Does the ring make you feel better?

A ring might help to clarify the position for society at large, for family and friends, but it does not clarify anything for the couple except to emphasise the commitment between that couple and focus on the direction. People live together without marrying for many reasons but the main one is because they fear commitment. Yet at the heart of love is commitment: whether for a moment, a day a month or a decade. When we truly love and care about someone, we want to show them how much they mean to us by giving that public display of their value. To show off our prize in a secure way. What is surprising is that people will live for years without getting married, yet the actual togetherness is a form of long term commitment anyway which is no different from a marriage. The only thing missing is a ceremony and a ring! I can understand, especially after all those years, someone seeking to know where they stand in a relationship that just seems to go on and on without any focus or direction. One would find it difficult to really plan anything because one is never sure if one will still be in the same situation a few months or years hence. But a marriage gives that certainty. It says "W are committed for the long haul, even if we fall by the wayside", which then allows the couple to feel more secure with each other. Personally, I wouldn't live with anyone for more than a couple of years without knowing what the real situation is. If they are afraid of that commitment then they can continue on their way because that does not suggest true love. That suggest pure fear and pleasing themself. It is quite stressful in some instances, and really rather selfish, if one partner doesn't want commitment. I think when I love someone, I truly love them enough to commit to them once I see how we are doing. I wouldn't want that kind of anxiety of carrying on and on and not knowing where we're heading.

Sounds like she was just causing a lot of the problems in the relationship because she was upset that she didn't have that ring on her finger yet. I don't see how a ring can make people feel better or make the relationship work better. The people, not the rings make things go smoothly.

It does for me. It's like a sexurity blanket. It's just something that you can feel or look at and remember that the ring represents that person and how you feel for each other. I also like what it represents to strangers. But that's just me, I like little nonverbal show-off things like that. Nothing huge like some big rock, but just a token that people can see and recognize.

For me it't not. Materials don't impressed me. I have three children...the real treasure that my husband and I will cherish for the rest of our lives.