New baby....New things?

United States
June 24, 2007 6:42pm CST
When you had your first child, did you have to go out and buy the crib, changing table and everything else that you needed? Or did someone help you purchase some of those big ticket items? When I had my 1st child 20 years ago, my sister gave me a crib that my nephew used. My husband and I went out and bought the changing table. My parents bought us the car seat. I did have a baby shower so that did help with the smaller things.
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@cynddvs (2950)
• United States
25 Jun 07
A lot of the big items I have for my daughter are mostly hand me downs. Her crib, changing table, basinet, and playpen were all hand me downs from my little cousin. The only big items I had to buy were a stroller and high chair.
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@GardenGerty (115095)
• United States
25 Jun 07
I had my first thirty years ago, and most everything was hand me down or used. The crib was from my sister, but to make it fit in the little converted upstairs we had to cut the legs off shorter. That served us in good stead when Vince learned to climb out and fall to the floor. When he was just a few months old my dad had a brand new mattress made for the bed, adult extra firm in a crib size, to see if that would help him sleep, the old one really was crinkly, they used to be covered in plastic. I bought a feeding/playing table, instead of a high chair. It had a seat down inside a little card table size table. No pinched fingers from sliding in the tray. I bought a car seat. I had a very nice shower at the church, and my family made a few things, or bought a few things.
@mgmagana (3621)
• United States
24 Jun 07
i was 17 when i had my first baby, my mom bought me a crib small enough for our room at her house, my mom in law and father in law bought us the stroller and car seat, and we had a baby shower to help buy all the other stuff, but everything else we purchased on our own.
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@Calais (10899)
• Australia
24 Jun 07
I went out and brought so much new stuff.....You soon learn though after the first how much rubbish you simply just do not need.
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• United States
24 Jun 07
I was fortunate to have most of the items bought for us. My ex-husband's mother was quite doting back then. She was delighted to buy the items that we needed. Later on when I really needed them when I was pregnant for twins, she failed to help out.
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• Canada
24 Jun 07
Hi We bought most of ourslves. We bought a bassinet playpen for the first few months. All that we needed for the new arrival we bought. The crib was not bought right away, but my mom helped with that purchase. I did not have a baby shower for either one of my kids. a few family members sent clothes, but not very much.
@bigmacnc (142)
• United States
27 Jun 07
I don't have children, does a 15 year old spoiled dog count.
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• United States
28 Jun 07
Yeah sure, you can count your dog. Did you have to buy anything special for him?
@bigmacnc (142)
• United States
28 Jun 07
Yeah, all the time. He loves baked potatoes that we have eat on, but if you bake one for him he will not eat it. He use to like hot dogs but now he prefers bologna. He is well spoiled.
@tinamwhite (3255)
• United States
25 Jun 07
When I had my first child, I had just turned 16...without my Mother and other famly members I would never have made it.....I was working so the little things, I was able to buy for myself....I did not actually have a baby shower...but we did have everything that we needed... I am so thankful that I had a strong female role to help me....I would have been totally lost without her....
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• United States
25 Jun 07
It's wonderful that you had a role model to help you through.
• United States
25 Jun 07
sorry, I meant a strong female role model....LOL
26 Jun 07
My wife and I bought every thing. We built things up from an early stage and we slowly gathered everything so it was ready for our son. My parents have got certain things but mainly toys and presents for him :) ~Joey
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• United States
27 Jun 07
That's a good idea, to buy things slowly so you don't have to get it all at once.
• United States
30 Jun 07
Well with my first I had most things handed down like cribs, clothes, changing table. I found some things at yard sales. And the rest we had to buy. My mom helped alot with that. After him I didnt think I was going to have more so I got rid of everything...then got pregnant!! So I had to buy things again!!! I had help from friends and family.
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@KarenO52 (2951)
• United States
30 Jun 07
When my first son was born, over 30 years ago, most of the things I had were given to me, either handed down, or from the baby shower. We didn't have much money back then to buy new things, so any clothes, furnishings, or toys were appreciated.
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@stacy624 (2777)
• Canada
30 Jun 07
I remember with my first daughter I went all out with all these big expensive baby items ....To soon learn how fast they grow out of it and how quick things can stain and get ruined
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@34momma (13891)
• United States
28 Jun 07
with my first, i had to buy everything new. the crib, clothes everything was totally new. and as a 17 year old girl, i did it all on my very own. i had a baby shower, but got things like clothes and blankets. no big items.
@Katlady2 (9920)
• United States
28 Jun 07
When I had my daughter almost 17 years ago, my dad gave me the wooden high chair that my mom had used for me as a baby. My dad also bought us the crib and car seat. Everything else was given to me by my sister and some of my neighbors. I got the baby shower too, which provided me with LOTS of blankets and onesies.
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@makingpots (11920)
• United States
28 Jun 07
We bought almost everything ourselves. A friend loaned me the bassinette and my parents bought us our high chair. We had a couple of baby showers that helped out a lot but for the most part it was all us.
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@jencie (13)
• United States
28 Jun 07
I have a pretty big family and so does my hubby, so we got 90 percent of the things we needed from my baby shower. My sister has 2 daughters, so I'm getting a lot of hand me down clothes, which is great because they are almost brand new, even tho some of it is 5 years old.
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@Gemmygirl1 (2870)
• Australia
27 Jun 07
Baby Showers aren't a big thing here in Oz, i only know 1 person who has had one (my cousin) & she's one of those people that wants to spend as little money as possible herself! Once we found out we were pregnant we bought everything ourselves or my Mum purchased them & we paid for them (she goes to town more than we do) but we ALWAYS paid for everything. Some of the smaller items my Mum bought but just as back up - incase we ran out! The only thing we didn't pay for ourselves was the cot - not coz we didn't want to but because my in-laws insisted on buying it & they got that when our daughter was about 6 months old so it wasn't an initial thing anyway! I think you should just do things however you can manage it, for us, we wanted everything new so we knew it was all good & safe, then we could spread it between any future kids we have & still know everything is in good condition & not broken anywhere! Baby showers i think are an ok idea as long as you don't expect more gifts once the baby arrives coz that's a little greedy i think (my cousin is like that).
@gabs8513 (48710)
• United Kingdom
26 Jun 07
Yes I did I had to buy everything new Cot Mat clothes Bottles Pram just everything lol but lucky enough a lot of People bought Clothes for the Baby so I was well stocked on that
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@aretha (2538)
• United States
26 Jun 07
well i have a big family so i got most of this stuff all we really had to buy was the little things. my mom had kept my crib from when i was a baby and she bought most of the stuff before i was even pregnet. i think the only big thing we bought was the stroller.
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25 Jun 07
We bought everything new ourselves for both our children we did get gifts from our families these where cheques for our childrens accounts we set up.
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