when is the most ever painful break-up you've been experienced?

Philippines
June 10, 2007 11:57pm CST
me, it was 3yrs ago..when the father of my baby leaves us when i'm still 3mos pregnant..he just texted me that he doesn't love me anymore..it was so painful to me because i wanted to confront him in person, but how, he went to another city that is very far from me..that was a terrible experienced in my life..i hate him that time but now, i already forgiven him and i already moved on and i'm very much happy with my new bf..share you experienced guys..it would be great to hear from you..thanks
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38 responses
@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
11 Jun 07
It funny that you said 3 years ago that is when my ex husband left me right before Christmas 2 weeks before. He decided that he never loved me and then later he tells me he only married me to get back at him ex wife. I got a little depressed today when one of my friends showed me a link with the wife he left me for. I am glad that he is happy and maybe one day I will find some one to get over him.I shouldn't of even looked at it. they have a baby and everything.He wanted to have a kid with me but I was to scared because I was and I still am taking shots because I have multiple sclrosis in plus I was scared in my condition to have kids and i still am in a way.
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• Philippines
12 Jun 07
really friend..that was so painful..i'm really for that..i know that theres someone for you, that makes you happy and love you for the rest of your life..just pray for that person friend and i'm sure everything would be perfect..take good care of your health friend and i'm praying for your happiness...goodluck and God Bless..
@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
12 Jun 07
Thanks friend hopefully the best will come out of this in the end :)
@4cuteboys (4102)
• United States
16 Jun 07
Hm, me and hubby broke up for a little bit while we were still dating. It was not even for a day, just for a few hours. We got into a terrible fight and I walked out of his apartment (literally, i didnt have a car there!) and started to walk home. I was about halfway there and he picked me up, and we continued to fight for a bit. Finally we eventually made up and got back together but that was the worst few hours i've ever had to ordeal, even then I couldn't imagine living life without him. My other breakups were not very painful, as there were not alot of feelings involved. In the past I lost interest in men quickly so it was no big deal for me to move on.
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• Philippines
16 Jun 07
thanks for sharing your experience friend..have a great weekend..
• United States
16 Aug 07
It happened 18 years ago. I got really angry and told him I didn't want to be with him anymore. Well once I calmed down I wanted him back. He wouldn't come back. I was devestated. It wasn't until close to 14 years later that I saw him again in church. I realized that day why I was so devestated .... he was the first guy I was ever in love with. I can still remember the pain.
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• Philippines
22 Aug 07
let the pain healed friend..it's a normal emotion but there is a right time to heal the pain..God Bless and thanks for the response
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• United States
30 Aug 07
Aww hun; I'm not still in pain. I can just remember it.
• Philippines
14 Jun 07
hi cherriemae...were almost alike situation well it was a year ago when i got pregnant my bf promised me he will support our child unfortunately it was jaz only a promises he broke it..we're still have communication but never been visited my child he promised again that after he graduated he's gonna support my child he said that he still cares for us he also owe me a 2nd chance i cant decide yet...but now im happy with my life being a single mother
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• Philippines
15 Jun 07
all promises are meant to be broken..that's painful..anyways, i'm glad that youre already moved on and have a happy life with your baby..thanks for sharing and have a great day friend..
• Philippines
15 Jun 07
well that's life i have to face it beside its my fault i trusted him...same with here frend thanks a lot
@Lakota12 (42681)
• United States
11 Jun 07
mine was when x husband stole my 3 boys and put them up for adoption and it took me 27 years to find them I will never forgive him for that
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• Philippines
13 Jun 07
how painful and hard is that for a mother like us..it's better to have children than having a bad husband..i'm glad that you already found them..thanks for sharing..have a great day..
@Lakota12 (42681)
• United States
13 Jun 07
yes it is . and thanks you also have a great day!
@derek_a (10898)
11 Jun 07
The most painful break-up I have ever experienced was the first one. I was eleven years old, and fell in love with a girl in my school from the States who was over here (UK) with her mother visiting her sick grandmother. Her grandmother got well in about 6 weeks and of course she had to return thousands of miles across the Atlantic. At that age, I was embarrassed about falling in love so told no-one except my best friend - and even he thought it was rather a strange thing to happen too. Soon after my friend moved out of the area and being afraid to talk to anyone I bottled it all up. There was no emails or computers in those days and phoning the States was definitely no go. We wrote for a while, but opening her letters I would feel worse, apart from the fact that I was also scared of my parents finding them. At 11 I was considered to be "just a kid" and should be out with my friends not doing adult things like falling in love.. Took me well over a year before my emotions settled down and my parents never did now anything about it. If they ever saw the letters in my room, they never said.
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• Philippines
13 Jun 07
really, you already fall inlove at that very young age? yes, youre right that youre just a kid and there still lots of fun outside rather than having a serious relationship at that age..but i know how you feel, theres no age in loving a person..i hope that you're happy with your life right now..so, wheres that girl friend? do you know where she is? thanks for sharing...have a nice day..
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@derek_a (10898)
13 Jun 07
I don't know where that girlfriend is now. She was living in Masachussettes, USA when we were kids, but has probably long since moved. Probably married with children. Love knows no age :-)
• United States
18 Oct 07
The worst break up I've experienced to date was leaving a very controlling and abusive man. It was a struggle day in and day out. My family believed he was an amazing person; never thought for a moment that he could have been as horrible as I stated. When I did leave, he was out of the country working on a project (not military) in Iraq. I lied to him and told him I had found a job in Salt Lake City and would be moving there. He was excited for that and felt that he would be able to fly there easily when traveling in and out of the states. In reality, I had found a job in a different city, but the position was in Wyoming, not Utah. I up and moved with very little warning. He did his best to track me down, even calling my family. I didn't speak with them for a few months during that time; as I didn't want him showing up on my doorstep. I still don't have that same relationship with my family as I once had. I'm sure it will never be the same.
• Philippines
18 Oct 07
sorry for that friend..i'm sure you will find the right man and the loving person for you..goodluck and thanks for the response..God Bless
@MarieJ23 (1041)
• United States
17 Oct 07
well, I also experienced almost the same situation with you 3 yrs ago. it was so painful plus the fact that he was my first bf. he cheated on me and it was devastating. Then when I asked him why, he told me he did it for my own advantage. He said he wants me to find another man that is really for me, that has the same view in life with him. He said if he won't do it like cheating, I won't have a valid reason to break-up with him. It was painful. I mourned for it for a year. I became a bit man hater but I moved on. Right now, I am married to a man I want to be with my whole life. He is not perfect like anyone else but he has the characteristic and personality that I love to be present in my man.
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• Philippines
18 Oct 07
sometimes, it's good for us to experience pain in our life, we can't stop from crying and feel depress but it's a part of our life..and you can see now that at last you already found the right person for you and youre happy..congrats friend and thanks for sharing your experience..have a great day..
• Indonesia
22 Aug 07
wow,,..thats gotta be hurting. I would never ever forgive anyone for that,,not for leaving me, but leaving his child like that. The most painful break-up was,,...I haven't had any actually,,,,,for now anyway. I'm just coping a life with my husband now, hoping to get along better, hoping it all worked out for us. I'm so sorry you had to experience something awful like that, that guy will get what he deserve. Thank god u've found another bf, i hope he's nice to you and your baby. have a nice day!
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@carolscash (9500)
• United States
15 Aug 07
Mine worst breakup was when my oldest daughters' father left me. He said that he just wasn't ready to be a husband and a parent(we weren't married). I cried and tried to talk him out of leaving and then a few days later I found out that he had another girl pregnant and had been cheating on me. Now I am happily married for 12 1/2 years to a wonderful husband and I am so glad to say that he adopted my daughter and we are a happy family!!
• Philippines
22 Aug 07
it's good for you that theres somebody who really loved you inspite of being a single mom..thanks for the response and have a great day..
@lols189 (4797)
15 Aug 07
aaww i am so sorry you had a painful break up like this. i am happy to know that you have got over him and are happy in your new relationship. hope this one lasts for you. i have never had an experience like this before which i am glad i have not
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• Philippines
22 Aug 07
it's good for you that you not experience a painful relationship..but if you will experience with a hurt, just be tough enough and don't let these problems kill you..let your problem will problem you..hehehe thanks for the response and have a great day..
@ayris77 (1304)
• Malaysia
6 Aug 07
The most painful break-up that i have been experience is when i break with my beloved gf,2 years ago.So hard.But now i'm multiple stronger than before.I can accept any situation that press me!
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• Philippines
7 Aug 07
it's good that you already moved on..and you really need to be strong because you don't know you might have another big problem in the future, but you can face it because you already a strong person..cheers friend..have a nice day..
@YoungInLove (1254)
• Canada
5 Aug 07
the most painful break up is the one im actually going through right now. He was my first love, love of my life. We broke up a month and a half ago. He dumped me out of no where, and now hes being so mean. I dont even know why, I didnt do anything wrong:S all i did was love him. Its deffiantely hard.
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• Philippines
6 Aug 07
that's really hard my friend..but i know, one day you can move on and you need to move on..just make yourself busy with other things so that you cannot think of him anytime..you can do it girl..just pray and it's ok to cry..good luck
@shorva (923)
• Philippines
16 Jun 07
Oh that's sad, I'm glad you found someone. Mine is of course the only break up I had which was my first boyfriend. I was young then, I though my life was over. I'm so thankful now that we broke up because I met someone whose my husband now. I could never be thankful enough.
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• Philippines
20 Jun 07
good for you shorva..sometimes, when we can feel pain we think that life is over..but when the right person will come, we can say that life is beautiful..have a great day and thanks for the response...
@mipen2006 (5528)
• Australia
15 Jun 07
He wasn't worth the pain, and in my opinion probably never really loved you or your baby. It was a very selfish act on his behalf, and not to tell you to your face prooved he wasn't a real man!
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• Philippines
16 Jun 07
hes, i agree..he's not responsible being a father..thanks for the response mipen..have a nice weekend..
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• Indonesia
13 Jun 07
Hello cherrimae, i am sorry to hear your story and I am happy to hear you are happy now.. My terrible broke up is four years ago when I though he is everything for me and I though with him I can face almost anything including my fears. We broke up on our own decision due to different culture, religion and both of our family are declined our relationship. I thought I can go through all the pain but I am wrong, Still I feel pain. But I am glad we did it.. it makes me grow stronger and mature. I am now happy with my new bf and wish I will naver have a broken heart again...
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• Philippines
14 Jun 07
yes, i agree that the pain and hurt we felt makes us stronger and tough..thanks for the response friend..and have a great day..
@williamjisir (22900)
• China
11 Jun 07
I feel so bad for your ex-bf to leave you when you were three months pregnant. He is so irresponsible for you and the baby. But how are you going to do with the baby upcoming to the world? It will be born without seeing its own father. He is not a nice person at all. But I am happy for you that you are glad with your present bf. Wish you happy all life long.
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• Philippines
13 Jun 07
well, that's before..and i already moved on and happy with my new relationship..thanks for the response friend..have a great day..
@rangics (1335)
• Philippines
11 Jun 07
Your EX was such a coward! How could he afford to leave you like that?! Shame on him...Anyways,I'm glad that you're happy with your life now. It have been really hard for you way back. For me, my most painful experience was when my EX cheated on me 7years ago?.? Can't exactly remember teh exact years and I'm glad! LOL! He happen to have 2girlfriendsat the same time! Thick face really!! It was such a great betrayal I've ever experienced. Well, just like you, I'm glad I was able to moved on with life. Those guys don't deserved us ! Right friend? ;)It's their loss not ours! ;)
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• Philippines
13 Jun 07
yes, i do agree with you my friend..those guys should have a karma and i know God will set time for that..thanks for sharing friend..have a nice day..and i'm also happy that your already moved on with your life..cheers!!!
@nejnej (148)
• United States
11 Jun 07
i just had my firt heart broken. just weeks ago, he just left me and not a word from him since, not even a txt.
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• Philippines
13 Jun 07
he's coward kind of person..don't waste your time with that kind of person friend..i know that you can meet another guy that will respect you and love you..good luck..and thanks for sharing..
@abrarr (1246)
• Pakistan
11 Jun 07
the first breakup which i had was with my gf a year ago was really upsetting and i think it would be the last o fmy life but since tehn nomore tensions because since then i have nomore gfs to give tensions....hahahaha
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• Philippines
12 Jun 07
hahaha..your crazy friend..anyways, goodluck with your life and i hope that you will be able to find someone for you..have a nice day..