she just keep silent,how could i do?
By kming52
@kming52 (280)
China
May 12, 2007 4:12am CST
i am in courting of a girl,she is beautiful.we were classmates in junior high school about 7 years ago.And we havn't met each other in later 7 years until in last Spring Festival .She is very nice ,and we have met when applying for our Driver's Licenses.That's quite a fortunate meeting,we have talked a lot ,and have spent a graceful time.
And right now,four months later,we were seperated because she have to go on working in Shanghai,and i have to go on with my study in Tianjin City.
last month,i went to Shanghai,but unfortunately i didn't met her.I think it's my fault of no daring seeing her right then.I felt quite regret.
i am a man shy very much.and right now she is neither very zealous nor too dosolate in responding my words throgh the phone which maybe the only way we could keep in touch with.
i feel quite annoyed right now ,pls give me some adives,ok?
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16 responses
@varunoberoi (266)
• India
13 May 07
well... why dont you give her a call.. try to be casual and talk about things like her work.... show her that you wanna know more about her... so that she might sak you the same stuff... just let her do the talking actually... if she starts once ... she will keep going...
@yanjiaren (9031)
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12 May 07
AH Chinese men, they are so shy man!
You have to get on with it and tell her straight otherwise nothing will ever happen, you do nothing, she is a girl, so it's even worse, will not do anything..nothing will happen like this. Tell her straight. I was the one that said I like you to my Husband first.Well that was by email, I fell in love from the first time I looked at the pic, so you don't just sit there and wallow in self pity, you phone her up and ask her if she likes you too. What have to to loose? Thw worst that could happen is that she says no, at least you will not die with the regret of never telling her. Then you can move on to stage two, with or without her.
Oh we need to wake up my Chinese Dragons lol. That is why my Husband loves me, He says he would have been miserable and alone without my fire lol.
I love Shy men, that is why I find Chinese Men the most attractive lol. But I amn a fireball xilaren lol.
@kming52 (280)
• China
14 May 07
Thank you very much for response,yanjiaren.I have phoned her last night,and we hold a not short conversation.It's really fortunately that we have decided to visit my village where i was born by the end of this year.And she will visit my family as well.that is pretty nice.I think we could be very lovable to each other.Everytime i see her or hear the voices and recieve letters from her ,i feel pretty happy and brightly.
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@yanjiaren (9031)
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14 May 07
Tai hao le!! I am so happy, look at me and my Husband, we are thousands of miles apart and yet we are so close. He says to me that he loves me for my fire because no woman had the strength or patience to deal with such a situation. So I pray to God you get together forever soon, please pray for me too, I need it. I miss him so so much!
@kming52 (280)
• China
14 May 07
yes,i will pray for you and your permanant love .I feel quite happy today.I will work hard and then find a job in Shanghai .It's really a good idea.We can be together then.I will miss her everyday .thank you again,yanjiare!You are a very good kind lady,it's a great honor of me being one of your friends!
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@dixielol (1579)
• United States
13 May 07
Well, I am not sure if I understood your correctly or not. But are you saying that when you call her she doesnt talk to you? Is it possable that she isn't as interested in you as you are her? I think you should ask her straight out if she likes you or not. Then maybe agree to meet on the weekend in a location that is half way between were you are & were she is. do this for a while & find out how much you 2 really like each other. If it is alot then maybe she can find work closer to you or when you get done with your school you could move closer to her. Just make sure that you want to be together enough that you would be willing to move closer together.
@kming52 (280)
• China
14 May 07
Thank you for your zealous response.It's a great encouragement of me .Thank god as well.I have a good news to tell you that she have given me a positive response last night .It is through the phone that she told me that she will be happy to visit my family and my village where i was born.She just gave this great news when i phoned her last night.I feel quite happy today,and i will give my sincere thanks to you here in mylot.
@maildumpster (3815)
• United States
17 May 07
Write her a letter. Tell her how you feel. Tell her you miss her. Explain yourself. Tell her to call you so you can resume your relationship.
@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
25 Aug 07
Write her a letter telling of your feelings - I would be old fashiioned and write it on paper but the internet is fine too. Then ask her in writing what her feelings are. If she is shy as you are this will make it easier. Plus you will have given her a memento she can save forever, maybe show her children.
My husband is Chinese and he too is a bit shy. It was hard for him even to get, "I love you." out the first time. He was like, there's something I want to say to you but...
@innechen (1318)
• Indonesia
12 May 07
as a man you have to encourage yourself 1st if u really love her and didnt want to lose her.talk to her on the phone and tell her that you want to talk about something important then arrange the time to meet her face to face, because you better talk to her about your feeling face to face.if you didnt do it right away then ur chance will getting smaller and smaller.good luck
@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
12 May 07
Love takes time and it is hard to have a long distance relationship as you do, but not impossible! Never impossible! Just be patient and call her as often as possible, email her when you can, I know you say you are shy, maybe if you email her of your feelings you can't be interrupted and it will be easier for you to write everything down and then you will be able to say everything you want to say to her. Then she knows how important she is to you! I think this is very important especially when you live so far away. But don't push too hard, or you will push her away. Take care and good luck! Women are very difficult creatures but worth the fight!
@shak143 (1280)
• India
12 May 07
Your in love with her and you want her as your life partner if it is dare it man and tell her about your feelings dont dealy.If you won't try to her feelings about you as you said your in thouch wiht her through phones then take a chance and ask her what she thoughts about you.She may give a positive response and mean while give you will get some courage and defenetly you will tell her.
Because your are 7 years apart and now also so it's difficult to say that she is in love with though after 7 years depart she responds you so friendly.so first know what she feels about you and then proceed.
@morefashion (54)
• China
13 May 07
You can tell her the reason why you didn't met her,i think she
will forgive you.I think this is the best method to resolve it.
The other method is you don't tell her the truth that you have
gone to shanghai,and foget the think has happened.
@mostwanted47 (259)
• Pakistan
12 May 07
Oh dear oh dear. Try to be normal and be confident. Tell your crush about your feelings about her as soon as possible. Do it either by internet or cell and if you really love her, you'd have to sacrifice your interests for the time being, go to the place where is she resided and meet her, tell her everything. Get married to her if she agrees and then think about your future goals vice versa and if for some unavoidable reasons she cant make it with you, then atleast you'd know about it and be able to overcome your emotions. Time heals everything.
@a_robinnep (529)
• Nepal
12 May 07
If you both love each other than u will think about marriage, otherwise you both connect through the internet. if she is not ready to talk with you pls try to understood about your feelings.
@imalady_me85 (218)
• Philippines
12 May 07
you know what? love is just a matter of space and right timing... and if you two are really meant for each other, no matter what happens love will lead you both to each others arms in no time. it doesnt have to be who should take the first move because everything and everyone today are equal and that include men and women...and if she doesnt responded to you the way you want her to respond then just let it be... let her realize that you are just there in times she needs you this would let her realized your worth...
