I just foundout that my father signed his parental rights away

@student7 (1002)
United States
June 10, 2007 6:42am CST
I just found out today searching through court records where my father lives, that he signed his parental rights away after I turned eighteen. I knew my father hated me ever since I was born. I knew as a child that he hated kids. Well no loss on my end. I have my mother and she and I call him "my sperm donor." He did bad things to me and then said I lied about what he did. I am glad that I am away from him. I am even happier that my children will not know him at all. Now my question: Can I still collect from his veterans benefits even if he signed away his parental rights? What about if he dies, can I contest his will? Can anyone answer this for me. Celebrating that I no longer have a father. Have a cup of coffee and cheer for me.
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• Philippines
23 Jun 07
Wow how i wish my father did that to me! my father is a_s and he did bad things to me as well and he told my mom that im making "drama", my mom believed him and until now im struggling for my mom to hear me out! she doesnt want to leave my dad, even if he done bad things to me and to her... he even verbally abused my lesbian sister up until now... well now as a single mom i took bride in parading my son to public telling them "i made him myself" hahahaha and when they ask wheres the father i often say what your mom used to say "his a sperm donor". Theres nothing to be angry about and it is you fathers lost that he abandoned the rights to be your father. That would i say to my son as well... regarding the benefits and stuff, i guess it would be better if you consult a lawyer the law here in the philippines as far more different there... but for me you have all the rights to put your hands in his veteran benefits, you deserve it!
@miamilady (4910)
• United States
22 Jun 07
I thought parental rights were something that you could only give up before 18. After 18 we are considered adults. Maybe he didn't "hate" you. Maybe he just had issues that turned him into a person that did now know how to deal with kids. If he was hurting you, then you are better off without him. Unless you know for a fact that he is wealthy, then it probably isn't worth it to pursue anything regarding his will. I don't know a lot about this, but I think I've hear that sometimes victims of abuse can sue there abuser. If he has anything worth suing for and if his abuse was to a horrible degree, you might have a chance. I'm not sure though. This is just something taht I think I read in passing once.
@student7 (1002)
• United States
23 Jun 07
No he hated me. He told my mother "if the military wanted me to have a wife and kids, then they would issue me some." He was VERY clear that he hated kids. After I left home he never spoke to me or saw me. Really believe it or not he hated me.
@mrsbrian (1949)
• United States
10 Jun 07
My husband is a veteran with children once they turn 18 there is no monies or insurane unless you are going to college. if you want to go to college the vetrens will pay for that and also give you a monthly allotment. they will also provide your health care, with a program called champ va. I know you can go to college untill you are 24 and the vets will pay. I guess this depends if you are in the USA because thats where we are. If you want more help with this please PM me and i will be glad to help you any way I can
@student7 (1002)
• United States
12 Jun 07
Thank you but I am older than 24. I have seriously thought about this yesterday and I have decided to just let it go. I don't need anything from that hateful person.
• India
10 Jun 07
I am very much sorry hearing your story. In my place (India)the Supreme Court recently ruled that a father has no right to 'throw away his wife or children ' from his home even if the home belongs to him. I am sure that there may be a similar rule in your place also. You can get a good advice from a lawyer.
@student7 (1002)
• United States
10 Jun 07
Thank you. I just found out and will ask my mom when I get some rest.
@castleghost (1304)
• United States
10 Jun 07
If you and your father are from the United States then your father would have had to give up his parental rights before you turned eighteen. At the age of eighteen in the United States most children are no longer their parents dependents unless they are still in school. Usually you don't receive benefits after you are no longer a dependent. As for contest his Will I have no idea and suggest you contact a lawyer.
@student7 (1002)
• United States
10 Jun 07
I think with him being a vet, the adult children of the vet also gets some benefits. I am not sure though.