I was called a bad name today!

@4cuteboys (4102)
United States
June 5, 2007 8:45pm CST
I went to the post office to mail something I sold, and the clerk was like, I already thought you had your baby. I said I do have a baby at home he's 7 months. She says and your pregnant again, and I say yes and she says well you are an id*ot. I didnt really say anything. Then she goes on to mention that no one has 5 kids these days, and she was one of 11 and she knew better than to have more than 2 kids herself. SO I paid for my postage and LEFT. I couldnt get out of there fast enough, I felt a smarty comeback brewing and didn't want to stoop to her level. Would you have said something to her?
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@youdontsay (3503)
• United States
6 Jun 07
I would like to have said "That is really none of your business," when she asked if I was pregnant again. And if she had gone on with the rest I'd have told her that she was behaving unprofessionally and you were going to talk to her supervisor. That was beyond rude. I admire your self control. I'm not sure I could have kept my cool as well as you did.
@4cuteboys (4102)
• United States
6 Jun 07
It was tough! I think I was more in shock than anything!! I cant imagine how people can have the nerve to say stuff like that sometimes!!!
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@kgwat70 (13395)
• United States
6 Jun 07
I think that you did the right thing by not commenting back at her and going to her level. That was so rude of her to make that comment to you like that. People can have as many children as they want. I think if you had said something things would have probably gotten worse since she sounds like the type of person that would retaliate back. Good job with not getting back at her. You could report her to management for that remark.
@paidreader (5151)
• United States
6 Jun 07
OUCH! How rude! This was from someone you see fairly regularly? I don't think I could have held my tongue even if it was a friend, much less someone that works where you're spending your money. If you didn't feel comfortable confronting her about calling you an id*ot, much less her "opinions", maybe a comment card needs to be filled out to bring the rudeness to the managers attention, if nothing else. What are your other postal options?
@KissThis (3006)
• United States
6 Jun 07
She had no right to speak to you in this way. You were very mature in how you handled her. Yes, I probably would have said something back to her. I am just the type of person to ask for her supervisor. If I felt that her supervisor wasn't going to do anything about it I would go the next step up. What she did was disrespectful.
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@MJLami (1173)
• United States
6 Jun 07
I'm sorry that happened to you. Since you were brewing I think you were better off not saying anything and just leaving. What a slap in the face though. It wasn't her business to make a comment like that. For all she knew you could be a practicing Catholic and will be having as many children as God wants to bless you with. Too bad for her to be so callous and not appreciate what blessings your children are. Maybe it's good she only had 2 since she doesn't seem happy about others having children. I'd feel sorry for her. You though are very blessed!
@Bev1986 (1427)
• United States
6 Jun 07
oh my gosh! That is terrible! I would report her! Was there anyone else around that heard her? That was totally inappropriate and she should never have said it. It's none of her business how many kids you have, absolutely none. Good luck with your pregnancy and enjoy those little ones!!!!
@4cuteboys (4102)
• United States
6 Jun 07
thanks! there was a couple of people in line behind me, but they didn't say anything either, don't know if they were even paying attention
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@4cuteboys (4102)
• United States
6 Jun 07
thanks! there was a couple of people in line behind me, but they didn't say anything either, don't know if they were even paying attention
@pinks0da (328)
• Philippines
6 Jun 07
Oh my! that woman deserves a bit spanking! she has no right to say that to anyone in the first place! she should learn to keep her opinions to herself! If I was you, I would like to tell her "Thanks for the concern but I don't need it! I will have a dozen of children if I want to and it's none of your freak*n` business!, go ahead and do your job right so you can feed your 2 kids!" then turn back not giving her any chance to answer back! I just can't keep quite when somebody I don't know is trying to be rude to me. Some people needs to wake up that we have to stoop down to their level at times for them to know that it's not alright to say things to someone especially those they don't know!
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@Michele21 (3094)
• United States
6 Jun 07
That is terrible!! I can't believe someone would say that to you!! How rude can people be?? I would have probably said, "Screw you" and left....that is so mean!! You should call in and complain to the manager!! She shouldn't be talking to anyone like that!! Who cares if you have 5 kids?? As long as you are taking care of them then I say good for you!! I would love to have more kids but I think they would really drive me crazy, so I am sticking with two, but who caress about how many kids you have...and to call you an idiot it sad! I am so sorry!! If it was me I know I would have cried being all hormonal and all. You are not an idiot, just a good mommy to lots of little boys!!!
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@RobinJ (2501)
• Canada
6 Jun 07
First of all it is none of her darn business, and second it was not her place to say anything and thirdly, who in the world does she think she is? I not only would have told her that, I would have reported her. Every one is entitled to their opinion, but not to pass it along unless asked to do so. That was extremely rude, and again none of her business, to be giving you a lecture. I personally would have difficulty in raising 5 children, but do know women that have 7-10 and are just doing fine thank you very much.And they would be extremely offended if I were to say anything to them. So I simply say I admire anyone that makes a choice to have and raise a lot of children.It is probably the hardest, lowest paying job any one could choose and good on for them and you.
@4cuteboys (4102)
• United States
7 Jun 07
I did report her yesterday! I called the branch and talked to her shift supervisor. I didnt see her today when I went in, which is good because I was nervous. I did find her sooo rude. I cant imagine talking to someone like that?! Wow 7-10! I know 5 will be tough, but I can do it! :0)
@beaniegdi (1966)
6 Jun 07
Don't let this person upset you. Remember she said herself she was one of 11 children and even before the pill etc it was possible to keep families to much less than that. It sounds to me like this person had a bad childhood and upbringing and because of this she has a problem with large families, I don't think it is personal to you. However it is bad cusotmer service to speak to you in a way that would upset you but I think this woman is carrying a lot of baggage from her upbringing which she took out on you and no doubt on anyone who has over 2 children. She may have issues with her own mother and maybe cannot stop herself projecting those feelings onto other mothers, in other words she can say to you what she can't say to her own mother. She could probably benefit from some kind of therapy to help her get over her childhood and the issues she seems to have with it. You just enjoy your children and pregnancy and try to feel sorry for this woman if you can as she obviously missed out on a happy childhood.
@cher913 (25865)
• Canada
6 Jun 07
i would write to her supervisor and tell them about the conversation...that surely wasnt very professional! well my sister in law has 6 and i know a few families that have 9 kids and no we are not amish or anything...my sister in law adopted 2 babies from china to give them a chance!
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@makingpots (11920)
• United States
6 Jun 07
I am proud of you for not stooping to her level. I probably would have been in too much shock to have said anything back to her either. The nerve of some people. Best wishes on your current pregnancy. When are you due?
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@crazynurse (7489)
• United States
6 Jun 07
Wow, you are a bigger woman than me. I'm afraid I would have lost it and given her a piece of my mind! How rude, inconsiderate, intrusive and plain 'ole MEAN of this girl. (notice I didn't say lady). Kudos to you for being able to contain yourself and not stoop to her level!
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• United States
6 Jun 07
Yes I would have said something to her! I would have told her that her decision to only have 2 children is great for her but you and your hubby chose to have more. THEN I would have found her supervisor and told him/her that the clerk called me an idiot. There is no reason for anyone to call anyone names especially over something like that; to not tell the supervisor and get her reprimanded gives her the idea it is ok do to what she did. I say pick up the phone and call in a complaint.
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@4cuteboys (4102)
• United States
6 Jun 07
I think I was just in shock, the more I think about it, the more I should, although I would like to go back and see if I can figure out what her name is before I actually call
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• United States
6 Jun 07
So walk in there and just ask for a supervisor. You don't need to know her name just point her out to the supervisor. Lord knows what she says to other people. She should not be allowed to get away with it. OR you can call the USPS phone number 1-800-ASK-USPS and tell them what happened. They will contact the supervisor on your behalf.
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@4cuteboys (4102)
• United States
6 Jun 07
that's awesome, i'm going to call, thanks!
• United States
6 Jun 07
If it was me I would have said the following: Well I do believe that its your job to help me with my postal needs, not criticize me for my childbaring choices. If I wanted your opinion I would have asked you. As far as women having children these days, its how many you want that matters. And I want how ever many I can have! So If you have a problem with that then don't ask next time! I don't tolerate people like that, they're job is to assist us not judge us. I went to the post office one time and an employee was talking about what I was wearing. I had just been painting, and I hadn't the time to change. I had to mail a package and get to the babysitters to pick up my son, and then my husband. This young woman had the nerve to tell me that I looked like dog shoot (not that exact word). I was embarassed, yet mad at the same time. So I asked for her supervisor, she got him (she looked really upset). I said to the supervisor " You have a really nice employee here, do you know she's nice enough to tell me that I look like "dog shoot"? He said " I apologize mam for the rudeness of my employee, I said don't bother" (and casually looked back at her) " I know it won't be happening again, now will it" ...... She paused, and apologized as I walked out without mailing my package. It was so rude, I mean even though I didn't look good it was none of her business. I think that its just wrong for them to talk to us in such an unprofessional manner, like they can talk to us how ever they want. Just ridiculous. Hope it doesn't make you feel like not having anymore, your a great mom.
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@4cuteboys (4102)
• United States
7 Jun 07
OMG I cant believe anyone said that to you. That's even worse than what happened to me! I'm glad you got the supervisor. Well we aren't having anymore after this one. Hubby is neutered now, and I'm going to go on BCP after to me extra careful :)
@ParaTed2k (22980)
• Sheboygan, Wisconsin
6 Jun 07
Just more reason why the USPS needs to be privatized. So little incompetent fools like her can be canned and thrown out on their butts. You need to talk to her supervisor. Of course, the lazy supervisor won't do anything at all, but that is about the only recourse the bloated waste of a bureaucracy offers us peons. Any organization that treats you like that, after losing thousands of pieces of mail every minute has no right to exist.
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@ParaTed2k (22980)
• Sheboygan, Wisconsin
6 Jun 07
P.S. I would have looked at her in the eye and said, "what, if I have another kid are you going to Go Postal on me?" ;~D
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• United States
6 Jun 07
I agree with that response about her job was postage stuff & not telling you how to live your life. These postage employess need to take a test for the job, but once they get the job, they do get a decent salary, as well as a VERY nice benefit package. By her criticizm & calling you an idiot, it is customer harrassment in which should have been reported. Even if she didn't end up losing her job, that blotch in her personnel file would have slowed her down from getting a promotion.
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@TeaCup (230)
• United States
6 Jun 07
That was idiotic of "her" to say that to you! You were right not to stoop to her level though. There are about a million comebacks you could have probably supplied but, nasty words have a way of coming back and biting you hard,so she'll get hers one day. One comeback I just thought of would be, "Well, some people can "afford" to have more." Then I guess she would have went on and on... about that,so you were right. She probably doesn't like children. I was watching a talk show(maybe Oprah, I don't know) where a mother was saying how much her kids "bored" her! I was so shocked. Kids are definitely not boring! That post office woman is unprofessional.
@wahmoftwo (1298)
• United States
6 Jun 07
I don't know if I would have said anything or not. Some people aren't worth wasting your breath on. What does she care how many kids you have as long as you are making sure they are well cared for? She ceratainly was rude. I say to each his/her own. As long as you aren't on welfare or have a bunch of kids in foster care and are willing to provide a loving home you should be able to have as many kids as you see fit without being subjected to these kinds of remarks.
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• United States
6 Jun 07
WHAT??? what nerve she had. ooh, i am mad for you. i wouldn't have been able to say anything back, i would have just been stunned that someone who is supposed to be professional, and AT WORK, would say something like that to a customer. how rude. then as i was walking out i would have come up with something to say, then would have felt it was too late. OR when people make remarks, sometimes i just come back with, "well everyone is different and entitled to their own views", give a huge smile and walk away...kind of the kill-them-with-kindness act...but then i feel like i get the last word, and you know they're just mocking me after i leave. ooh, i just can't believe this! maybe you should call over there now and tell a supervisor that she's just out of line, and needs to keep herself professional, you don't go to the post office to get feedback on your personal life....that erks me, sorry you had to go thru that honey, what an id*ot SHE is...
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