Very Strange!
@whiteheather39 (24403)
United States
May 25, 2007 8:56pm CST
Two days ago I received a very nasty, rude response to one of my recent discussion. I immediately checked the profile, it was a 25 yr old female, in the States, she had one (1) point, a generic avatar, had not opened any discussions, had only responded to one discussion (mine), became a member of myLot at the same time she responded to my discussion (one hour previously). In her response to my discussion she told me should post more interesting discussions, all I did was complain about everyone and for my age I should stop being a whiny brat etc., etc.!! I copied her response then reported her as I was really hurt and offended. I really hope I do not come across that way to you all.
MyLot deleted her response (glad I have a copy). I checked her profile again this evening and she had logged on again today but there is absolutely no activity on her profile, as her response to me has been deleted. Do you not think this is weird? I don't know this person. Do you think it would be possible for her to go into my discussions and responses and rate them (-) without responding to any? Should I be worried? I dont want my points or my star to start going down again as I was sabotaged one time before.
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@lecanis (16647)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
26 May 07
It does seem that anyone can rate whether they respond or not. However, you would think mylot would be watching her closely since her very first response was deleted, and would stop this kind of sabotage.
I can't imagine why someone would behave in such a way. When I first join any community (online or offline) I try to be nice and make friends, or at least give people a chance! I'm sorry to hear that you experienced this kind of stupidity!
I've seen you around a bit, and I don't think I've ever seen anything offensive or bratty.
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@whiteheather39 (24403)
• United States
26 May 07
Thank you for responding. I am glad you feel that way. Right after I posted this discussion I checked mt Star percentage and this morning it was 91/100 now it is 90/100. It had been 91 for ages...? So I hope you are correct. BTW your avatar is really neat.
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@lecanis (16647)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
26 May 07
Thank you! I was really excited when I learned how to animate it like that. =p
I had something like that happen to me, I was at 98 for months, and then all of a sudden at 90. Thanks to some great friends on here I'm now back to 91, but it's been weeks that I've been at that.
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@LilyoftheThorns (12918)
• United States
26 May 07
I think it is cruel and dumb when people leave rude comments about peoples discussions. And she didn't just insult yoru discussion, she actually went personal and insulted you! How terrible!
I'm glad her response got deleted, it has no place here on mylot. This is a friendly enviornment and it's good you are enforcing that!
What discussion, may I ask, did she leave this rude comment on?
It sucks that you can't stop mean people from rating your discussion negativly, but I will rate this one with a + right now! Hope it helps! :)
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@whiteheather39 (24403)
• United States
26 May 07
It was on a discussion that perhaps did come across whiny but she did make some personal remarks which upset me.
http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/1098994.aspx
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@LilyoftheThorns (12918)
• United States
26 May 07
I read that and it didn't seem whiny to me! I know EXACTLY what you were talking about. When I leave a really godo response I hope to get a nice response back from the person who started it. I often start long discussions with people who respond to my discussions, because I really do appreciate the response and I want to keep talking with them about it, instead of just saying 'thanks.'
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@jeweledbluerose (3061)
• United States
26 May 07
Some people have nothing better to do with their time than to come online and harass people. Dealt with many times no matter where I have gone online forum or chat wise. Just ignore them and eventually they'll go away. I wouldn't worry to much about your rating. I don't think it really effects your earnings. You have great discussions and many friends that do enjoy your discussions so I wouldn't worry to much about this "One" person.
I don't think you're someone who whines, believe me if I thought as such I would have dropped you as friend awhile ago. I don't take to kindly to whiners, never have, never will.
I like reading your discussions and responding if I can. To me they have always been informative in some way. And have brought on some good conversation.
Again don't worry about this person, if it gets bad your friends will come to the rescue, after all we wouldn't be very good friends if we let our friends go through stuff like this alone. We have your back.
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@whiteheather39 (24403)
• United States
26 May 07
Thank you so much Rose. You have no idea how much your response has helped me.
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@jeweledbluerose (3061)
• United States
26 May 07
You're most welcome! :) Glad to hear it has helped in some way. After all when my friends are feeling better, than I do too. My pm box is always open for friends who need to have a listening ear. If it gets to much just drop me a line or three, and I'll respond as quick as I can.
Personally I think MyLot should have some sort of system put in place that prevents trouble makers from just going around giving negative ratings just because they have have a problem with that person. One in which the person has to respond to the discussion before being able to make a rating. Or if giving a negative to someone, posting a reason why the negative rating is being giving.
Though maybe it would be best if MyLot formulated a system that gave fair ratings to members of the community depending upon the quality of the member's discussions and responses. Doing away with allowing troublemakers to just go around the site all willy nilly and mark the people negative that, they have some form of problem with.
Personally though, although I understand the reasoning behind the rating system. I really don't think it's necessary since it really don't effect anything.
@janidanielli (132)
• Canada
26 May 07
I like the idea of posting a reason for your negative. Hold people accountable for their rating. I have yet to find something that was worthy of a "-" on myLot. Not even sure what it would take to deserve one. Maybe if somebody was way off topic.
There are myLot restrictions about cutting and pasting(I can't even use this method to edit my own post), before you have 500 posts, so why not restrict other areas to prevent abuse. You should only be able to give +'s once you reach a certain reputation. For example: You need to obtain a 2 star before you can rate a negative, but you can rate +'s all you like. That way only a respected myLotter can give you a negative. I think we would all be comfortable with that.
And if you spotted an abusive post you could still report it anyway, so new users wouldn't be missing out on much.
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@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
26 May 07
All I can really say is, yes, that is weird. Why would a person take the time to sign up here just to leave one rude response and then continue to log in without doing anything else?
Would it be possible for her to give you negatives without responding? Yes, it's possible since no one has to respond to use the ratings. BUT...she would have to be able to find you first. You aren't listed anywhere in her profile anymore since her response to you was deleted. She will have to wait for a discussion of yours to show up under any interests she listed or under top/hot topics before she can get to your profile to sabotage you.
I don't think some random stranger would take that much time to come to a forum just so they could sabotage one person that they don't even know. I wouldn't worry about it if she really is a newbie, they usually take a little while to realize the rating thing anyway. I would only worry if there's a chance that she is really another user that you may have had a run in with before.
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@whiteheather39 (24403)
• United States
26 May 07
If anything else occurs I will try that but 1 point of my reputation is 1% and that equates to at least 50 negative ratings.
@whiteheather39 (24403)
• United States
26 May 07
She has absolutely nothing on her profile, no interests ...nothing. I did have a run in with another female a few days ago!!!!
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@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
26 May 07
That does make for an interesting twist! If you think there's a possibility of it being the same person, I'm pretty sure myLot can check IP addresses if you let them know to look into it.
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@LRB1111 (356)
• United States
26 May 07
I don't think you should worry. Sounds like it's just some person trying to get to you or just trying to stir up some trouble. It's seems like it was someone who just quickly created an account so that they could give that nasty response to you. Maybe someone that didn't like something you have written in the past and maybe are just vindictive about it. The person obviously has too much time on their hands and it is good that you reported them and got the response deleted. You shouldn't worry i don't think there is anything they can do. If this person started doing what you said concerning giving you negative ratings ect, i'm sure mylot people would see a pattern and the account would be deleted and your rating would not be effected because of it.
@whiteheather39 (24403)
• United States
26 May 07
Thank you perhaps it is just coincidental that my reputation went down a point today after it had stayed the same for weeks.
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@Eskimo (2315)
•
26 May 07
With only one point (from your discussion), it sounds like she's been a member before and has it in for you, otherwise how would she even know that you are a 'whiny brat, complaining about everyone' - her words not mine, as I know that you are not like that. Its possible that you've not been too happy with what she has written in the past, and this is her revenge by rejoining as someone else.
I would just try and ignore her, and complain to Mylot if she try's this again, unfortunately it won't stop her going round giving you a -ve for all your discussions and responses, however MyLot regards that as Flaming and is against MyLot rules, so should be able to stop that as well.
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@whiteheather39 (24403)
• United States
27 May 07
That is exactly what I have been thinking. Wy would she join, single me out make one nasty response if she didn't know me (or think she did). If she really new me she would know I don't take any crap and will defend myself if I am attacked for no good reason.
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@GardenGerty (157661)
• United States
28 May 07
I had not thought of someone being banned and rejoining just to stalk you.
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@whiteheather39 (24403)
• United States
28 May 07
Gerty that seems to have been the case as there has been no further activity on her profile.
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@hoghoney (3747)
• United States
26 May 07
I do believe that I have made many of post to your discussions before and I think that you have very good ones. Dont let one bad apple spoil anything for you. Keep posting discussions like you have and maybe this other person will think twice before she make another post to anyone again. Great Job.
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@whiteheather39 (24403)
• United States
26 May 07
Thank you honey! I have just had a new "honey" added to my dog family. She has been with us 10 days now and I added her photo to my profile photos.
@AmbiePam (85677)
• United States
26 May 07
MyLot says one poster cannot bring your star down or your points total down very much. In my experience, and I've had some just like yours only I didn't think MyLot would delete them so I didn't report them, they can bring your points total down a few points, but rarely does it affect your star rating unless you are already a borderline 10 or borderline 9, ect.
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@whiteheather39 (24403)
• United States
26 May 07
I was not borderling in my star (a 9) my repution was 91/100 within a few hours it went down to 90/100 wich is 1% and one perent of 5000 posts is 50 negative ratings so to me that is lot of rating . If some one with 10 star and 200 points it wpuld only take 2 negatuve ratings. You for example have 2487 points it would take 24 negatives to bring you down 1%.
@sunshinelady (7609)
• United States
26 May 07
I have read your discussions and you don't whine. You simply state things as you see them. I would keep a close eye on your points and if they started going down the first thing I would do is contact mylot and have them take care of it. It sounds to me like she is a trouble maker. We all know you and know how you are from your discussions. Keep them coming. They are good discussions.
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@whiteheather39 (24403)
• United States
26 May 07
Thank you how great it is to have friends like you guys.
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@crickethear (1417)
• United States
26 May 07
that is weird of her to do that. It makes you wonder what is going on. wait to see what happens. I can tell you this, and this came from MyLot. Your ratings won't be affected by someone giving you a negative response. The only one it will hurt is the person who gave it. MyLot agreed there were too many people giving bad ratings when they disagreed with someones view and or posting. The way it works now, is if someone does that, their own rating will go down, not yours. The only time yours will go down, is if you post a response like, me too, or yep, and stuff like that. But if you are giving a quality feedback, and making an attempt, your rating will not be affected. I hope this helps.
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@whiteheather39 (24403)
• United States
27 May 07
Herr Baggs you of all people know darn well what a negative rating is...think of your Indian friends!
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@herrbaggs (1308)
• United States
27 May 07
Yeah! you just reminded me of my Indians friends, I need to send them a load of blankets.
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@herrbaggs (1308)
• United States
27 May 07
Please explain to me waht a negative rating is supposed to represent.
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@Michele21 (3093)
• United States
26 May 07
That is really weird!! Could it be someone you know? I guess it would be hard to figure out huh? silly question, sorry =) I wouldn't worry about it too much, if you rating does go down you could ask myLot to look into it and into that person. Maybe they would be able to figure out if she was just posting negatives for you, and hopefully stop her.
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@whiteheather39 (24403)
• United States
26 May 07
I hope so too because I will be watching. I lost 1 percent in a few hours today and 1 percent of 5000 points means I had to have received 50 negative ratings.
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@mummymo (23706)
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26 May 07
Well I for one would never describe you as either whiny, brattish or anything like that! I would say that you are a strong, confident woman who knows her own mind! Having said that you accept that other peoples opinions are not always the same as yours and you care about your friends! I would try not to worry about this 'drive by poster' (I think that is the most appropriate description) as your friends know who you are and will be there to support you! xxx
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@whiteheather39 (24403)
• United States
26 May 07
Thank you...LOVE the description. XXX
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@mummymo (23706)
•
26 May 07
You are very welcome! Hope all these responses have reassured you honey that you are a well liked and valued mylotter! I must admit i had to giggle that someone had described you as a whiny brat - I couldn't think of a less suitable description for you! Stay strong my friend! xxx
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@herrbaggs (1308)
• United States
27 May 07
I am in disagreement with you. asking mylot to delete comments you don't like or that you feel hurt your feelings will destroy this disscussion site. If I told you that you were whiny pea brained trogdalite you just need to remind me that my best friend is an intestinal parasite and if would quit hanging out with turds I would recognise your discussion topics as creative genius. I have noticed that more and more stuff is getting deleted which means that boredom is about to take control. Love Roz.
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@whiteheather39 (24403)
• United States
27 May 07
I knew it was you! Just for the record I did not ask mL to delete it, actually I would not have objected if it had remained because I commented with a piece of my mind. Love me.
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@herrbaggs (1308)
• United States
27 May 07
I wish I could do that but if I responded with a piece of my mind I would then become mindless.
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@herrbaggs (1308)
• United States
27 May 07
You better answer this or I am going to report you to mohammud who happens to be my best friend.
@whiteheather39 (24403)
• United States
27 May 07
I did not report her until after she made the response at least mL saw fit to delete it. I did not ask them to do that.
@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
27 May 07
I hope people can't do that without a trigger to admin. This is what people mean when they talk about abuse of the negative rating. It isn't necessary. We should only need to rate a positive or report an infraction. Leave the negative rate out completely.
I vaguely remember reading something in one of your responses. I was going to comment but as you hadn't responded I thought better of it. I just assumed a newbie wasn't sure what the site was about.
I'm sorry you were hurt and offended, no way do you come across in this manner. Your posts are interesting, intelligent and thought provoking. It's so disappointing when this nasty element creeps in.
I responded to a discussion the other day and I got a comment from another person, not the original poster that was very badly worded. He twisted my words and there was no doubt he meant to be unfriendly. I don't know this guy. I can understand why he only has a rating of 5 if that's what his attitude is.
Cheer up...this person will probably get bored and not bother with us. If she can't join in properly then it won't have any benefit to her.
@whiteheather39 (24403)
• United States
27 May 07
Thank you for the kind words. I think she is gone as I have not heard any more from her.
@retardedrugrat (4791)
• Canada
26 May 07
Wow, seems some people really think a lot of themselves huh? With just one point, who the hell is she to be giving out to people like that anyway, and especially to a member with over 5000 posts to their name?
I do know that it's possible to go into discussions and rate them without actually responding to them, but as far as I was aware, it was supposed to take many people to be rating negatively for your reputation points to drop, at least, according to Mylot admin a good while back.
I don't think there's anything to be worried about to be honest. I reckon she signed in, saw her response had been deleted, and decided not to bother.
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@liranlgo (5752)
• Israel
26 May 07
i do think that every user has to possibility to rate responses, and she does also.
But you did say that you reported her, and that her first response has been deleted. It is possible that they also deleted her user, but you do not see it yet.
Sometimes there is a delay with those things.
So i will recommend you on checking her profile page again in a day or two.
@sumofalltears (3988)
• United States
26 May 07
It could happen, but I would e mail mylot with a probable cause statement. It would not be fair to you if this should happen. Mylot should be made aware of intentional sabotage and they should fix it.
@whiteheather39 (24403)
• United States
26 May 07
I lost 1% reputation today in a few hours that means 50 negative ratings
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@sumofalltears (3988)
• United States
26 May 07
wow....that seems like a lot of work just to be a pain in the rear, but some people are like that, and from what I have read mylot does not seem toe interested in righting the wrongs of sabotage
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@SEOGUY (906)
• United States
26 May 07
Maybe when some join they realy have no idea what this is realy about? Maybe they just start rading and critiquing. Sometimes I have to read a post afew times, becouse when I read it first it sounds like the auther is attacking someone, and I am the kind of person that when someone attacks an individual or group I jump to the defencive, maybe thats what she did. Maybe you should ask her to become a freind, and write to her and let her know how to behave on this forum? Just a thought.
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@whiteheather39 (24403)
• United States
26 May 07
Another strange thing I failed to mention was at the same time she posted her nasty response she sent me a request to be on my friends list??
