Foul language? cursing, cussing, potty mouth?

@miamilady (4924)
United States
May 12, 2007 7:58am CST
Do you catch yourself using foul language or is it something that you are offended by? I hate to admit that I have a horrible potty mouth. The good news is that I can usually control it under most circumstances. The bad news is that I don't control it in front of my children. Do you curse? Is it something you only do around certain people? If you don't, how offended are you when others curse in front of you?
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@Darkwing (21587)
12 May 07
I can control it most of the time, but I only use the occasional, not too bad words anyway. I'm not really offended when others use bad language, but sometimes I cringe a little when the youngsters use it every second or third word. There is no need for this. They should be able to express themselves without using bad language and sometimes I mention it to them. There are a couple of words I particularly hate, and I just have to tell them not to use. Otherwise, I'm pretty easy going, and literate enough not to have to swear to often myself. lol
@miamilady (4924)
• United States
12 May 07
I volunteer in my daughters middle school and when I hear the kids cursing, it bothers me. I am not a person that is easily offended, but sometimes I am taken aback. I do remember it was the same when I was that age. Many of my friends cursed and sometimes (although not often) I did so with disregard to the adults around me. I didn't do it in front of teachers and I only slipped in front of my parents once or twice. So I try to remember that when I hear youngsters now but it still gets to me. Now I curse as an adult and I think my son is starting to pick up on that. I think he's also getting it from his friends. This problem is starting to make me thing my use of bad language. I don't want people to perceive him as a hoodlum or anything along those lines. I am literate enough not to curse, I think it's just a bad habit.
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@Darkwing (21587)
12 May 07
Oh, I certainly agree with you at that age, that they shouldn't be using bad language at all. I was talking more of twenty to twenty-seven year olds. Sorry, I call them kids and youngsters because my kids are older than them. lol.
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@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
12 May 07
Hello,miamilady,i will never swear in front of people,i will swear in my mind and never speak it out. It is not a good thing to swear in front of your children as they may have learnt and followed it from you. I do not mind other people cursing in front of me,i i will stay calm as cursing back may only worsen the sitation.
@miamilady (4924)
• United States
12 May 07
Yes, your right about cursing in front of my children. I am starting to see that in my son. I am going to try to stop cursing now.
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@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
12 May 07
Good to hear that.
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@charms88 (7540)
• Philippines
12 May 07
Oh no, I never cursed at other people. Only in my mind. It isn't my nature to do so. I have to admit though that I detested cursing or using foul languages. I have heard from some people inserting cursed words while having a normal conversation. I had a girl friend who also loves cursing. I always told her right away that I'm having a headache again.
@ESKARENA1 (18298)
12 May 07
i only get annoyed when people use foul language if they are using it as punctuation. When used this way it debases the English language and displays the user as someone who is inarticulate and of low intelligence. However, there are times when I feel full expressions of emotion can only be effectively performed by the use of profanity. I guess it is a good thing in the right place at the right time blessed be
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@stephcjh (32327)
• United States
12 May 07
I am mostly offended by foul language. I hardly ever cuss but when I do, it isn't with really foul language and I try to be very discrete with it. I know alot of people who have a potty mouth and sometimes it offends me and other times it is funny with the way they use the words and say them. I try not to cuss at all around my daughter but sometimes it is uncontrollable with the situation and the timing.
@lightningMD (5932)
• United States
12 May 07
I very rarely ever curse. In my head I do at times but not outloud. I'm not usually offended by others cursing unless it is really bad and around kids. I made a real effort to stop swearing about 10 years ago and it has worked.
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@hari120 (623)
• India
12 May 07
Honestly in my entire life i have never used any bad words on anybody, i always try to avoid such situations or simply tell the other person that i do not agree with him.
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@shorva (923)
• Philippines
12 May 07
I do swear when I get really really upset but I don't and never swear at someone, never. Although when I talk to my hubby and my friends and try to be funny I sometimes intentionally curse, you know just for the heck of it, but I would avoid using words like this in front of kids.
@miamilady (4924)
• United States
12 May 07
I have also cursed for shock value and to get a laugh. Although I curse in front of my own children, I try not to curse in front of other people's children.
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@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
24 May 07
When I was younger I was a real potty mouth...now that I'm older the only time I really get bad is when I lose my temper. Then all bets are off and I'm worse than a sailor. Certain swear words I won't even use when I'm mad...don't ask me why but they just really offend me. Most of the time I'm really good about controlling my language. LIVE IN PEACE
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@inked4life (4226)
• United States
19 Jul 07
I gotta be honest, I have a pretty foul mouth on me. I grew up in a particularly unpleasant part of Scotland where everyone talked that way and I picked it up there. I know as an adult I could probably nip it in the bud but I'm really not offended by bad language. I try to be careful around my kids but when I do let slip they are the first ones to get on my case about it.
@miamilady (4924)
• United States
19 Jul 07
It's nice to know I'm not alone. I'm so glad someone brought this discussion back to life. I'd forgotten about it. I think I've added some friends since this was first started. Thanks for your response.
@Stiletto (4584)
20 May 07
I have to admit I swear like a trooper at times although obviously there are times and places I wouldn't swear - in front of children, people I don't know, at work etc. For some reason I tend not to swear when I lose my temper but instead I become very, very polite which is how my friends can usually tell I'm about to tear into someone! People swearing in front of me doesn't bother me at all - as long as they're not swearing AT me of course. It's obviously a bad habit but it's just sometimes there aren't polite alternatives that have the same impact - I mean "go away" just lacks the same force as the "F" word doesn't it?
@miamilady (4924)
• United States
21 May 07
Yes it does! lol
@Woodpigeon (3710)
• Ireland
13 May 07
I am not at all offended when people curse in front of me. I find it very amusing when it is someone who normally would never dream of cursing and the situation gets the better of them and they let rip. It's like they have done soemthing soooo naughty, they can scarecly believe it! Hilarious! I curse from time to time. I consider my collection an inheritance from my dad. He had some unusual ones!
@miamilady (4924)
• United States
14 May 07
You would be very amused by me, then.
@KaraLee (460)
• United States
12 May 07
I have been known to drop the F-Bomb every now and then but Im really making a conscious effort to pull in the reigns and quit the cussing. My hubby on the other hand, his mouth is terrible, I think hearing him say certain things is like a daily reminder for me to watch my language lol. You never realise how bad it sounds till you hear it come out of someone elses mouth!
@miamilady (4924)
• United States
13 May 07
So true. Hearing a family member spouting curse words makes you realize how terrible it sounds. Good luck with your efforts!
@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
12 May 07
Well, truthfully, I come from a long line of cussers. I can remember my grandmother used to let loose a string of words that would make us run for cover.LOL Seriously, it has been a problem that I have struggled to overcome all my life. Now that I've gotten older I manage to keep it under control most of the times-unless I'm made really angry. Then again it could be because I live alone now and there's not always someone around to get on my nerves.
@miamilady (4924)
• United States
13 May 07
Anger seems to bring out the worst in my vocabulary as well. I'm going to try working on that though.
• United States
12 May 07
I take it you've obviously never been inside a Wal-Mart and listening to parents and their kids talking to each other.
@miamilady (4924)
• United States
13 May 07
lol I live in Miami. I've heard it in lots of places. I don't think I've ever heard it in Wal-Mart though. I admit I'm a bit hypocritical about this. It sometimes shocks and offends me when I hear others cursing (it depends on the situation) yet I am guilty of it myself. I am going to make an effort to quit or at least cut back. I really don't like hearing those words coming out of my son's mouth. I don't want to continue setting a bad example. Thanks for your response.
• Austria
12 May 07
I curse, but I usually don't when my mom or in laws are around, or other people's kids. And I don't curse a lot, but sometimes when something bugs me a lot, I must make use of cursing. I sometimes curse around my own kids and they sometimes curse too. I don't care if they curse, but I want them to know when it is not okay, like at grandma's house or at school. I want them to respect that some people are offended by it and don't want to hear it. But at the same time people have to accept that I do curse, it's who I am. Many things coming out of peoples mouths are offensive without cursing, sexist, racism, bushism, so really the occasional F word is ok by me. There are worse things than cursing
@miamilady (4924)
• United States
13 May 07
Good point about other things that can be offensive.
@gradyslady (4055)
• United States
18 Sep 07
My dad always swore around us when we were younger, so I picked it up at a very young age. So yeah I have a potty mouth. I wish I didn't, I try to control it, but it's pretty much when I get really really angry, that's when I start swearing.
@kamran12 (5555)
• Pakistan
20 Jul 07
Hello miamilady! I do not curse or use foul language. I had a habit of using one abusive word in my teenage but my parents helped me getting rid of it. Now, I never use any such words, neither in my real life nor online. I use one word now when I am angry which is rare though but that words is not technically an abuse or foul. Certain application of it is considered a bit aggressive but not an abuse as such. I do get offended when someone else abuse me or use a foul word but that's too is rare. I usually always am surrounded by nice people so it's not a real worry for me as such. When someone uses such type of word I ask him/her not to use that word, most of the time people listen. Few times when they don't listen I would walk away normally and very rarely it has happened that I confronted the person in question. I sure try and wish that I keep myself away from it.
@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
19 Jul 07
OK, I'll come clean, miamilady, I do have a fould mouth on certain occasions. It's usually when I am talking to my best friend; we always talk in a no-holds-barred manner. Anyway, it's just us girls having fun. About the only other time I cuss is when someone really pi$$es me off. There is a time and place for everything. I have no problem with cussing, in general, but I have heard some people get so low-down with it that it burned my ears. That's where I draw the line.
@LittleMel (14033)
• Canada
19 Jul 07
it depends I think. I used to work in a place where someone keeps using the f word in between words, like this is another f job and that f guy is not doing his f job, what a f ******* I ended up using f word too, not as much, but when things go wrong and I'm all stressed out with the deadline. but then I move to another place and in this place nobody use f word, so I just don't and somehow I find another way to express my anxiety at work when I talk.