The "Honey Do" List

United States
May 16, 2007 10:40am CST
Do you and your partner have a "honey do" list? I keep trying to add to my hubby's list and he keeps trying to find ways to not do any of it. He borrowed my vehicle. I asked him to check the water, oil and tire pressure so he would get the best gas mileage out of it for the distance that he is driving. He told me he did not have time. Excuse me!!! He did not have time! He had time to drive my vehicle. I think he can take a few minutes to check the status of the vehicle. It is not like I asked him to rebuild the thing. Well, I suppose there are some things us women have to do for ourselves. When he gets home, I will let it cool down and then I will pop the hood and check things for myself. I know he is not deliberately trying to upset me. I will put some other things on his "honey do" list and we will see if any of it gets done. (crossing fingers) LOL What do you put on the "Honey Do" list at your house??
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@alilswt (388)
• United States
16 May 07
we do not use a honey do list at all we have been married for almost 7 years and would never do that it seams degrading really just show mutual respect to each other and request things and all is well a honey do list seams like a have to do ordering around list to us so we go about things much different and it works out really well but i do agree some things a woman has to do herself but most of the time if i tell my hubby never mind i'll do it he goes and does it himself so i do not have to have you tried not using a honey do list? my friend used the honey do with her boyfriend and it did not seam to go over well ether
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• United States
16 May 07
The Term "Honey do" list is just that an expression. In NOOO way what so ever is it degrading. In marriage or any partnership there are things and responsibilities that must be attended to. I think you are doing a disservice to the author of this discussion to suggest that she is not acting in an appropriate manner towards her partner. What you are suggesting is subjection to a male and I just do not think that will go over well here.
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• United States
16 May 07
This past weekend I asked my husband to clean out the microwave for me...HA HA What he did was dismantle it, door, hinges, filters, hood piece, fans, light plates and light fixtures. OH MY gosh the kitchen was scattered with micro wave parts when I got home, it took him several hours, but clean the microwave he did. When he was trying to get it put back together he discovered he had bent a hinge on the door, that had to be straightened out, then he was putting the plates and filters back in and stuck his screw driver into the circuit panel, sparks flew out the opening and half of the house was without electricity. I was so frightened my lovely micro was not ever going to work again. With relief he got it put back together and it still works. My lesson in all of this? My "honey do" list from now on will be quite specific. When I say clean the microwave I will instead say wipe the inside of the microwave out with paper towel and 409! Nothing more :))))
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• United States
1 Jun 07
I would absolutely freak out. Mu hubby is one of those that he will take something apart and for some odd reason, when he puts it back together.......there are "spare" parts. So I do not let him touch the kitchen appliances. Many years ago, I had a boyfriend that took the toaster oven apart like your hubby did to your microwave. Scared me so bad. But he did do a good job and there were no "spare" parts. That was over 20 years ago. I guess I got my moneys worth from that toaster oven. I bought it in 1977. Boyfriend "cleaned" it in 1988. This is 2007 and it still works. I use it everyday. It only had a one year warranty on it. Sounds like I got a good deal on that one. I hope your microwave goes another 20 years after this "cleaning".
@gabs8513 (48710)
• United Kingdom
16 May 07
Well Royal there is only me so I guess that it is all down to me really lol At least I do not have the Problem of having to rely on someone to do it and get disappointed anymore lol I have to say though when my Lovely Man is here and I ask him to do something he will do it for me so I do not have that Problem as such Next time tell him that he can't borrow the car lol
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• United States
1 Jun 07
I am planning that when I get my jeep back, I am setting the alarm on it and hiding the keys so he can not take it again. LOL I love my jeep. I have been having to drive his car and I do not enjoy it at all. It makes all kinds of funny noises. It even smells funny. That is because it is not mine. LOL I miss my jeep a lot.
@sunshinecup (7880)
16 May 07
I added taking the garbage out to the trashcan on my hubby's list. After 26 years of knowing him, he suddenly revealed a phobia to garbage! Yeah he got an A for effort, but he takes that garbage out anyway. I told him he was never too old to face his fears. :-) My list is as follows and is on the fridge (I made it as a joke, but it works! LOL), I always give the “suggestions" along with support why I am asking him. 1. Put dirty clothes in the hamper - I wash clothes from there and not off the floor. 2.Take the garbage bags out to the trash can - Or I will stop collecting garbage from the house to go into those bags. 3.Lift the seat - and I won't hide the toilet paper on you. 4. Cook one meal once a week - or 7 days, your choice. 5. Cut the grass - Or cut the grass AND clean the house. Again your choice 6. If you can fix it, do so - I can do it with two books, checkbook and phonebook
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22 May 07
Hey thanks, I am honored.
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• United States
1 Jun 07
The only things I make my hubby do is the trash and mowing the grass. There are things though from time to time that creep up. Like you I expect the things to be done in a timely manner or I'll end up doing them myself. It does get frustrating. I have a procrastinator for a hubby but lately he's trying to better that about himself. Our cars luckily do well in between oil changes so we don't have to worry about that so much.
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@hoghoney (3749)
• United States
17 May 07
Hoghoney here and I have a Honey do list, LOL. If I want something done is all I have to do is say it and my honey will do it, or if I want something my honey will do his best to get it for me. My honey will do anything for me. he is the best do guy.
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@UDDERONES (888)
• United States
16 May 07
Oh my gosh yes, I have a honey do list. He hates it. But I told him this weekend I would give him a break. I have to open out pool up, put down wood floor in the bathroom, etc. etc. He hates my honey do list as he says he already has his own honey do list he maintains. LOL :-)
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@KarenO52 (2951)
• United States
16 May 07
Mine is good for any maintenance on the car, but for other things, I might have to ask him 10 times before he remembers to do it. It's usually for something very small too, and I would do it if I could, but I can't so I ask him. He just forgets. I would write him a note to help him remember, but I forget to do that. So I'm just as bad.
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@APMorison (424)
• United States
16 May 07
My hubby and I have dueling Honey-Dos - he writes mine, I write his - it seems to work for us anyway ;) however, with a previous partner the answer was nearly always "I don't have time..." but he had time for anything else under the sun - just as long as I didn't ask him to do it - or he'd do it with a serious grudge on Passive-aggressive and openly aggressive - both are possible indicators that someone is not 'happy' about something that may be completely unrelated - maybe a bit of talking is in order.
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@huilee (1010)
• Singapore
16 May 07
I guess its always like tt.. Do u do what he want u to? Sometimes we are too close we tend to forget and neglect the person's feelings... thus, i guess u shouldnt get too angry, instead... Talk to him... Thrash things out....
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