Doctor going too far

@soccermom (3198)
United States
May 11, 2007 2:17pm CST
My hubby finally went to the doctor, he's been having back pains and went to get checked out. Same as with me last month he got a lecture, or should I say a counseling session on our personal life. We love this doc, but geez. He told my hubby we needed to start going to church, my hubby said we send the kids to a church with our in laws and the doctor told him this church was a fellowship, and the only real religon was the Catholic religon and we should start going back to the Catholic church. I was offended when my hubby relayed this info, but hubby brushed it off. When do you think a doctor takes it too far?
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@SpitFire179 (2536)
• Canada
11 May 07
I think for sure this doctor is taking it way way to far, as soon as he exceeds what will help you or make you worse medically, he's going way out of his limits, and has no right, i think that he needs to be told that this is not doctor practice, and that he needs to turn him self around unless he wants to change couriers into counsellings. I would tell him that :P
• Canada
11 May 07
Oh boy.... Maybe it's best then when you go in there next if you continue going is to ask him to no longer bring it up, or you will be switching or something to that aspect... If it's not something you want to put up with then let him know that, because i find it very rude, religious or not, he has no right to bring up religion in a doctors appointment, even if he did take an oath, unless someone asks about it...
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@soccermom (3198)
• United States
11 May 07
I think part of the problem lies in the fact that his office is affiliated with the Catholic run hospital, and he took an oah to abide by Catholic teachings. This is the first time he has brought God into the usual talk, and I'm pretty shocked. My hubby says if we continue to go there (my whole family has since my mom was a child) this is what we should expect.
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@PsychoDude (2013)
• Netherlands
11 May 07
It isn't allowed for a doctor to do that, religion should stay out of his consults and definitely is one of the things when for me a doctor goes too far.
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@soccermom (3198)
• United States
11 May 07
My doctor is based out of a catholic run hospital, I really am unsure how to explain it. Like when I had my tubes tied I had to go to a different hospital and have a different doctor do the procedure because it is not allowed in my usual hospital. No birth control can be prescribed unless there is a problem with the menstual cycle, it can't be prescribed strictly for birth control. I value my doctor, he's a great guy, but I don't think he had a right to bring religious values into it.
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• United States
11 May 07
That is CRAZY, yes, this doctor has crossed the line, discussions on religion is over the line of duty, his concerns should be on his health not what his religion is, how dare him, I would stop going to such a doctor, you want someone concerned for your health not whether you go to church or not.
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@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
11 May 07
I would have been offended also. the doctor had no right to tell you to go to church. I send my daughter to church also with my mom sometimes but it does not mean that I have to go. I do not make my daughter go either. I was raised to go to church but church isn't what it used to be any more. I read my bible at home and I talk to the lord every day in my own way. My husband would have said the same thing.
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
11 May 07
yes your dr went too far...he has really no right to tell you what to do unless it directly affects your health such as over eating etc...
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• United States
11 May 07
I had the same experience with my eye doctor (who was also my bishop in my church). Anyway, He was a close friend of our family so I didn't want to offend him by going to a different doctor. I decided that the best thing to do was to realize that he did not make the decisions for me and my family. I don't let it bug me anymore. It really isn't any of your doctor's business but people are going to say what they want to say. Just worry about things that you can control.
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
11 May 07
Well I would say I would change my Doctor Sorry Soccermom but I do not believe the Doctor had any right to tell your Hubby what to do in his Personal Life if it was not related to the Complaint that your Hubby had
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@emeraldisle (13139)
• United States
11 May 07
He's crossing lines here. Your husband went in about his back not seeking religious or theraputic sessions with him. He should have left it alone and just helped him with his medical problems. Whether or not it's a Catholic based hopsital and facility he should know have crossed those lines.
@Destiny007 (5805)
• United States
11 May 07
I think he crossed the line. He is supposed to be a health professional and not a priest.
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• Philippines
11 May 07
Your forgot that he's in his clinic and not in the pulpit.He's crossed the line. You should tell him to stick to his profession and leave the worshiping to his patients.
• Canada
11 May 07
I think the doctor went WAY too far with this. Since when has Religion been a part of their consultations? I don't blame you for being offended, and I really think a phone call to him to complain about this may be in order. I'm sure the Doctor probably doesn't realize that he went too far, but even if he did, he should be given a chance to apologize. If he doesn't then I guess the decision rests with you as to whether to let this go, and whether to try and take it further, although I'm not too sure what you could do.
@Gumball (793)
• United States
11 May 07
You could report him to the AMA. He has no business butting into something like that.
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@soccermom (3198)
• United States
11 May 07
I couldn't report him gumball because I know he didn't mean any harm by his remarks, he genuinely cares for me and my family. However, I might say something to him on my next visit about the religious remarks. He has said a lot of things that I haven't asked to but needed to hear over the years, I just don't remember this being one of them.
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@Gumball (793)
• United States
11 May 07
Do you socialize with him outside of the office? Because when he's in the office, personal remarks are out of line.
@whywiki (6066)
• Canada
11 May 07
I think he took things too far. Religion has nothing to do with physical health. In Canada we are short of family Doctors so I am afraid if my Dr. did the same thing I would just have to grin and bare it. If Doctor's were easy to come by and mine did that I would go to another Dr.
• Canada
11 May 07
uh which part of Canada do you live in? There's many many family doctors available, it's just to find the one you like, jeeze if your scared of your family doctor just call 401-link and they'll get you the phone numbers and names of all the local available family doctors, then you can go making appointments. That's what i did.
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@wachit14 (3595)
• United States
11 May 07
From your post, I would say that this doctor definitely went too far and crossed over from a professional to a personal relationship. As well as you might know him and as comfortable as he may feel with you, when he is being your doctor, he should act like your doctor and nothing more or less.
@deebomb (15304)
• United States
11 May 07
This Dr. has gone too far. We have a Dr in our church and he told us about a dying patent. He wanted to us pray for. He said the only thing he could do was offer to pray with the man and if the man didn't want him to that was all hw could do was to offer. Now I know that is different from you situatioon but I just useing it as an example of what a Dr. can and can not do.
• United States
12 May 07
Sounds like your doctor is one of the ones to be avoided. Doctors should not mix religion with the medical profession as there could be some procedures that are necessary but the doctor does not tell you or perform them as it could be in conflict with his religious beliefs.
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@soccermom (3198)
• United States
12 May 07
I'm not too sure he'd withhold medical treatment. He wasn't happy when I decided to get my tubes tied, but he still reffered me to a great doc that did it at another hospital. Still, I'm going to have a talk with him because although most times I appreciate his input, and my hubby did need to hear alot of the things he said, I could've done without the religion.
• United States
22 May 07
Lol thats kinda funny. I've never met a doctor like that ....Perhaps you should get a different one. I'm a doctor myself from Australia(now in the US and feeling depressed because I have sit my boards all over again) and you can't impose your personal beliefs on others.
• United States
12 May 07
i'd tell him point blank stop the lectures,i'm an adult,or i'll find another doctor. i had a doctor that did this every time i came in (though not a lecture of a religious nature)and i finally did stop going to him.
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@tinamwhite (3252)
• United States
12 May 07
I think that your doctor is over stepping his boundaries...between this vist and yo ur last visit....it may be time to start looking for a new doctor....he does not seem to be able to figure out that you are paying him for his professional "medical" input and that he is not your marriage counselor or your priest. I know that you have been going to him for a long time; and it is difficult to find a new doctor that you feel comfortable with...but he does not seem to be able to keep his mind on your health issues...while my family's doctor and I share conversations that are not about health alone...she would never dispense the type of "advice" that your doctor appears to be so "free" with. Just my thoughts, my friend.
@Writerbob (572)
• United States
22 May 07
Ask him in the case of fairness that you will attend Catholic cult (er, church) if he will accompany your family to one of the following: 1. Church of Scientology 2. Rastafarian Church 3. Church of Satan Maybe that will stop the needling!