is there such thing as taking too much mom time

I've spent one night without my son in his 16 months. It was miserable. He was 4 months old, and my family convinced me that my husband and I needed to get away for a couple of days while we were visiting, so we left the baby there and went to an amusement park. That one night I was apart from him, I cried. It hasn't happened since. lol I don't ever leave my son with babysitters. I want to be the one taking care of him. That might change when he gets older, but I doubt I would ever leave him somewhere every single weekend. Maybe once in a while, but not often.

I have 3 children and if i had as little time as your friend does to spend time with them on the weekdays i certainly would not leave them on the weekends. I may ocassionaly but not every weekend. I dont get much mommy time at all i am a stay at home mom right now, and it is hard to get them all taken care of to be able to go and do things, and when they do like tonight acually i dont have the finds to do anything and it is the middle of the week and the hubby works tomoorrow so we are just enjoying the quitness of the house lol.

Thats the begning of problem, why leave your kids for enjoyment? sooner or later they will strat to complain that the kid is not listening to them or is giving one problem or the other. it is simply an act of irresponsibility on the side of both the parents and it send bad signal that will snowball into a bad moral tendencies.

When my son was small, I worked all day, one night a week, I went out..left about 6 got home around 10. That was girl's night out, we went to a ceramics class...where most of the time I made Disney things for my son't room. To do this every weekend, the girl should be glad her parents are there, it sound slike if they were not, she would end up in jail for neglect or abuse or worse.

I think that you are being generous, i think that it is fair enough to take one weekend a month for yourself, but when you have children they should be a priority. She ought to be doing all that she can to ensure that her child builds good memoriees of her childhood, because before she knows it will be over and her daughter will be filled with resentment and bitterness. I lived with a friend of mine who has a 2 year old daughter. I lived there for a few months when the baby was almost one. She had split up from the father and he had the daughter every weekend Friday through Monday. She didn't care, she did her own thing and when baby got back on monday she was put straight in her cot, i could never do this too a child, they need to know that you love them and that they are not a burden. They did not choose to be born the parents hold responsibility for that, they ought to cherish the time they have with their child rather then concentrating on themselves. Its just selfish.

i believe u should give her some more time i think shes deppressed with her problems so give her some time n then talk to her clearly . make her understand that her child needs her n then give a glimpse of the future of her child .which unfortunately is goin to be very bad without any care given by hey parents

I feel the same way you do, I hate being away from my kids. A few hours is okay but not the whole weekend every weekend. That would be really sad to me if I didn't get to see my kids that much!! I think there definitely is too much Mom time and she is probably taking too much time for herself. Maybe she isn't comfortable being around her saughter so much and feels the need to get away, I think that is sad, but can sort-of understand.

Aww I feel for the child. I think your friend is irresponsible (no offence) and her partying days should of ended when she fell pregnant (well thats what I did anyways). I don't think her child is important enough to her and even though its ok to take some time out once in a while, her children should be her number one priority regardless. I have only been away from my son once when he went to spend a night at his grandparents place before we moved to USA. I could not sleep a wink and was always calling him to see if he was ok. One night away from me was enough. I can't imagine what it would be like when he starts college or goes to university and or may want to move out of home - I don't know what I would do then LOL

Yes there is such a thing as to much MOM time. I think Mom needs some time but she has to find the time to take it when it doesnt' interfer with her children and husband. Yet the trick is she still has to make herself a priority. But I have seen Moms use that as an excuse to not spend time with their children and that is sad.

I feel the same way you do. I worked full time up until earlier this year, and I was always home in the evening and on weekends with my son. I personally think mommy time on the weekends comes when the kids are more into doing things by themselves. I know quite a few people who do this same thing, they just don't understand that being a mom is a full time job, not just when you want to be. I babysit for quite a few of them on the weekends and one of them is only 6 months old, but the parents keep telling me they really need some time for themselves. I have spoken with their social worker and she said that if I could intervene it would lessen the chance that they would leave the child somewhere or do something bad. I think in the 12 years since our son has been born, we have only been away from him for a weekend two times, and both those times he was able to stay at our home with my mom. I could not even imagine being away from my son every weekend, but that is just me.

Hmm..Iam not a parent yet but if you spend too much time with them, especially if they are young, they tend to get either too clingy later in life or the opposite, too detached as they are probably sick of you already. lol Again, I am not a parent so I would not know Iuntil I become one...:p

Mum time is where you spend time with your children I thought not with out them. I have four children and are now convinced mum time will come when my youngest leaves home.lol Time out with out them what is this.haha I would love some me time but I think every weekend is selfish. I didnt have children for my parent or my hubbys parents to raise them. I think this is wrong it may seem like its taking forever to have some me time but my eldest is already 15 and it flew by. She will be the one that loses out in the end. You would think going to work is me time.

oh...that's not good. I took care of my three kids when they're still babies. I can't forget their faces, their smells and i sang for them while they sleep. I love my kids so much.

I could nt believe this when i read it, however I know this happens all too much. Im a stay at home mum and cherish every secong I get to spend with my kids, heck I even miss my duaghter when she is at kindy. I know some people dont have the privellege to quit work and stay home with the kids but if this is the case should nt they be making up for it when they get home and on weekends. I get a night probably every 4 months where i go out to diner with my girlfriends. To me it is all about my kids.

I think there is such a thing as too much mom time to an extent. I have a one year old and I try to get as much me can as possible but that's just because it's been a tough year and I barely get time to myself. I certainly don't spend it drinking. I think this mom should maybe spend every other weekend with her daughter instead of drinking.

When my daugher was younger I used to take one night a week that was all mine. I would go out on Thurday night to do kareoke every week and my husband stayed with our daughter. For the most part my daughter goes every where with me. My time aways from my child would vary however, I am married and her dad would be there to take care of her when I wasn't. There were times when I would go out every weekend and then there were times where I would not go out at all. I think it depends on the mom how she handles her kids. I do think that a lot of mothers now days do not take parenting seriously. I see a lot of kids raising themselves.