You have your bf/gf's email password. Would you snoop his inbox??

Snooping Around - Invasion of privacy is a major NO-NO in any relationship
Malaysia
June 11, 2007 8:20am CST
I know some of us have been guilty of snooping around where our noses don't belong. And some of us, have been able to be good girls and boys.=) Well, I used to be a really bad girlfriend. I snooped whenever I had the chance because I was really really insecure after being cheated so many times. Well, I'm glad to say that I don't do that anymore. I realize it's invasion of privacy and I wouldn't be happy if that happened to me. I don't give out my password to my boyfriend and neither does he. What about you? Have you ever been guilty of snooping around? Be honest now.. =P
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• United States
12 Jun 07
Yes I have, I think he found out and changed his password OOOPS!!! Although He Still Has not Mentioned anything to me about it.
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• Philippines
12 Jun 07
i like the idea of some snooping girlfrined or boyfriend around. it sounds cute and nice. for as long as nagging will not ensue out of the snooping, it is fine. i don't see any reason why we shall give our full trust to anyone when we will notice that there is something amiss somewhere.
• Malaysia
12 Jun 07
Hey tigerose.. I guess he never did mention it because he wasn't sure whether you did check his mail or not. So maybe he didn't wanna sound accusing if he did confront you about it. So in the end, he just changed his password. Just goes to show he doesn't want you snooping.. LOL~! =P That's the part we always try to avoid.. the nagging~! Snooping wouldn't look cute anymore if couples ended up fighting.. =P
@smoke_gun (1243)
• Malaysia
12 Jun 07
i have my boyfriend email and password given by him,and he has mine too.so its considered legitimate snooping.lol i dont think men will keep their "secret relation"proof in computer,too risky,handphone has more safety privacy.however, im not really care about did he cheating me,coz he is not the only boyfriend i have.lol
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• Malaysia
12 Jun 07
O'hoo.. I see you've got a backup plan, huh? LOL..
@smoke_gun (1243)
• Malaysia
12 Jun 07
men cant be trust at all,unless they teeth all drop,all hair loss,all skin wrinkle,and all money gone.lol
• Singapore
13 Jun 07
This will depend on why your boyfriend gives you the password. Or did you insist he give it to you? I don't think I would ever feel comfortable giving out my password to anyone. Not my girlfriend, not my wife. There is a part of me that I would want to keep private and personal. :P
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• Malaysia
13 Jun 07
Uuhhh, no..I don't know his password. He never gave it to me and I never gave mine either.
@irishmist (3819)
• United States
12 Jun 07
No I have never snooped, but I should have. Nothing like being in the dark, and being the last one to know. Next time if something doesn't feel right.. If I can I will snoop. This way I will save myself a lot of heartache. Nothing like being made a fool of and having your heart broken in two...
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• Malaysia
12 Jun 07
I hear ya irishmist~! I've been there too.. Just make sure you don't get caught. It's ok if you get caught and you find something to be mad about! But it's not ok to get caught and there's nothing suspicious at all.. hehe.. well, that's how I feel anyway.. =P
• United States
11 Jun 07
I sure would snoop. Better safe than sorry.
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• Malaysia
12 Jun 07
LOL~! better safe than sorry... Gotcha~! ;D
• Canada
11 Jun 07
I have and I still do...It is completely an insecurity thing. I don't want to do it, but I do because I am so damn nosey. I have never found anything and doubt I ever will, but it doesn't stop me. If I feel too bad about snooping I will tell him and he just laughs at me...says I am way too insecure...
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• Malaysia
11 Jun 07
LOL~! That's funny.. You really need to slow down.. I used to be very insecure too because I was cheated on one too many times. Maybe if you really MUST snoop to satisfy your insecurity, maybe you shouldn't do it too often. Only when there's really really REALLY a valid reason to snoop.. But then again, insecurity doesn't need a reason.. =P I've been there and I know how you feel.. Thanks for your honesty.. ;D
@321633wy (1795)
• United States
11 Jun 07
Before got married to my recent husband . i did snoop into my ex buyfriend's email because he makes me suspeciuos . But now,I heven't done this to my recent husband and i do not want to do that to him ,because i coudn't find any good reason to invade his little privacy mail box.So i'm pure and clean now no more sneaking around his stuff....LOL
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• Malaysia
11 Jun 07
Haha.. so you'll wait for another 'reason' to snoop again? LOL.. I've realized that snooping just makes me feel so insecure and crazy! I hate that feeling.. So I stopped.. I think if there is something going on, I'd rather not know.. I'll just rely on trust these days.. :)
• India
11 Jun 07
I feel it's really important to be honest in a relationship but as most of people around here will agree,You cant tell absolutely everything to ur partner cos what he/she doesnt know wont hurt em....And for exactly that teeny weeny bit of information I used to snoop around in my gf's email inbox...LOL
• Malaysia
11 Jun 07
LOL~! I totally understand.. Most couples are insecure, and that's how I used to be too.. Now I just try to refrain myself from doing that because I just wouldn't want that insecurity to engulf me.. But I can understand where you're coming from.. :)
• India
11 Jun 07
well i wont do thht. obviously if he finds out wat i was doin he will get angry. and also if he does the same thng it will hurt me. i guess some territories are bttr left untouched.
• Malaysia
11 Jun 07
Uh'huh.. that is true. thanks for responding..
• India
11 Jun 07
well snooping into ur boyfriends mailbox is not right coz i wont like him doing the same thing...so i wudnt do dat but my boyfriend did coz he suspected dat i had an affair wid someone..and we got broke up just 2 months back because this snooping thing only..Coz in love trust in must so snooping wud betraying ur bf in one or the other way....:-)...tk cr.tata.lol
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• Malaysia
11 Jun 07
LOL.. =) thanks for your response~!
@Akeela (2079)
• Trinidad And Tobago
11 Jun 07
Yes especially im the one who set it up for him im not ashamed , k you dont invade but tell me this do check his phone, pocket "accidently " to me it's the same thing. Humans have to realise where humans and we have emotions and just give up the denial...Because men pretend not to snoops but they do snoop.
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• Malaysia
11 Jun 07
Well thanks for your honesty akeela~! I bet most of us have snooped once or twice, whether it's on your boyfriend, your girlfriend, your children, etc.. Snooping is just part of human nature.. thanks for your reply~!
@ackars (1942)
• India
11 Jun 07
I will definitely snoop in to.There is no doubt about it.There is a common mentality for all of us humans to just know something which is not shown to us or hidden from us...Its the nature of human beings.They cant be blamed for the same.
• Malaysia
11 Jun 07
Curiosity kills the cat~! =P Thanks for responding~! ;)
@FenwaySox (321)
• United States
11 Jun 07
I have not snooped on anyone's email, but when my BF had suspicion of me seeing someone else, he went into my email account because he knew my password. Honestly, our relationship was going crappy, so I dont blame him for what he did. This took place last August, and since then we have broke up, and got back together again. Nothing needs to be sneaky like this, I feel its best to be open and honest in order to work thru tough times.
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• Malaysia
11 Jun 07
Yup, it really is due to insecurity and lack of trust. I've been in that situation where confrontation never does seem to work. Well, I'm glad I'm not the person I once was. And I'm happy to hear you guys are back together~! Cheers~! ;D
• Philippines
12 Jun 07
for us, it's ok to 'snoop' around. to make sure that there is no reason for us to mistrust each other. at times, i even request my gf to check stuff from my inbox and download/print it. i think 'snooping' around is ok as long as you have each other's permission, which in that case, is not snooping anymore.
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@magnel (2263)
• India
11 Jun 07
I will not do so, sneaking into her inbox is not giving her some privacy...
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@aaamm3003 (398)
• India
11 Jun 07
no i wont snoop around in her inbox, as its personal and i believe that its not good
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@yamskee (830)
• Philippines
18 Jul 07
my bf told me his password, i checked his and didnt know that his friend was in their house. they were surprised when they saw his ym, online. then he changed his password. i made some alibis and reconciled.. but no matter what he do, i can still guess his passwords hehe. my reason is that i want to know if he have a relationship with his childhood friend. (i kbow his childhood friend's password too) hehe
• Malaysia
18 Jul 07
Whoaa.. you some kinda hacker or something?? lol.. Well I hope you don't feel the need to check his passwords all the time yamskee. That would be really horrible if it took over your life. I've definitely been there.. Well, all the best~! :)
@yamskee (830)
• Philippines
19 Jul 07
no im not hacker. it just happen that im aware of his interests and he's using them for his passwords. not a bad thing though, it helps me as i do my investigation. but i seldom do it nowadays. i got tired of checking his account.
• Malaysia
20 Jul 07
Well, good for you~! ;D
@whyaskq (7532)
• Singapore
12 Jun 07
Are you sure your boyfriend will honestly give you the password to the inbox for you to snoop? I bet he has one secretly hidden behind his sleeves. No, I would not snoop about with a given password. To be very honest, I would be more interested in the hidden one. What a trusting relationship. lol.
• Malaysia
12 Jun 07
Hmmm.. I don't have the password to my boyfriend's e-mails. He never gave one to me. And I never gave him mine. I don't think knowing each others passwords is necessary. But last time when I did know the password, of course I wasn't stupid to check his e-mails. What I did was check his friendster account and every other account he had with the same password! And lo and behold, he didn't keep what he hid in his e-mails. =P
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@whyaskq (7532)
• Singapore
12 Jun 07
Was just teasing you. Don't take it too seriously, ok? I don't mean to be mean :P
• Malaysia
12 Jun 07
hey, of course not~! no offense taken.. thanks for your response.. ;)
13 Jun 07
I do have my boyfriends passwords but i know that he doesn't really use his internet accounts anymore so there would be no point in snooping. I think i checked his ET inbox a couple of years ago but i felt guilty and didn't do it again, he was sitting with me at the computer while i was looking anyway lol. I do have a look at his Myspace comments every once in a while, just to check that nobody is flirting really badly with him. I trust him but i just don't trust other people.
• Malaysia
13 Jun 07
LOL~! Yeah, sometimes other people can really be a nuisance! =P thanks for sharing~!
@migenKC (792)
• Philippines
13 Jun 07
i have the password of my boyfriend's all account and he allows me to have my eyes on his accountes (e-mails, friendster accounts, or even game accounts) that's the way we trust each other... he does know everything on me! as in everything....
• Malaysia
13 Jun 07
wouldn't it be great to have trust without having access to his emails or vice versa.. but i guess if that works for the both of you, then good on ya~! thanks for responding~! ;)