will get hurt if you judge me. Are you judging me? Stop it!" This discussion reminds me so much of my drama queen daughter. But it is so true that many times we do not listen carefully to both sides of an issue before making a conclusion about it.

its a positive thinking for not judge other people.better we analize what they talking and give respond if its need.and nothing to worry about anything.

I try not to judge any body and also I try not to feed off gossip. When I hear one friend talking about another friend I usually try to change the subject