a miracle just happened

Canada
May 10, 2007 7:17am CST
ok for those who know me i've complained before of my ex never paying hild support. well my daughter needs glasses and they are almost $300. so i called him and asked for $100 to help out. the next day he showes up with $100 for her glasses. i couldn't beleive it. he is actually paying for somehting for his daughter. i was so happy i didn't have to worry about putting all that money on my credit card.
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• United States
10 May 07
This news is very good to hear. I think it's great that you don't have to do everything by yourself for once. Hopefully he will keep this up throughout time. Good Luck!!
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• United States
10 May 07
Maybe he is growing up. I never wanted to ask my ex for help with my son because I thought he would say no anyway. Sometimes they surprise you. He doesn't pay much child support, but I have to give him credit. He pays it on time. Good luck to you and I am glad your ex came through for you. Hope he continues to be more involved.
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10 May 07
That's great that your ex is pitching in. In case you haven't already ordered the glasses, I just got this website from a bargain board I visit. www.zennioptical.com They have glasses for SUPER CHEAP -like $8.00 and up - kids' glasses, too. Some people on the board had used them and been happy with them, so I just ordered a pair for dh. We'll see how they are, but for $8 + $5 shipping, I'm willing to risk it! Mary
• Canada
10 May 07
i have allready ordered hers, but i'll check out the website for a second pair that she can wear on the boat and during sports, that way i won't mind if something that cheap gets broken. thanks
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@stephcjh (32303)
• United States
10 May 07
Wow. That is a great miracle. It is about time that he helps out with his child. He needs to start paying you some child support to help you out more and your daughter. I have been through the very same thing but my daughter's dad is now paying regularly thank God. I am happy for you all and I hope he continues to help you out. Good luck.
@stacy624 (2777)
• Canada
10 May 07
That's awesome its a sad thing for us to have to worry weather our Ex's will help us with the expense of of child/children, I mean we didn't have these children by ourselves, Its Great that he stepped up and is going to help out. This is to better your daughter. I went through something along the lines as this where I had to buy my daughter a retainer for her teeth, well the cost was 2800.00 that I had paid through baby bonus and credit cards. I had asked her dad to help with some of the cost but had refused. I had since then paid for it in full and of course paying for it still in other areas. I am really Happy for you and your daughter and hope he continues to do the right thing. Best wishes Stacy
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@chaime (1153)
• Philippines
10 May 07
wow! congratulations. It always pays to ask ei? And it is always a relief when someone comes thru in the end. Let's just hope that this keeps up and he starts to pay child support (cross our fingers) and I pray that good blessings always come your way ^_^
@Michele21 (3094)
• United States
10 May 07
Yeah!! That is good that he is being responsible!! He probably realized he needs to be thankful for not having to pay the whole $300!! But don't expect it again!! Most guys come and go with their willingness to pay child support! My ex had been paying for the past 6 months or so and now it has stopped. He probably got tired of paying it so he quit his job, that is what usually happens! It has been a few months now since I got a payment, and he never see's her so I don't worry about it. I am just thankful that he doesn't come around and cause problems.
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• United States
10 May 07
I think perhaps because you were asking for specific things that your child required, helped more than a monthly payout which he doesn't know is going to the child.... Actually I come from Australia and I find the system here is very different......you even get alimony here till the day you get remarried or die( I've never heard of that term till I came here). My (American) husband got really screwed by the divorce system, when his ex wouldn't let him see his son after putting up false child abuse allegations that took him 5 years to clear (he never was found guilty of anything but the law courts left the a allegations on record).....and meanwhile he lost his job and couldn't get another one because of background checks..... so now he owes 50 000 and is slowly paying it off when he finally found a better paying job. in a new career...Unfortunately he never gets to see his son (last saw him 9 years ago at age 11) and can't find his ex, and he can't get a passport to see my family in Australia. He still pays monthly money orders and his son is turning 18 . So I can see both sides...female and male. Good and bad They both face hardships and I am keen on keeping my marriage together always. It takes two to tango and two to make a divorce happen
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• United States
10 May 07
Good things happen to those who wait.
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• Canada
10 May 07
Thats awesome news! Maybe he is starting to realize that he needs to take care of his responsibilities. If only MY ex were like that! It's nice when you get the little surprises like that every now and again. It makes you think that maybe the world isn't such a bad place after all. It really gives you a lift and brings a smile to your face. I'm happy for you that your ex decided to help you out.
@jal1948 (1360)
• India
10 May 07
This shows that with whatever difference he has with you for whatever reasons your exstill loves your child and this could also be a sign of affection for you,
@msjigga (866)
• United States
10 May 07
Congratulations!!! I too have problems with my ex not wanting to pay child support. This Man has went through extremes to get out of paying support he sued me for custody twice to avoid paying child support and lost. I would have no problem with him getting my kid he has bad friends around my daugther one of his friends burntt my daugther when she was a baby, he doesn't want anything but the benefits of being a father. I am my daugthers primary provider & caretaker but every year I have to race to file my incomes taxes to claim my daugther. He sued me for custody for the 2nd time last year when he moved out of state, I was unemployed receiving no support at all, unemployment ran out I had to get on public assistance for a couple months the 1st thing they did was sue him for support I could not sue him because we had 50/50 custody. I got a job, got a lawyer won custody. He did not even visit,come get or even call my daugther back when she called, nor did he send any money not one red cent at all.We went to suppurt court he was trying to be friends with me, but it wasn't me who initiated the suupport action so even if I believe that he was sorry there was nothing I could do. He was ordered to pay $428 per month for 1 child I thoght that was alot atfirst but trufuly it is not enough because my daugthr is hurting because misses her Dad. She often ask why Daddy dont love her no more this is how she feels because she had a relationship with her Dad she use to see him every week now she only seen him for 2 weeks last summer. She is in theraphy and she has nightmares. My childs father filed his income taxes in a different state than where he lives so the goverment wont take the arrears he has even quit his jobs twice in less then 1 years. Sorry long but I can relate I dont understand why people feel that just because a Mom carries a baby she is the only person that is suppose to provide and support the child.
@Marie2473 (8517)
• Sweden
10 May 07
That is good to hear. Maybe he will help more in the future, maybe he has like someone said grown up, even just a little =)
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@4cuteboys (4102)
• United States
27 May 07
That's good news! During my long divorce my ex didn't send child support, and give me money for anything, it was awful. Now years later, he sends $300 more a month than the child support order states, buys them things all year round and has it sent here, and although we haven't had any out of pocket medical yet, I don't believe he would give me a hard time about getting his portion of the money. I hope not anyways. It's a nice change. It's weird how they sometimes won't mind and sometimes they do. I wish they would be more consistant, it would be nice to know what to expect! Anyways I am happy he chipped in, and I hope he keeps it up for ya!
• China
11 May 07
waww,.. that's nice to hear ^^ so ur ex showed up the next day bringing $100 money for ur daughter glasses rite ?? nice ** u can save ur money because of this ^^ congrats **
@huilee (1007)
• Singapore
11 May 07
well, i guess people do grow and learn from their mistakes... maybe he's guilty strikes and he realised he should do something for her? its good tt he is willing to share the load... =)
@mari123 (1862)
• China
11 May 07
everything happen out your expect.i am unluck to use my money,i cann't save money,when go shopping,i always be over my budget,and when i have money,i can buy some things,and the money used quickly,when i have no money,i will save money.so what can i do ?
• United States
11 May 07
I hope he has changed. It sounds like he has. Thats really great. I'm happy for you and your daughter. Maybe you should have for $150 instead??
@icequeen (2841)
• Canada
10 May 07
That's great. He is her father too. I think he should help you out when you need it....and if you can come to an understanding with money that would be good...maybe things will change and he will start to play more of a role in her finances and life...