What happened today between my husband and a homeless man

@pilbara (1436)
Australia
June 16, 2007 10:21pm CST
Today we were in the city and my husband went into a shop to buy a couple of things. On his way out he was stopped by a homeless man who asked my husband if he could spare 2 or 3 dollars so he could buy some food. My husband had just spent all of his money and said so, but he said I have a spare sandwich here and you can have it if you want it. The guy said no I really want money. He insisted on giving him the sandwich anyway and stood around while he ate it. He said the saddest thing was not that the man was homeless, but that he had obviusly been drinking and my husband was pretty sure that he wanted the money just to go and buy more alcohol. I still think giving him the sandwich was a good thing to do.
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@misheleen73 (6037)
• United States
17 Jun 07
I think your husband did the right thing as well. Where I used to live, there was a certain off ramp where a man would stand with a sign. he had children and was out of work, God only knows where he was living. I saw him every day. And every day I went to the grocery and bought a box of Chicken. I gave him this chicken every day for over 3 months. I would see his kids sometimes, on the side of the road, eating the chicken. It made me feel good to see them eat. We can't change the world, but we can make a little difference while we are here.
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@pilbara (1436)
• Australia
18 Jun 07
Thank you for your response. That is such an awful situation. At times it feels like there are so many problems, but I agree that comparatively small things like that can make a difference. Good on you for doing that.
@Grandmaof2 (7602)
• Canada
17 Jun 07
It is more than obvious that the man did indeed want money so he could once again fuel his addiction and Yes without a doubt the best thing anyone did for this man all day was your husband giving the man a sandwich and good for him that he stood there to see the fellow actually ate it. None of us can save the world but it's good to know we are still willing to be a blessing to others and giving money to these people is a very bad choice in my eyes.
@eaforeman6 (8983)
• United States
17 Jun 07
You know, it seems better to point them in the direction of social help or work...theres usualy handyman work or some kind of work....the sandwhich was great but he needs help so that tomorrow he can eat. I hope someone gets him to a shelter or a church with a pastor or someone to really help him..
@pilbara (1436)
• Australia
17 Jun 07
He did that too, after the guy ate the sandwich. The reply to that suggestion wasn't very polite though.
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@add_im (2712)
• Philippines
17 Jun 07
You both guys did the right thing specially what your husband just did to the homeless guy. That is a good thing by giving him that sandwich he could at least say 'thank you' instead of asking the money itself and just don't appreciate the generousity you both have shown towards him.
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@pilbara (1436)
• Australia
18 Jun 07
thanks for your response. He didn't say thank you - but then again it wasn't expected that he would.
• United States
17 Jun 07
That was probably the right thing to do. Probably helped the guy sober up a bit too.
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@pilbara (1436)
• Australia
18 Jun 07
Thanks for your response. I hope it helped.
@yemberzal (301)
• India
18 Jun 07
We have not hate the sinner but sin. The person is now a diseased person and not a normal guy. He no more knows what is good for him and what is bad. The state must take care of such people. To help needy is the best human gesture, but he was not needy, he was mentally ill ,since you have given him some thing to eat, you have done your job, it is definitely a good deed and God ,on the day of judgment will reward you. God rewards for a least good deed one performs in this world.
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• Malaysia
29 Jul 08
Hey there, I really hate encounters with these type of people. Guess what? Yesterday i met one like that. I was taking train back home and this guy came to me and started being friendly with me and at first, I thought he wants to ask me go join some sort of activity because he told me that he is trying to join my religion. Then he told me that he just came out from hospital and that he lost his handphone. I was starting to pity him but then when he asked me for money, my symphaty for him turned into hatred as I feel that he cheated me and made me waste 20 minutes of my time. I gave him $2 as he asked me for $7. I just hate to be in these kind of situation.
@sugarfloss (2140)
• Malaysia
21 Jun 07
it's great what your husband did.i wish for more people like your husband.it'll do the world good!
• United States
18 Jun 07
That's what my mom does. If someone asks for money, she offers to buy them something to eat. Surprisingly, most say "yes" to the food. But, there have been one or two that don't want the food. One guy finally admitted that he wanted the money to buy booze. Which, by the way, he didn't get from my mom.
@maryannemax (12168)
• Sweden
17 Jun 07
what your husband did was good. i don't like giving beggars money,too. most beggars just use the money in playing lottery or betting on betting games. gosh. they make use of their homeless looks and great acts to fool us. better give them food. if they take it, good. if not, then don't give it to them. it's not our responsibility to keep them alive. it's their choice to stay that way. they don't strive hard to make a living. ... anne
@kareng (30643)
• United States
17 Jun 07
Your hubby did the right thing. It seems so many of these homeless people are not interested in doing what is best for themselves, or at least *some* of them and live life as a party. I don't have much pity for them when they ask for money. We have people on the streets here all over the city asking for money. You don't really know who is homeless and who is a scammer. Sometimes you can pinpoint a scammer if you see one in the same place/location every day for weeks on end and then all of a sudden you see them somewhere else or getting out of their very nice car to go set up and hold a sign by the busy intersection that will get them the most CASH. This money is tax free, easy to obtain and they can buy whatever they want with it. That is so much better than holding a job that includes doing any physical labor. There are both kinds, yes, some are homeless and needy and some are just scammers. I like the way your husband handled this. He showed compassion, and that is what we should do.