Can you do things alone?

@laydee (12811)
Philippines
June 26, 2007 7:52pm CST
can you do things alone? like eating at a restaurant alone. or going to the beach alone? or even dancing on the dance floor alone? share your thoughts.
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• United States
27 Jun 07
i wish i could do things by myself!! if i could i would do them all by myself no kids or husband i would love it.
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@laydee (12811)
• Philippines
27 Jun 07
Hahaha... I'm figuring you are someone who hasn't had time for herself anymore. I guess you need a break from your routine in order to recharge. Try to get an hour or two away for yourself. Sometimes, someone got to take charge for a few moments for you to remain sane. Good luck to you. And by the way, ask someone to watch your kids for a few hours. I think you got to have time for yourself or maybe a quiet time with husband as well. Take it easy, life is good.
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@roniroxas (10576)
• Philippines
27 Jun 07
hi laydee, yes i can do things alone. but now that i got four kids doing things alone make me sad. lol. i got used to the talks and arguements they have and kinda miss them when i eat out alone. but sometimes doing things alone makes me take a break from them. yes i eat at restaurants alone but never tried going to the beach or watching movies alone.
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@laydee (12811)
• Philippines
27 Jun 07
Yeah, I get how you feel. When you are surrounded by people all the time (in this case your kids), you tend to miss them or get that sense of longing whenever you are forced to be apart from them. And yeah, being alone is also a good time for you to recharge your batteries for another batch of arguments with them. It's nice that you like spending time with your kids. Good Luck to you and thank you very much for posting. :)
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• United States
27 Jun 07
Oh yeah, I do all those things alone (except dance, I don't like dancing anyway). Just because I can't find anyone to do thing with me doesn't mean I have to deprive myself. I like to do things with or without people. Sometimes, I like being by myself better because I can do what I want to when I want.
@laydee (12811)
• Philippines
27 Jun 07
hi, what else do you do by yourself that's unique? Thanks for the reply. =)
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• United States
27 Jun 07
I take road trips a lot, or I used to before my car started getting really old and gas prices really high. I go to fairs and other events, even theme parks by myself. I do just about everything by myself that can also be done with another person if I wanted to.
@laydee (12811)
• Philippines
28 Jun 07
Oh you do nice things. Yeah I'm sad that prices of gases are really high these days. I wish they could do something about it. I'm also stuck as of the moment not having any out-of-town vacations due to the prices of gas.
@whyaskq (7532)
• Singapore
1 Jul 07
I am one who likes to do things alone. That because it is more flexible where time and consensus is concerned. Things are less complex and easier to manage. However, the examples you gave, I do not do it alone. I do not eat at a restaurant alone - I find it so pathetic. I do not go to the beach alone - I find it unsafe. I do not dance on the dance floor alone - I need a partner to lead before I can dance.
@laydee (12811)
• Philippines
1 Jul 07
Yeah there's flexibility and promptness if you do things on your own. But I'd disagree about eating alone as something pathetic. It's not at all, every person needs to eat, and whether you are alone or not should not really matter. Most are were forced to eat alone due to circumstance. I hope you wouldn't blame him/her for being alone at a restaurant. About the beach, I have also not done it. But I have friends who go to parks or beaches alone to think or just enjoy nature. As for the dancing, hehe it may be true that most need a partner to dance, but not my grandmother, she can dance alone. Though she doesn't go to discos alone.
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@whyaskq (7532)
• Singapore
1 Jul 07
Ya, I understand there are people who does those above alone, and I am not saying they cannot do it. What I have shared is why I do not do those alone. It does not represent anyone or provide a generalisation. It is my own view only. I just cannot get out of those views and be sporting about it. LOL.
@laydee (12811)
• Philippines
2 Jul 07
Oh *LOL* I know how you feel. I've felt the same too. Thanks for the thoughts friend. You take care and hope we both don't need to go through all those things alone. =)
@stacyv81 (5904)
• United States
1 Jul 07
Eating at a restaraunt alone, I am sure I could do now, if I ever get time alone (I have kids, I am a SAHM) dancing on the dance floor alone, no, I dont think I could do that. I could go to the beach alone, I like shopping alone. I like to be alone sometimes, its nice.
@laydee (12811)
• Philippines
1 Jul 07
What is a SAHM? Yeah I agree that it's nice to be alone once in a while. It helps me to stop and think about me for once and not about other people. As I said earlier, there are things we can do alone but there are also those things that would be a little more fun with someone around. Thanks for the reply.
@stacyv81 (5904)
• United States
3 Jul 07
Stay at home mom =)
@laydee (12811)
• Philippines
4 Jul 07
Oh.. that's it. :) I've grown a word older today. On second thoughts, an Acronym older. Thanks
• United States
27 Jun 07
well of course you can. i don't dance, but i go to restaurants alone. i have gone to the beach alone. to stores, to alot of things. i don't understand why people seem to think that you can't do anything by yourself anymore. man. are you people that twisted? you think you need people that much? try going out by yourself. you might feel a little better.
@laydee (12811)
• Philippines
27 Jun 07
Keep it cool dude. :) Nobody said that not wanting to do things alone is twisted. To each his/her own. There are preferences in life, and maybe some people prefer to have another's company. Life for me, I can eat alone but I'd prefer to be in a group or with someone. Maybe you should try doing things with a group or with someone, maybe you'll see a little difference. Unless of course, you are surrounded with lame people and would rather do things on your own. Just my Cents.
@roniroxas (10576)
• Philippines
27 Jun 07
yeah keep it cool dude, this is just a discussion.
@darberg (55)
• Canada
4 Jul 07
I prefer my own company for many things like shopping,eating in a restaurant. I like to walk alone and like to be the only one in the house when I do housework. These are my quiet times that I use for thinking. Sometimes my mind just wanders here and there and I let it go where it wants. I find it destresses and renews me.
@laydee (12811)
• Philippines
4 Jul 07
Really, you prefer eating at a restaurant alone? That's the first for me. What other times do you want to be with company?
• Philippines
4 Jul 07
I am more proficient and efficient when I do things alone. My personality is split in two. One loner. One sociable. I enjoy having fun with people but there are times that I seek solace. Those were times where I wanna think deeply.
@laydee (12811)
• Philippines
4 Jul 07
I know how you feel. I guess all of us has the tendency to want to be alone at times and want to be sociable at other times. Yeah thinking is far greater and more effective if there isn't someone chatting with you at your side. I guess it depends on our moods if we want to be alone or we want company. Thanks for the reply and thank you for adding me as a friend. Enjoy =)
@maddysmommy (16233)
• United States
4 Jul 07
Sometimes I can but prefer to be with someone else. I have eaten alone and gone to a movie alone but have not danced alone LOL
@laydee (12811)
• Philippines
4 Jul 07
You should try dancing alone to complete the 'alone' experience. *LOL* Drop me a message or two when you tried it. Best of luck. =)
@pillusch (1148)
• Mexico
2 Jul 07
Yes, I can do them alone, almost everything, but most things I don't WANT to do alone. I can eat by myself, but is there anything more lonely than NOT sharing a meal. I can dance alone, but I have to be drunk to do that, and it's no fun.
@laydee (12811)
• Philippines
2 Jul 07
Oh I'd like to see you drunk and dancing. It may not be a whole lot fun for you but it would certainly be great for others to see you do it. *LOL* Yeah, it's a matter of the WANT more than the NEED to. Thanks for the comment. Get a person to video you when you're drunk and dancing. I'll wait for that video. Happy posting.
• Malaysia
1 Jul 07
some of the things that i'll never do by myself is going to the cinema, eating/drinking in a restaurant, go for a holiday. haha. it's not wrong, but it's just me. i just feel weird doing these things without any company. i like to be surrounded by people and love going out with my dearest friends and family.
@laydee (12811)
• Philippines
1 Jul 07
Well, I can't I wouldn't blame you. Many of us, including yours truly, wouldn't want to try going to the cinema alone nor eating and drinking alone while everyone surrounding you is with their families or with someone. I wonder, what if there's a restaurant or a food place where those who are alone is welcome. I mean, a joint that is only for those without anyone with them to eat. hahah that would be cool. =)
@kprabhu (439)
• India
1 Jul 07
alone is a sin i never do this! i never want to be alone in my life! please people dont be alone! if you have no relations just go with your friends because these are all sweet memories!
@laydee (12811)
• Philippines
1 Jul 07
As much as we want to. There are times when we can't help but do things alone. You should try to reflect on that. What if, by whatever reason, no one could accompany you in doing something like sample eating. Would you rather not eat for that day? You should try to do things alone for once, maybe, just maybe, your friends are tired of having you all the time. *LOL* I hope not!
• United States
1 Jul 07
I really don't like doing a lot of things alone, shopping and eating out being two of the biggest things I really don't like doing alone. I mean, if I really have to do it, I will, that's not such a big deal. I just don't like driving to a huge store a long distance by myself, and spending time looking around. I tend to hurry more when I go shopping by myself. I don't really stop to look around, I go in, hurry and get what I need and leave. Eating out is really a no go for me because I just feel rather uncomfortable. I'd rather be sitting with someone, not all alone.
@laydee (12811)
• Philippines
1 Jul 07
Oh I know how you feel about shopping. Me too, whenever I am alone shopping, I tend to do things much much faster. That's why I like shopping alone, since I don't spend too much time talking and hearing our suggestions. There are just times when things are alot easier when you are alone. *LOL* As for eating, same here friend. Until now, I still dread eating alone. But I have tried quite a few times. Well, it wasn't for experiment's sake or experience. I was forced into doing so.
@Coolgeth (1215)
• India
1 Jul 07
Hi Laydee!! Yes i can do all things alone but i am uninterested to do these kind of things with out a company.Also i add watching a movie in a theatre, drinking alone..i had never done this alone..Happy postings, Happy earnings..
@laydee (12811)
• Philippines
1 Jul 07
Hi! Thanks for posting in my topics. About watching a movie alone in theater and drinking, Why don't u try it one of these days and comment to us how it felt like? I know of some people who like drinking alone. These were the types in the movies *LOL* where they try to think or analyze their situation *LOL* Can anyone drink alone??
@archer1811 (1099)
• Philippines
29 Jun 07
Nope, i probably wont do that, its like im crazy and feel so boring when im alone, i always want to do that things with my husband and my son, not an idea of winding alone.
@laydee (12811)
• Philippines
29 Jun 07
I understand how you feel. If there's some people you can share your life with, why not? :) thanks for your reply. and I'm glad you always like being with your family. Truly cherish people who are family-oriented.
• Jamaica
28 Jun 07
I think the hardest thing for me to do alone is to go to the movies, i just know i would feel really akward, sitting there all by myself.
@laydee (12811)
• Philippines
28 Jun 07
Have you tried it yet? Me, I haven't and yeah I fear doing it too. Maybe it's the lack of trying that makes me feel afraid of actually doing it. I have friends who can really go to movies on their own, as seen by the many people who posted here, it isn't that bad once you have adjusted to it. Hmm... one of these days I'm going to try it. But until then, I'd try to motivate myself that I'm not a famous movie star, and people don't stare at me when I'm alone. *LOL*!
• Singapore
28 Jun 07
Sure. Pretty much everything can be done alone. I do quite a few things alone too. "Friends" are not always reliable and you may not want them along for everything too.
@laydee (12811)
• Philippines
28 Jun 07
Yeah, friends are not always reliable and you may not wante them along for everything. *LOL* For one thing, you don't want them with you when buying sexy stuff for your partner. *LOL* For another, you don't want them around if you are in a hurry to buy something. Sometimes second opinion takes such a long time thus wasting valuable time. *LOL*
@habichuelo (3104)
• United States
28 Jun 07
thats how i live my days,my friend!. Your question kind of hurt my heart,,but its ok. Someday i will get my love again to be togheter with me.Yes i can do EVERITHING alone.And you??
@laydee (12811)
• Philippines
28 Jun 07
Oh sorry if my question breaks your heart. But you know what, it's brave for someone to go through all these things by himself or herself. You should be proud of yourself for not closing life's doors just because there's no one there for now. Anyways, don't worry, sooner or later someone will come and gladly share the moments with you. For now, keep on doing what you are doing, and smile a bit more, maybe she's doing the same (being alone) like you are now. Good Luck. Thank you for posting.
@coferbox (298)
• United States
27 Jun 07
I have gone on vacation alone, and I have eaten in restaurants alone. The vacation alone was fine, I went to the mountains on an antique hunting trip and since my family doesn't enjoy antiques like I do I was able to browse to my hearts content and stop at every shop I saw. I came home with all kinds of treasures. Eating alone in public took a little more time to get use to, people do stare but I've leaned to just smile back and go back to my eating. Sometimes I take something with me to read while I eat. It just depends on the restaurant.
@laydee (12811)
• Philippines
27 Jun 07
Nice that even though you already have a family, you still get to do things on your own. There's a great satisfaction I guess by doing something you like without someone complaining about them. As for the eating alone, that's exactly how I feel, I feel as if everyone else is looking at me. Well, I guess really, it's something that needs to getting used to. =)
@gradyslady (4055)
• United States
18 Sep 07
It would make me sad, but I guess I could.