Are you having problems looking for a sitter or a nanny for your kids?
@christine_margot (282)
Philippines
July 6, 2007 12:32am CST
I have a full time job and my kids are often left to their nannies whenever I am at work. I have two kids and they each have their own nanny. Just a few days ago, the 2 nannies decided to leave because they do not want to take care of kids anymore. They said they would rather do household chores than to take care of my kids.
I do not have any choice but to let them go but now I am having a hard time looking for someone to take their place. I give a relatively high salary and I do not pressure them or require much from them. I give them a lot of freedom as long as they take good care of my kids.
I do not understand why they are having problems with my kids. My kids are both good and sweet boys so I do not understand why they do not like to take care of them anymore. I need to go to work but how can I leave my kids without any one to look after them.
Is it really hard to take care of a 2 year old and a 6 month old baby? I am worried that my kids will be affected emotionally if their nannies keep changing from time to time. What can I do to make their nannies stay longer?
Your answers will be highly appreciated.
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7 responses
@maximax8 (31042)
• United Kingdom
6 Jul 07
Maybe you could contact the nannies you used to have and ask what they liked and disliked about your children and home. Were they the same nationality as you? Sometimes nannies like to work in foreign countries. You might have more success getting just one nanny for both children and making caring for them when you are at work her job. Then you could hire another person to do the household chores. Good luck.
@christine_margot (282)
• Philippines
6 Jul 07
Thanks for sharing. I really appreciate it. I will follow your advice, it might work.
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@lucky_witch (2707)
• Philippines
17 Aug 07
Hmmm. I guess that would be really hard because you just cant hire someone to look after your kids. You need to find someone that you can trust that wont do any harm to your kids while you are away. Someone who will love them truly and will show concern to them genuinely. Why didnt you ask the nannies of youre kids just before they go what the problem is. At least if you cant make them stay you will know the reason why they cant take to take care of your kids. There must be a problem if they said that. Maybe your kids are a little bit naughty when you are not around. I didnt mean to offend you... I was just stating some possible problems.
@sanell (2112)
• United States
10 Aug 07
that is strange, you have a nanny for each kid, do you pay the nannies different wages due to the child's age? Are you sure you need TWO nannies? or is it because you want both kids to have the attention no matter what....Personally I think one nanny is plenty...why not try a live in nanny? If I had the money or was working a really high paying job I would look for an au pair but then again not sure. I love my kids and I am sure you love yours but there must be something that is being done incorrectly there if the nannies both left...I woudl ask them why again..
@pumpkinjam (8876)
• United Kingdom
17 Aug 07
First of all, not meaning to cause trouble or anything but yes, it is that hard to take care of a 2 year old and a 6 month old (and I must say, you must really need to work if you are leaving them at that age).
Also, again not meaning to be rude or anything, if you're at work full time, your kids might not be as good and sweet for the nannies as they are for you. I have 2 boys as well. They can be a complete pain for me sometimes(I am a full time mum) but they are absolute angels for those people they don't see often.
Anyway, the best thing to do is to get in touch with the nannies and ask them if there was a reason for them to leave. For them to leave that suddenly there must be something. Not necessarily a problem with your kids, that's just one possibility. But be prepared for whatever they say. I have a 2 year old and that is a very difficult age so it is perfectly possible that your nanny simply couldn't cope any more (particularly if she was quite young or didn't have children of her own)
I hope this helps a bit and, again, don't take it as criticism or anything, it's just possibility and suggestion.
@mykmari_08 (2464)
• Philippines
30 Aug 07
At present, my husband & I are also looking for a female nanny to take care of our daughter who just turned two this month. But we personally prefer a relative who has an experience with nannying for kids already.
I believe that finding a trustworthy nanny is pretty hard but keeping one is more difficult. People do change and sometimes, these nannies also want to try their luck in different fields: working abroad, starting their own business, or other reasons which at times, they don't tell us upfront. I don't think there is a problem with your kids. As a matter-of-fact, I know of some nannies here in our country who are paid an average wage per month, but also act as household help.
@tuffy999 (794)
• Philippines
2 Sep 07
that's the problem if you give them too much, they tend to be not contented. they demand so much. don't show that you are too dependent to them. as long as you treat them right and fair there's no reason for them to not stay. try checking out a reputable employment agency, some of them have good nannies who has the experience and good credentials. and most of the time if the nannies don't stay or finish their contract they always send a new one.good luck.
@rapolu_cs (1184)
• India
6 Jul 07
Unless and untill why they are rejecting for their stay it depends on some reason and without knowing that we cannot justify how to make them stay with your kids,anyways all the best.
