What should be age diffrence diffrence between tow childs?

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@skbadhan (881)
India
May 29, 2007 10:03pm CST
Some say it should be atleast 3 years, others theory is that one should not go for secont one unless first start going to shcool. What do you think should be the age diffrence between two childs? how much is the age diffrence between your childrens or brother and sisters.? please share your views....
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• United States
30 May 07
well My two boys are 20 months apart and they get along just fine playing and things like that. My sister and I are 3 years apart and it was nice but it was really hard getting along because we wanted to have a lot of the same friends. I think it all depends on the preference of the children's parents.
@skbadhan (881)
• India
30 May 07
thank, happy mylotting
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• Philippines
30 May 07
children will get along well if we can show them that we love them all equally. we give them their reasonable needs plus some allowances for other things they desire whenever we can afford to do so. then we, as parents, will guide them during their younger years on the way that they deal with each other. love and compassion does not come out of nothing, it comes forth from the seeds of love planted during the young years of our children.
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• United States
30 May 07
I totally agree with you. I believe that if you give each child the love and care they need as little ones they grow up knowing the difference between a lot more and they feel more compelled to carry it with them knowing that caring and compassion gets you further then not caring and being negative all the time
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@deebomb (15319)
• United States
30 May 07
I think the age differnce really doesn't make any difference. I liked the idea of haveing mine close together. I had 4 kids in 6 years. We all got along fine. None were neglected. I was happy to have all the diapers and bottles over with all at once. They did a good job of helping and intertaining each other. b\But I will say that haveing them close or far apart does not guarntee that they will be close when they get older and grown up.
@skbadhan (881)
• India
30 May 07
nice response it s realy great that you are parenting 4 kids. I can never even think of having 4 kids as i feel its too hard to provide sufficient facilities and proper growth without big bank balance. We have decieded to go for only one kid.
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@deebomb (15319)
• United States
30 May 07
My kids are all grown and have kids of their own.
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@tina12679 (1126)
• United States
30 May 07
i have 2 sisters both older one is 7 years older and the other is 9 years older. But they left home early and one wasnt raised at home so i was more or less wihtout siblings, my children are 6 1/2, the next one is almost 4 and my youngest is almost 2 so like 2 years between with one with almost three and i like it that way each of them have someone to play with and their ages arent so far apart that they are into different things. I think what ever a parent feels comfortable with having their childrens ages spaced to be is what is the right answere. If a family wants to have children with only a year between them then that should be fine as well as a family wanting to wait until one heads off to school before having another. I dont think that there is a right or wrong answere to this question
@skbadhan (881)
• India
30 May 07
Lovely home - i like to live in private bunglow
thanks for response happy mylotting
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@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
30 May 07
I think they should be a few years apart myself. Like you wrote about 3 years that way the first child is usally done with potty training and bottle feeding.
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@skbadhan (881)
• India
30 May 07
ya if there is only a diffrence of say one year then it might be problamatic to handling them together specialy if you aren't residing with your parents.
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@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
30 May 07
My best friend and her husband had their two kids back to back and boy that was a lot of fun for them. both babies in diapears at the same time.
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@skbadhan (881)
• India
30 May 07
ya one need to manage without any excuse if its god's wish our planning can get failed in front to god's wish.
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• Philippines
30 May 07
lots of doctors say that keeping the children apart by a good five years or more is the best way to do it. this has given the mother sufficient time to have fully recovered from the previous childbirth. this means that the second child will be as healthy as the first. we can observe that for most families where the kids are not spaced apart, the first one enjoys better health and is more intelligent, too. if we give 5 years before having the second child, the parents will be giving the second child to have as much chance of being at an advantage as the first one.
@skbadhan (881)
• India
30 May 07
nice information apart from theory there is a logic in your response. great
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@rakhii (1302)
• India
30 May 07
I feel that the minimum difference between two children should be atleast 3 years and not more than 5 years. This would provide best care to all your children in infancy, coz that is the age of growing and infants need to most care. Me and my siblings do have a difference of 3 years each.
@skbadhan (881)
• India
30 May 07
my parents have two childrens me and my younger sister we too have age diffrence of 3 years
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@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
30 May 07
I think that the right age difference between children is whatever the parents decide it should be. I had 6 children in just under 11 years. The age differences between all of mine from the youngest to the oldest is like this... 18 1/2 months, 2 years 1 month and 19 days, 2 years 7 months and 6 days, 2 years 19 days, and 2 years 7 months and 5 days. They all get along well with each other and there are no set "groups" among them, meaning no one is left out. The middle ones bridge the gap between the older and younger ones. The older ones look after the little ones. Everybody is happy. I have 2 sisters, They were born less than 11 months apart. They are very close to each other. I was born 7 years and 1 day after the younger of the two was born. I might as well have been an only child. We are not close at all.
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@skbadhan (881)
• India
30 May 07
yes it may depend on parents...happy mylotting
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@healwell (1268)
• Ahmedabad, India
30 May 07
Well there are two - three kind of opinions. Which opinion is best one can not say! Mostly the experiences are suggesting that considering child to child learning and child to child care concept naturally occurring in society; there should be 2 years distance between two child! More distance some time affects the other child and the envy element develops inside!
@skbadhan (881)
• India
30 May 07
nice suggestion.
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@abroji (3247)
• India
30 May 07
I think this depends upon the age and attitude of the couple. If they are over aged and late married it is better to have the children in succession. Otherwise it is good to have a gap of three or four years between the children. I have two daughters and they have a gap of four years between them. Thank you.
@andak2007 (3229)
• Philippines
30 May 07
it really depends on the parents..but in my case i have tow children a boy and a girl and their age difference is just 15 months...talk about too close apart.LOL! At first it was rather difficult and really i almost ran out of patience...and it costs too much too..with diapers, milks, clothes and not to mention hospital bills and doctors appointments. Now im quite happy that they are a little grown but still they are my babies.
@5000ml (1923)
• Belgium
30 May 07
I think two or three years would be the best. I'm an only child, but my boyfriend has an older sister, she is 6 years older than him and it's really quite a big gap. They get along okay now, but it was harder when they were younger especially as they had to share a room for a long time because their house was so small.
@rapolu_cs (1184)
• India
30 May 07
In my opinion i think 2yrs of age gap is more than necessary for them to understand eachother and i think more gap creates differences between them as the supiriority comes in between them in every thing they try to manage to understand.
@cocuta (30)
• Romania
30 May 07
i say 2 max 3 year, in this way they will understand musch better, betwen my sister and me are 7 years difference and we dont have very much things in common, she have other ideas and idol
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@rb200406 (1825)
• India
30 May 07
Yes some says it must be 3 years some differs.I think it can be anything between 3-8 years depending on various situation.My brother is 5 years younger to me.He was born when i already started going to school.
@youless (99291)
• Guangzhou, China
30 May 07
I think perhaps 4 years is suitable. As the parents won't be so tired to take good care of two little babies at the same time.
@wasim989 (2302)
• India
30 May 07
I think the difference should be about atleast 2 to 3 years ....................
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@Nardz13 (5059)
• New Zealand
30 May 07
Hey there, I am the oldest in our family of 3, we are all 2 years apart from each other. I have two children and they are 2 years apart from each other. To answer your question, I think its really up to the parents to decide, wether or not they can handle the work load of having alot of little ones so close together. I have a cousin that has 6 children, 1 for every year, for 6years lol if that makes sense. Now I have a brother with 6 children and there children are 1 and half years apart from the next lol... So depends on how the parents can handle the work load. I dont see anything wrong with having baby after baby anyway...
• United States
30 May 07
I have 3 kids now and my husband and I want one more. My oldest daughter and my second child is almost 4 years apart and they get along so well. She loves taking care of her brother and being big sister. My son and my youngest are like 2 years and 2 months apart and I really think it is too close in age. I think that about 3-4 years apart is good because it gives the mom time with each child for a couple of years while the other children are in school. Plus not so much stress on her as well. I think it does depend on the mom not really the kids. My kids get along just fine. They really don't fight and they play well with each other and bothe love taking care of the baby and playing with her.
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@bindishah (2062)
• India
30 May 07
I believe a 2 year age difference is sufficient. that way the kids can be close to each other too - there need not be a generation gap between them. Kids closer to age are able to share more with each other and i would like that for my children.
• India
30 May 07
well personaly i feel the age differnce between two children sud be 5 to 6 years so that the first child becomes lill bit matured,grown up ..atleast he can manage to do his own things..otherwise it becomes quite difficult for the mothers to manage two children of same age..but every thing depends on the will of the parents and the capacity of the mothers to handle their children properly..