Have any one ever been through this?

United States
July 5, 2007 10:21pm CST
and then things worked out where you got back together with the one you love even after moving far away? PHEW... Well I finally did it and moved back to my home town. (My friends here in mylot know what I am talking about.) And for anyone who does not know I and my BF of two years finally broke up our relationship and I moved back to my home town 200 miles away from him. I know the move is permanent because I took my pc and my pc is not something I just up and move frequently. It was and is so hard for me to bear.... I have to look at the bright side and tell myself I am now nearer to my son (22 years old) and my mom (69 years old)and they are the two people who mean the most to me in this whole wide world. I need to vent. I just want to let you all know what is going on with me It's hard...my heart is broken... I love my BF deeply and He was the best thing that ever happened to me in my whole life (and that is no lie) I do not know what is around the corner for me. I love him and miss him so bad but I also know that it will not work yet we still call each other daily and say we love each other and miss each other. We still care about each other. It's just the lack of communication in the past that brought us to this point. I do not know what to do. I am hurt and I am sad. Have any one ever been through this?
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7 responses
• Philippines
6 Jul 07
I've been in the same situation right now. I guess i understand what you feel.It's really hard to leave someone knowing and feeling that you still love each other yet situations won't work out for you and him. It's like holding on to something you know you cant have. You have no options yet you still hoping that someday everything would work out for the two of you. Right know i'm just thinking that it would be the best thing to do for both of us.Let fate decide.The best thing you can do is to learn to let go when you have to let go.
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@liyan97 (2128)
• Northern Mariana Islands
6 Jul 07
Hello sjohnson628, I am so sorry that you are feeling heartbroken at this time! I wish I could tell you that it will all work out just to make you smile but that would be uncalled for on my part. What I can tell you is although it may seem like you have the weight of the world on your shoulder on top of your heartache, that you are not alone! I am glad to you have decided to share your experience with us, because you have chosen to allow us to open up to you. I have been through something like this before. Nonetheless this isn’t about me it is about you. I know that it hurts and you feel like there is nothing left for you in this life, but you have got to be strong! Know that if you believe that your love is still there then the only thing you both need right now is the time apart. They say that absence makes a heart grow fonder I wouldn’t be surprised if this separation only last a few weeks. I am not trying to be mean or unsympathetic to your situation, rather I am trying so hard to make you see that you have got to stay focused and positive because like you said “you still love each other and you miss each other” that tells me that you should continue to hold on the faith in your relationship! We all go through rough times and even separations, but if you truly set you heart to it you will find a way to solve the miscommunication and get back the love of your life. There is nothing I can say to takeaway your heartache sj…only time can begin to ease your pain but that is if you allow it! From my perspective you are not ready to give up, so then don’t! If you truly love him as well as him loving you, then this is just an another test in your relationship that can easily overcome if you try. Take care sj
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@aamoore (61)
• United States
6 Jul 07
First off let me say that I am sorry to hear about this. Lack of communication can kill a relationship. Did you both try to work at this communication issue? I remember last time you said he never remebered your birthday and tha hurt, but it could not have been that alone. It must have been other things that caused the rift. Anyways I wish you both all the best and what is to be must be, is what my mother always says. You have yourself a great day and hang in there, despite everything!
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@marje_09 (63)
• Philippines
6 Jul 07
well, it's a matter of miscommunication sometimes that eache one could meet into an agreement......a final one. My husband abandoned me and my daughter for the past 4 years and suddenly and suddenly filed a divorce. I have no choice but to answer the summon for that divorce hearing after all. What hard time for me to think that after he had done to our daughter he still have the courage to file a divorce.He even tried to get my daughter with her choldren and husband but he knows that i won't allowed them. What he did, he asked my daughter to put a sleeping pills in my coffee and it made me so sleepy from 9 am until 4pm. When i woke up the house was empty. I am hurt and wanted to end up mylife. Have anyone ever been this?
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• United States
6 Jul 07
It is a hard decision to break up with someone. Only love is not going to make the relationship work. If communication is the problem I think sitting down and talking to him should be done. Maybe he just doesn't realize how important that is to you. It should be to him to but guys are just different. If you two are still phoning than there is still something there between you two. At least you are living near the ones who mean a lot to you. Maybe this separation is what is needed to bring things clearer.
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@gabs8513 (48710)
• United Kingdom
12 Jul 07
Sweetie I have been through a Divorce but that brought me relief and he had killed of the Love I had for him I am living closer now to the love of my Life but we do not live together for several reasons I know it is hard for you but being apart like that will soon show you what you need and what you want Sometimes People can love one another very deeply but the rest is not there and that is sad I hope that you will be ok and that things work out either way for you Big Hugs to you
• United States
7 Jul 07
I have been there and def. done that. My first husband and I got married in 1992, well we were both young and were trying to raise a newborn, we were both under 25 at the time. Needless to say things didn't work out. He was the main love of my life. But we both went our seperate ways, got married to different people and had other children. Well fast forward to today. We have been back together for 2 years now!! We are engaged, willing to try it one last time! We have one child together, then I have a ds and dd from marriage two. He has another ds and two dd's from marriage two. So combined we have 3 girls and 3 boys. Phew!! It can happen. Never lose hope.