Do you give up after rejection?

@mssnow (9493)
United States
May 10, 2007 10:37am CST
If you were rejected would you give up or keep fighting?? I will keep fighting for a while. In love if I care for someone I will try for a while till I get hurt then i will give up. Oh, but they will know that their loss is big. Maybe they won't care but they will know lol Jobs I usually try a couple of times if I get rejected after the third time I go on to someone else. I just figure it wasn't my job. Life: if life ever rejects me i will fight to the end. because even though life is perfect, it is my life and I don't want it to end. How about you, Do you give up or fight/?
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@wolfie34 (26791)
• United Kingdom
10 May 07
Exactly that's the way to think, it's their loss! They are missing out NOT you! Give someone a chance if they take it then great, if not, move on! I am getting constantly rejected going for jobs of late, but I have to brush myself down and get back up there and try, try, try again, I believe it's the three Ps: PATIENCE - PERSISTANCE AND PERSERVERANCE It's easy to give up! I just wish I could take a leaf out of my own good meaning book x
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@mssnow (9493)
• United States
10 May 07
I wish you could too wolfie :P:P
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@mummymo (23707)
10 May 07
can I jump in here and say I wish you would too sweetie! I wish we could make you see how wonderful we know you are - right snow? We know you are a fantastic human being and anyone who rejects you sweetheart is just plain stupid! xx
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@mssnow (9493)
• United States
10 May 07
Yep thats is right. Wolfie opne your eyes and look with your heart. I think you know :)
@Darkwing (21588)
10 May 07
This depends, in love, whether I think, or know the person loves or even cares for me, and circumstances have caused the rejection rather than dislike. That's how it happened to me a little while ago... or a few times, with the same person, in fact. I wait, and hope, give him his freedom and just drop him an occasional card in the e-mail, and as of yet, he's always come back to me. Sometimes, I'm not so sure he doesn't do it for my own good. He's seemingly had some bad news about his cancer, and I think trying to protect me from too much pain, if he has to leave this World. Still, I won't walk away... I've told him that, but I won't front him when he's moody, because he needs space. Like you say, he starts to realise what he's throwing away after five years. In a job? They'll only reject me once, and I'm off! lol.
@mssnow (9493)
• United States
10 May 07
wow thats exactly what i am going through right now. But i haven't known this person as long. You have inspired me to keep trying. Thanks my friend *hugs*
@Darkwing (21588)
10 May 07
You're very welcome my friend. How coincidental that you and I are suffering the same heartache. He's back talking to me again, but I haven't met up with him for a while yet. I suspect he gets tired very easily, so I just have to hold on and hope that someday soon, he will feel up to meeting up with me. Good luck, Snow... if it's worth fighting for... then fight!
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@mssnow (9493)
• United States
10 May 07
Oh Im glad he is back for you :)Good luck to you too :)
@gabs8513 (48710)
• United Kingdom
10 May 07
Sweetie I keep fighting and have done for many years it is hard but it is the only way to live Life now as no matter what it is you have to fight for what you want and what you are entitled to I am glad that you are a fighter to
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@mssnow (9493)
• United States
10 May 07
I am glad you are a fighter too Gabs, There needs to be more people like us in the world :):)
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@gabs8513 (48710)
• United Kingdom
11 May 07
Yes there does lol
@mummymo (23707)
10 May 07
It depends on the circumstances snow but normal;y I will fight for what I want espescially if it is something or someone important to me! When I encounter rejection in something that is not so important or when I know that I am not going to change someones mind then I don't fight on and will be hurt and upset for a while and then I will make myself believe that they are the ones that are losing out - not me! Sometimes it just is not worth putting yourselves through more pain!
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@mssnow (9493)
• United States
10 May 07
Oh yes i agree. when i know for sure they are gonna be stubborn and not give in I wil give up. But i don't make believe that its their loss IT IS their loss. lol
@aprilgrl (4460)
• United States
10 May 07
It hurts when you get rejected but I don't give up and just keep trying.
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@mssnow (9493)
• United States
10 May 07
Good to hear you wont give up :) hugs
@mari123 (1862)
• China
11 May 07
rejection is common in our life,when you are a seller man,you should be treating with the buyer rejection,and you head must be hard.when someone graduate from college,they must be finding a job,and with the competition social,you can be rejected by the company when you have not ability.so we must be learn and tolerance rejection.
@twils2 (1812)
• United States
11 May 07
I wouldnt say that I give up all together. Like if we were talking about love, I would probably give up on that particular girl and move on to the next because it takes two and if one's heart wasnt in to it, whats the point. With work, I have never put to much time on trying to convince one company to hire me. When I was unemployed I always had a few dozen apps floating around and I would call back weekly. If I found out that I might die from something, I think I would fight tooth and nail. I think I have more pataints than most and eventually I get what I need, just need to stick with it. Terry.
@sukumar794 (5047)
• Thiruvananthapuram, India
10 May 07
Getting rejected...it is unwise. Keep moving ,life doesn't end up as you fear it to be.
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@stephcjh (32327)
• United States
10 May 07
If I was rejected, I would definitely keep fighting for what I want. I have been there and done that several times already anyway. I didn't always win what I was after but I kept trying until I got at least what I deserved. In a realtionship, I really try hard to make it work and it takes a long time for me to accept if it isn't going to. In a job, I will try for so long and then I am done. I never give up on anything that I am after or want. I always strive for the best out of life, no matter what I have to go through.
@Whisp1976 (488)
• United States
11 May 07
If it is a job I may try again a few times. If it is an affair of the heart I would walk away after the first time. I have pride and self respect. Begging for love from somebody who does not feel it makes you look pathetic and desperate. You can't make somebody love you.
• United States
11 May 07
Reading that back it looks kind of harsh and like it is directed at you. Sorry for that,it isn't. I speak of myself only. Your take on not giving in is a good one if applied to trying for jobs and in life generally. I just choose not to do it with romantic relationships. Have a great evening.
• United States
27 Dec 07
It just depends on how many times i have been rejected. Usually i will keep trying a few more times before i give up completely. I never give up on the first try.
@lorelai (1558)
• Italy
10 Dec 07
I fight for people that I love but only if I know that I still have chance to win. I know people who let the best things in life fade away just because they don't fight for them. There's this friend of my boyfriend who tells me about his ex girlfriend each time he gets drunk. To make it short he left her...I don' remember why but it was some kind a guy pride thing, so now he is sorry he did it and although it's been like 5 years from that he never had a serious relationship after that. I know people who fight too much. I had this boyfrined who just wouldn't wanna let me go. I broke up with him after few months of dating and he just couldn't except that because as he said he loved me too much. Anyway, for almost 2 months after that he was calling me and begging me to go back with him. I think we all need to know when to stop.
@ebtenorio (765)
• Philippines
19 Nov 07
It is actually hard for me to give up. Reject me over and over again, I will still continue this noble thing I have been doing for that someone for the past years now... LOVE
@fengbo (731)
• China
22 May 07
I absolutely agree with you,in different things we make different decide.but sometimes i choose to give up in love.In my opinion like is like,love is love.the love depend on feelings,it is not reluctant.In the job, i will choose fighting.i believe that i worked hard there will be a successful day.
@kishusia (1069)
• India
17 May 07
People should keep up fighting.
@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
11 May 07
Hello,mssnnow,if you are talking about my attitude toward my life generally,i can tell you i will not give up. If you are talking about jobs,if i am rejected by someone,i will try even harder for another one. For love,i did not have any experience being rejected as i did not take the active role in dating.lol.
@msjigga (866)
• United States
11 May 07
I use to be the person who never ever gave up no matter what. Because I was always told by my Mother to never give up keep trying. I have learned that there is power in rejection sometimes. My father always told me if a man rejects you than to move on because you cannot change the heart of a man you are wasting your time, and putting yourself up for getting taken advantage of. I did not believe him.I had to learn that he was telling the truth the hard way. I was so into this guy who kept rejecting me so I kept trying.I was doing everything I could to get him into me. Finally I succeeded he agreed to go out with me I was so excited. He went out with me a couple of times I ended up sleeping with him (he was terrible) and spending alot of money trying to keep him into me on clothes for me and him, hair, nails, video games for him, cologne for him, and alot of other stuff, I even paid for us to go on a trip together. He took complete advantage of the love I had for him. He ended up leaving with alot of credit card debt, and for another women who did not try nearly as hard as I did to keep him,nor did she act like she was interested in him, he actually took care of her and is still with her. Rejection is Power!I sure wish I would listened to my Dad. You can change a women's heart women do not always be into a guy at 1st then he does things to impress us and all of the sudden we are interested in him. I will try again in almost anything else but not for love... That was 4 years ago and I am still paying for that mistake.
• India
11 May 07
there is a proverb called"Try try untill you success"i never give up after rejection,though i have always got what i have got,but regardig love and all not yet experienced,i would like to suggest everyone to be confident in whatever situation.
• India
11 May 07
never ever give up .thats the true way to live life dont think what the other loosi by rejecting you you only think what u were going to achieve and what u can achieve now always remember its better to loose then to get defeated
@whyaskq (7531)
• Singapore
11 May 07
If it is obviously a lose-lose situation to me, the decision is obvious. If there is no point fighting for, why fight. I will just keep quiet or give in. I get my peace and I rest in peace. Those around me will certainly appreciate my decision as they are spared too of the ordeal.