When i was a kid, i do compare my parents with other parents!

kids do compare their parents. - kids and parents
@Augustta (1860)
Poland
May 13, 2007 11:44am CST
...Like, "her parents let her do it, why cant i do it?","her mom bought her this, i want it also"...but later on as i mature, i figure out that everything is different depends on the situation. so there is basically nothing to compare. i may not like the decision they make, but i should respect them cause they are my parents and do what is best for me. Just as much as parents compare kids, kids do compare their parents...what do you think?
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
13 May 07
I'm not sure whether I should reply, because I don't want to come off as whining again. =p I know as a kid I did compare my parents to others. I was very jealous of kids who lived with their parents and were taken care of by them. Every time the school had an event that parents came to, I remember wondering if I would be the only kid with no parents there, or if my mother would show up high or something. I know a lot of kids who use the "But my friend's parents let them do it!" when they want to get their way. It is hard having different standards than the parents of your children's friends, and I'm sure this is something I'll have to deal with someday with my own child. I think there's just as much comparing of parents that goes on among kids as comparing of kids among parents.
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@KissThis (3006)
• United States
14 May 07
I agree with you. Its only naturally to compare and try to figure out if you are being treated fairly. My son and I had this discussion earlier tonight. He didn't feel that he got treated as nicely as his siter did. He didn't think that it was fair that she had a digital camera and he didn't. I pointed out to him what his age was and what her age was. And how he usually got the same gifts that his sister got only he got his a year later.
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@bruxedo (773)
• France
13 May 07
I think that's true. I have made that comparisons also and sometimes I also thought that they could't be my real parents that I was adopted by them or something like it.. but I also think that it was important for me to think those kind of things to end some years later thinking that they were right making it or that I still can't agree with them, but I'm sure that they thought it was the right thing for me when they made that decision. It's the always growing capacity that we earn with age.
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@gabs8513 (48710)
• United Kingdom
13 May 07
Yes Sweetie Ihave to agree with you there But I have to say and this is the Honest truth I have only once compared my Child and that was my Daughter She was such a little so and so when she was little and I saw these good little Girls and I thought now why can't my Baby like that But I would have never swopped her lol
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@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
13 May 07
Hello,augustta,when I was a kid,i had not compared my parents with other parents,i always thought they were the best in the world,it have not changed now,they are still the best. When I was a kid,I had not asked my parents to buy something just because other parents did,I was happen for ehat i had at that time.
@dbeast (1498)
• India
13 May 07
comparison is human nature.every one tends to compare each other for some reason or the other.right from the childhood till being elders.when we are in school.we compare who is better.if one person get good things we compare themselves with us and envy them.and the same things go on with kids and parents too.this comparison is god as long as it is healthy.when comparisons start hurting the feelings of the persons it can have an adverse effect on the induvidual.
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@liranlgo (5748)
• Israel
13 May 07
Are you joking my dear friend, comparing? It took my parents about ten years to convince me that they were my parents, and not my neighbors. They still tell that story to each new person that comes to their house, how their daughter was sure that she was adopted, and her real parents were the neighbors. And yes she did compare her real parents with her adapting parents..lol Of course kids compare parents, just as adults compare children and other things. But if we really look at things, it is always in the education that the parents give us, and how they react to things. I do believe that a family that do not have a tendency to compare things or people, their children will act the similar way, and families that do compare, will have children that will compare their parents and other things. Don't you think?
@jothis (519)
• India
13 May 07
This is a natural thing. Most probably it happens among children. After being mature automatically they can realise the fact.
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@shak143 (1280)
• India
13 May 07
I do compare my parents with my friends.a my parents are strict won't alow to play or to go any where as they are littel bit worry about me as they loved me very much.But my friends parents alow them to go anywher they want to do what they want. i really feel bad when i saw them playing outside and doing hum from window. But still ilove them as what they had do is for my sake only.
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@magica (3710)
• Bulgaria
13 May 07
My mother still does it.She compares me. And this has allways been a problem.She refuses to accept my individuality and still hopes to put me in her own ideal for daugher.Of course, this ideal is copied by the other daughters.They are allways BETTER. Deeply in herself may be she thinks that this will be a stimul for me or i will feel guilty.
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@aprilgrl (4460)
• United States
13 May 07
I agree. I respected my parents. As I got older I understand why they couldn't get this or that. I had some friends that had more thing that I had like you said compare them but my parents wasn't rich but they know what we need and what was best for us. I am happy with that because they loved us some kids takes advantage of their parents and get what they want (spoil)
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@rohith_p (56)
• India
13 May 07
I never compared my parents with other parents and I never will...because my parents allowed me to do whatever I wanted to do and they love me very much.
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@msjigga (866)
• United States
13 May 07
When I was kid I use to always compare my parent to other parent. I grew poor and my parents got a divorce when I was a toddler. So I would always compare my parent to my friends who had 2 parent households. I grew up having 2 addresses I hated it, summers with Dad the rest with Mom.Some holidays with Mom and some with Dad I use to wish that holidays could be spent with all of us together.
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• United States
15 May 07
I had such a horrible childhood. I always grew up comparing my parents to others. The sad part is my parents were considered the cool parents for most kids this wouldn't have been a problem but it was my biggest problem. My child now started to compare me to other childrens parents, it drives me insane.
@slickcut (8141)
• United States
15 May 07
Im sure kids do ....I don't remember comparing mine but im sure i probably did.I do remember i had a very good friend that had a real pretty mother and i always wished that my Mom looked like her.i did have a pretty mother but she was a little heavy and not in style and this friends mother was a up to date and in style ,you know real pretty and i always used to think "man your Mom is so pretty"...So yes i guess they do.
@aliasad (1567)
• Pakistan
14 May 07
Hi Augustta! What I do believe is that parents are the role model for every child. they even exaggerate, unknowingly, like "My Dad can kill a lion" lol , "My Dad can do .... this & that" & likewise. Keeping in view the thoughts of kids, being parents it is our duty to not shake the trust or image as a role model and give them confidence. I know that while kids grow up, they would also feel that what ever they claimed in childhood is not exactly the same but being proud to have a shelter and love of parents that would really be helpful in making them more confident!
@castleghost (1304)
• United States
14 May 07
Its only natural for children to notice what other childrens parents get them or do with them. They are just noticing what is going on around them. It is one of the arguments that a child uses on their parents to get something that they want or to get to do something. Everyome tries to see how others do something to see if they would like to do it the same way.
@Nardz13 (5059)
• New Zealand
14 May 07
Hi, I didnt do any of that, compare my parents to that of others, we were just greatful for having what we did back then and I teach my children the same thing, to be greatful for everything we have. They have not compared me to other parents yet, and I hope they never have a reason to do so...
• Kuwait
14 May 07
i am fully agree with Augustta. i am a mother of 2 kids and i do compare my kids with other. like how quite this child are. how he got a more number than you got. like this. but frankly telling this is not good. its hurt kids brain. we are big so we can understand that. but kids are kids. isn't it?
@Woodpigeon (3710)
• Ireland
14 May 07
I couldn't possibly compare my parents t any of the other parents because they were fairly different. I just accepted my family for he way it is, the same way I accepted my friends families, which were also different, but different in other ways than mine. The families that appeared completely normal and old fashioned were th ones I found odd, yet fascinating. I am sure my kids compare me to other parents, and sometimes I come out ahead and other times I let them down. I like to think, on the important things, they are happy. I hope!