Character flaws

@miamilady (4910)
United States
June 19, 2007 7:24pm CST
What are some of your character flaws? Nobody's perfect. What part of your personality do you think you need to improve upon? Don't worry, I'm not going to just focus on the negative. I'll to a discussion on positive character traits as well. I just went to keep them seperate. To be fair, I'll tell you about mine. The first thing that comes to mind is that I am not persistent. I give up easily. The second thing that comes to mind is that sometimes I have a quick temper. It used to be a bigger problem than it is now. I have improved, but I still have my moments. Okay, now it's your turn... Be Brave. Be Honest!
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@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
20 Jun 07
I think i have alot of character flaws eveidently because I have no friends no matter how hard I try to have them and no matter what I do to please them. I used to go out of my way to do that but not any more. I still get used by others no matter what I do. Everyone acts like I do not even exist. I wish every day that I didn't exist because it is purely miserable. I work hard at everything I do but I never get any appreciation or respect for it unless I ask and then it isn't worth it to me.
@miamilady (4910)
• United States
20 Jun 07
I'm sorry that you feel that way. I'm sure you have a lot of great qualities. I don't know why some people don't know how to appreciate the people in their lives and they don't know how to recognize that things that we do for them. I hope you get the gratitude you deserve. Take care
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@saralee1 (1983)
• United States
20 Jun 07
I just had to say, I do not go out of my way to make friends, it just happens. and, if I am feeling a bit short changed,(on friends) I just dig some up from the schools I used to goto. Friends are somewhat different in your 30's, than in your 20's or younger years,because of all the responsibilities, you know? as for being 'used', I try to nip it in the bud right away. If it is easy, I may do it. If I volunteer, I definitely want to do it, and if you never hear from me again, after I do you a favor, I don't think much of you anymore. Rough, I know, but it works for me, and I am happy with it.
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@FSCAries (881)
• United States
20 Jun 07
I think I am too quick too quick to jump to conclusions usually. I also think I fall short at letting other people answer fully before I already have my rebuttle. My mom says she thinks it's because I think I am smarter than everyone else, but I don't agree. I just get narrow minded when I know what it is that I want, and narrow mindedness is actually nothing in the way of intelligence! I also give up on myself quickly these days, almost as though I know things are doomed before they even start... really selling myself short!
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@miamilady (4910)
• United States
20 Jun 07
oooh i hate it when people are planning their rebuttal instead of listeing to what I have to say! lol you do have to work on that one. And the narrowmindedness too! I think I am so open minded that I sometimes come across as naive or wishy washy. That isn't necessarily good either I guess. Thanks for your repsonse!
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@urbandekay (18278)
20 Jun 07
I'm arrogant, conceited, spiteful, greedy, lazy, cowardly, comfort loving, argumentative, lusty, self indulgent, hypercritical, unstable and judgemental but at least I'm punctual all the best urban
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@urbandekay (18278)
20 Jun 07
And probably some other bad stuff, which means I'm also not sufficiently self aware all the best urban
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@urbandekay (18278)
20 Jun 07
Yes, you're right, I am straightforward, hmmm, I'm great! Yes, oh yes, I am terrific! he he he he he all the best urban
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@miamilady (4910)
• United States
20 Jun 07
lol at least your honest. You forgot to mention straightforward. At least in how you type.
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@saralee1 (1983)
• United States
20 Jun 07
first character flaw that comes to mind is the fact I speak my mind, even at other's expense if necessary. well, not all the time, but I have been known to shock people, who think I am power hungry when I am certainly not. I just have a strong opinion about certain things.
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@ctrymuziklvr (11057)
• United States
20 Jun 07
I give up too easy also. If it doesn't work out right away that's it for me I'm off on another search for something better. Another flaw is that I won't confront people when I should. I'm trying to work on that but not doing too well on it.
@puchapox (579)
• Philippines
20 Jun 07
Nice topic! My biggest flaw is that I'm conceited. LOL. 2nd is I procrastinate a lot - i'm so lazy!. Lastly, I try to justify everything I do even when I know I'm wrong.
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@miamilady (4910)
• United States
20 Jun 07
lol on the last one. I used to do that, but I discovered that I hated it when others would do it, so I stopped...mostly.
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@wavelander (1526)
• Portugal
20 Jun 07
i'm too lazy to make things better! like this answer, i could be writing a long answer but i'm too lazy! lol
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@miamilady (4910)
• United States
20 Jun 07
I've been accused as being lazy. I hate that word! lol I am only lazy about things that I don't enjoy. Like cleaning. I enjoy writing in mylot, so I put a little more into it.Thanks for your response.
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• United States
20 Jun 07
I'm a virgo so I'm a perfectionist, which totally stinks sometimes. I could get something done quicker if I didn't want it just so. I'm a procrastinator and I have a quick temper. I wish I was a cleaner person. I clean everyday but when it comes to stuff like junk mail, I tend to put it to the side for a rainy day I guess. LOL
@miamilady (4910)
• United States
20 Jun 07
That's an interesting combination. A perfectionist and a procrastinator. I don't think that combination comes around often. Thanks for your response.
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@sunshinecup (7871)
20 Jun 07
Ok I'll just list my bad traits, 1. I am moody sometimes, I can go from happy go luck to ready to blowing up in 2 seconds. It just takes that right person to rub me a certain way. 2. I am not consistent, one week I am doing something every day and keeping up with it, by next week I have dropped that and started a new routine. I like change I reckon. 3. I smoke and I can't give up coffee completely, just temporally 4. I love my curse words and it's really hard when home to not to let them flow. 5. I really like to chew jerks up and spit them out. No really, it gives me chills to tell someone off. Ok that's it for now, I think there is enough there for ya, LOL.
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@miamilady (4910)
• United States
20 Jun 07
You sound like a lot of fun! lol
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• Canada
20 Jun 07
I tend to get upset too quick and fly off the handle and yell at everyone around when I am upset . It never lasts long but when I am mad , everybody around knows about it because I tend to yell at everyone . I get to emotional about everything and no matter how hard I try to work on this , I can't seem to calm myself down even though I know I should . I have spoke to someone about this and she said the cause for this would be that I am anxious and that until I can get rid of stess and anxiety out of my life that it will be hard for me to change .
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@miamilady (4910)
• United States
20 Jun 07
You have four kids right? I'd probably be yelling all the time too. lol I can barely handle my two. That being said, of course, if you could get it under controll it would be better for them and for you. I'm not being critical here. I know how tough it can be to change that habit. Good luck. Thanks for your response.
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@charms88 (7538)
• Philippines
23 Jun 07
Three things come to my mind, miami. Too trusting, too sensitive and too generous. I don't know if this are considered a character flaws. But I hated it. I've been trying for years to get rid of these three traits. But I guess its already embedded in my personality.
@miamilady (4910)
• United States
18 Jul 07
I think those qualities are flaws or positive traits depending on your perception. They can be blessings or curses. I have some of those characteristics. I'm also open minded. Mostly I think it's a good thing but it definitely presents it's challenges.
@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
20 Jun 07
I think my greatest flaw is that I sometimes expect too much from myself and bit more than can chew...I also am a perfectionist...not with other people...I don't expect them to be "perfect" but as for me...I think that goes with the way I grew up...always trying to seek approval from my mother...so wound up the perfectionistic type
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@miamilady (4910)
• United States
20 Jun 07
I gave up on seeking the approval of others. Some people will always focus on our flaws and not appreciate our accomplishments. It's not worth making ourselves feel bad over it.
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@donsky14 (5947)
• Philippines
20 Jun 07
my character flaws...first is, I'm really moody. And I easily get jealous. These are the two things that me and my boyfriend usually fights about. I am trying my best to change it, cause I don't want it to be the reason for our break-up. And I'm actually doing good with the jealous area...but the moody part...I'm still working on that. lol. I easily give up as well. When I feel like I can't do the task, then I'll just give up on it.
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@miamilady (4910)
• United States
20 Jun 07
I think all woman are moody. Some of us just more than others. lol I think your boyfriend just might have to accept that fact.
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@donsky14 (5947)
• Philippines
22 Jun 07
well yeah, he doesn't really have any choice but to accept that fact. lmao.
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• India
20 Jun 07
I can relate to you on the second thing as I have a short temper as well. The other short coming that I have is that I tend to speak my mind. It gets me into trouble a lot of times but I fell its always better to call a spade a spade. What do you think ?
@miamilady (4910)
• United States
20 Jun 07
I try to think before I speak, and usually I succeed. I think it's good to be honest, but we don't always need to speak our minds if nobody is asking our opinion. And there is usually a nice way of saying things. Thanks for your response.
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@webeishere (36313)
• United States
20 Jun 07
My personality is fine as far as I am concerned. That can't be changed. Accept it for what it is I say. Now character flaws? YIKES! I did this way back in treatment. Well I still do it in the A.A. program. Hahahaha! My main flaws are my impulsive and compu;sive behaviors. They tend to run in cycles. I get hooked on something and it takes over till I am satisfied that I got what I wanted out of it as far as for my needs, wants, feelings etc. I am also a huge procrastinator. I always put things off to the last second if I can do that. I also have a tendancy to be too talkative. I do not try new things as far as repairs etc as I am always afraid I'll screw up like dad always called me and told me as a kid. I will stop with those few bad traits. Thanks I think. Hahahaha!!! HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
@miamilady (4910)
• United States
20 Jun 07
Thanks for your response. You reminded me of another of my flaws. I'm a procrastinator too.
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• United States
20 Jun 07
Let's see. I'm a worry-wart. I often worry and at times it drives me crazy. I'm paranoid. I always picture the worst case scenario. In certain ways I'm a cynic. I'm not a great listener and I interrupt. I'm klumsy and at times, insecure. These are my flaws. I probably have more but these are the ones that come to mind.
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
20 Jun 07
I also have a quick temper especially when I am overtired. It has improved over the years and I don't let little things bother me as much now. Another would be I get jealous quite easily or shall i say over protective when it comes to my husband LOL its also improving I think LOL
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@miamilady (4910)
• United States
20 Jun 07
A little jealousy shows that you care. Too much jealousy can be oppressive and frustrating. Thanks for sharing.
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• United States
22 Jun 07
I am impatient with stupidity, stupid people really irritate me and I have a tendancy to be really short with them. I sometimes procrastinate when I shouldn't.
• United States
20 Jun 07
I think my biggest character flaw is that I am easily angered. I know this because I've taken the time and asked my friends to tell me when they think it happens. Another flaw I think I have is that I easily put myself down while believing any lie I tell myself. It may be a reaction to my depression but I believe that I can get over it with friends and the help from myself. Wow, this feels kinda good to get off my chest. Nice discussion miamilady.
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• India
20 Jun 07
Well to start with I dont have control over my anger,and I end up hurting people only after which I get some kind of satisfaction.At that time hurting others becomes my sole objective.I do feel guilty about it latter but the worst part is that I know I should try to improve upon myself but I don't seem to want to.You see its all very complicated.