Today is My Daughters Birthday we are Feuding!

@marciascott (25529)
United States
June 4, 2007 8:30am CST
Shall I call her and tell her happy Birthday? she is 33 yrs. old today. We get into augruments all the time. I really don't pay her any attention. Are you like that with your kids? I will call her sometime to day i guess.
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@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
4 Jun 07
I am in my 30's also and my mom and I are not on very friendly terms right now either. It is not that I don't want to talk to her or love her. It is just alot of things have changed between us and our extended family. It would not bother me if my mom doesn't call me for my Birthday this month either because we don't really talk any more anyway. I would feel like she really doesn't mean it and felt she had to do it.
@marciascott (25529)
• United States
5 Jun 07
So you have a Birthday coming up this month? let us know. So we can tell you happy Birthday, I think you should make ammens with your Mother, you only have one Mother.
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@marciascott (25529)
• United States
5 Jun 07
My Daughter and I have our promblems but we don't stay mad to long. I was angry with her, because she has a smart mouth. well, yesterday I went over to her house and took her a card and money. we are fine now. Just stay in touch with Mom.
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@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
5 Jun 07
Yes. My birthday is June 23rd. I speak to my mom on occasion. Every time I call her she does not want to talk to me. She rushes me off of the phone as soon as I call her. She is always trying to tell me how to live my life. I will be 36 this month and I do not ask her for anything. I just call her to talk to her and ask her how she is but she never had time for me. She even stopped talking to my daughter which is 15 years old. If she ever calls my home which isn't very often any more, she always asks about my daughter or to speak to her. She never asks about me and my husband or wants to speak to me. I did nothing to her. She is just mad at me because I choose to make my own decisions now instead of listening to everything she tells me to do.
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• United States
4 Jun 07
No matter what you need to make a connection with your sister on her birthday, even if you argue and don't get along (that is what sisters do) you need to tell her Happy Birthday, even if it is on a voice mail message. You would not like it if someone forgot your birthday, don't let her pass without you giving her your birthday wishes, after all, she is your sister!!
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@marciascott (25529)
• United States
4 Jun 07
Hi. Lorie You are gettimg discussion mixed up. not my sister my Daughter, LOl. My daughter's Birthday. I will call her later. I am getting ready to go to store to get her a card anywat, maybe buy her a gift.
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• United States
4 Jun 07
Yes, I realized that after I typed that response to you. You know my son and I are on the outs, he is mad at me for taking his sister's side, so he says, anyways I am not budging from me being angry at him, I feel he needs to grow up and not tell me who side I can take, which I don't believe I take any sides when it comes to my kids, but needless to say his birthday was last month, it fell on Mother's Day this year. I sent him a text message only to get a mean return message so I am done with trying to be nice to him for the time being, even if it was his birthday, respect means alot to me and if you can't give me the respect I deserve then I don't have anything to say to you. So I know how you feel, hopefully the situation is better with your daughter and you, my relationship with my daughter has it's rocky moments but only because we are so much alike we butt heads. Take care
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@marciascott (25529)
• United States
5 Jun 07
It will be ok. We can't stay mad at our kids forever, we still love them no matter what. We fall out all the time, but we end up talking. I did go over to her House gave a card, and I won 15.00 on an instant lottery ticket and gave it to her. She was happy. everthing is Ok. Have a good one and thanks for replying.
@gberlin (3836)
4 Jun 07
No, I guess I am not. My daughter is 27 and we don't usually get into arguments. My son is 22 and I also don't get into arguments with him. We have nothing to argue about. Please do call her and wish her a happy birthday.
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@marciascott (25529)
• United States
5 Jun 07
That is very good, You have a good relationship with you children that is excellent!
@gewcew23 (8007)
• United States
4 Jun 07
Take it from me. Even though my parents and I aren't getting along, it hurts when they don't call or even send a card on your birthday or anniversary. My father's birthday was yesterday and I called him and wished him a happy birthday even though it was like a 2 minute conversation. I know that we need to work out our differences and believe me I have tried they don't want to give in and let things go, but I hope that one day it will work out because life is too short to spend feuding you never know what the last word will be to that person. I always try to tell them I love them before I hang up.
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@marciascott (25529)
• United States
5 Jun 07
Yes that is good to tell your love one, that you love them. I had a son that is decease, he would of been 32 in Sept. He would always call me up and tell me I love you, I miss that about him more than anything.
@brendalee (6082)
• United States
5 Jun 07
I see that you went over there. I am glad that you did. Family feuds are very common. I haven't had that happen with my son yet. But my mom has been mad at me a few times and not spoken to me. All of my other siblings have had a turn at that too. It happens and then everybody gets over it. My birthday is Friday so I will soon find out if my mom is still upset with me. Thats even if she remembers. Shes kind of up there in years and easily forgets things.
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@marciascott (25529)
• United States
5 Jun 07
Thanks for replying Bren, Yes she is ok now. My eyes are getting heavy, I am going to bed rea,l soon!
@Willowlady (10658)
• United States
4 Jun 07
I do not argue with my mother and I am older than your daughter. Life is too short to argue so we don't. I would send her a belated birthday card if you are that estranged. Let her come to you if she is feeling animosity. Good luck with this. I hope you can grow closer someday.
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@marciascott (25529)
• United States
5 Jun 07
We go through this all the time. I went over her house and gave her a card and a winning instant lottery ticket. She was happy. I was going to put money in a card. But gave her the winning ticket. She was happy. Ok Chat with you later.
@Polly1 (12645)
• United States
4 Jun 07
Go ahead and call her, she will feel better and you will too. Family is everything, even when they don't act right. Once a mom, always a mom, no matter how big they get. The bigger they are, the more a pain in the butt they are. Little kids-little hurts, big kids-big hurts.
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@marciascott (25529)
• United States
5 Jun 07
You are so right Vicky. I don't care How old my kids get show me respect. I have a 33 yr, old, and a 34 yr. old Man. Now he is the pain, he looks so much like me It's a shame.
@terri0824 (4991)
• United States
4 Jun 07
If it was me, I would call my daughter even if we recently had an argument. That way, I would know that I did my part of being the bigger person and to let my daughter know that no matter what, she is still my daughter, I gave birth to her and what to rejoice in it. And no matter what the circumstance is I still love her.
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@marciascott (25529)
• United States
5 Jun 07
I love her too! she makes me angry sometimes but I get over and she does too. have a nice week Terri.
@rosycat (168)
4 Jun 07
I think you should still call her as its her birthday, whether you argue or not, she is still your daughter. My daughter has just gone on holiday with her friend and will be there for her birthday, and it makes me sad to think she wont be here for me to wish her a happy birthday. I used to argue a lot with my mum, and at one time we were'nt speaking at all, but i would have been really sad to think it was my birthday and she hadnt contacted me.
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@marciascott (25529)
• United States
4 Jun 07
I will. I was just thinking this when i typed in the discussion. I will sometime today.
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• Australia
8 Jun 07
Well im only young,but i can tell you..she will want to hear from you.Just wish her a happy birthday and ask what she has planned for the day and wish her well.dont start an argument.She would love to ehar from you :)
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