I'm protecting my son

@makingpots (11916)
United States
July 11, 2007 5:07am CST
I don't know why but I can't bring myself to write my son's name in a myLot discussion. I love it here, feel comfortable with you guys, and truly value my friends here but I feel like I have to protect him from online preditors. Maybe I have watched one too many Oprah shows or something. But I just don't want anyone gaining too much information about him through things I say. Am I being too over protective????
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@KrisNY (7591)
• United States
12 Jul 07
I don't think you are too overprotective- I'm not sure I ever put my daughter's name in either- I try not to- I call her by nickname here- I might have slipped a time ot 2 but I don't think so- I also don't use pictures of us for my avatar- I love seeing the other pictures of my friends and their children- I'm not sure why I don't- I have put a picture in a discussion- just not as my avatar.
@joice86 (1079)
• Philippines
12 Jul 07
Hi kris! Yeah, sometimes its not really that safe to put your pictures online but that's alright. And it is not bad to be overprotective.
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• United States
11 Jul 07
I'm just like you too. I don't mention names, post pics, etc. I don't think it's being over-protective. There is nothing wrong with being cautious. Especially on the internet.
@makingpots (11916)
• United States
11 Jul 07
Thanks
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11 Jul 07
dont watch oprah, watch jeremy kyle. ill be on it!
@makingpots (11916)
• United States
12 Jul 07
Do tell! Give us details.
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@misheleen73 (6037)
• United States
11 Jul 07
No you are not. You are being you. I don't like to use my boys names either. I call them my monkey boy, my eldest, my youngest. Whatever not to say their names. I did post a picture once, but I felt strange after I did. There is nothing wrong with wanting to protect our children. It's a part of being a mother. You should never feel bad about choosing to protect your son. :)
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@makingpots (11916)
• United States
18 Jul 07
thank you, misheleen73.
• Indonesia
11 Jul 07
Actually you are not doing th wrong things. I myself dont like to mention the name of any kind of people I know. But sometimes when you are closed to someone you can show tell or show them your baby so they can find out how lovely and cute baby you have, and your baby can make you proud.
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@makingpots (11916)
• United States
13 Jul 07
thanks for the response
@sid556 (30987)
• United States
11 Jul 07
no! you are being smart! This is a public forum and while everyone here seems to be very friendly and nice...anyone could be here. You should never post yours or your childrens info for the world to see
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@makingpots (11916)
• United States
13 Jul 07
thank you, sid556.
@Thoroughrob (11747)
• United States
11 Jul 07
Yoou have to do what is comfortable for you. With all the privacy issues, you have to do what is right for you.
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@makingpots (11916)
• United States
13 Jul 07
thanks
@stacy624 (2777)
• Canada
11 Jul 07
Hi there Makingposts....I don't think that there is a thing called being over protective. you really don't know who you are really dealing with on the other end. I have mentioned my children's first names but no last pictures address ect. Stick with your gut feeling trust me it will not lie to you I promise!!!! Best wishes kiddo and Happy posting Stacy
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@makingpots (11916)
• United States
13 Jul 07
thanks for the response
@charms88 (7540)
• Philippines
11 Jul 07
Hello makingpots. You have the privilege to either write down your son's name or not. You are not over protective with your decision. After all, we need to know how to separate our personal lives from the virtual world. I personally never divulge any of my personal details with anyone here. I'm a very private bunny by nature. I don't even give out my real name that easily.
@makingpots (11916)
• United States
16 Jul 07
thanks
• United States
11 Jul 07
I never use my children's names in discussions. I never really thought about it before I read your discussion. I just always put "my son", "my daughter" or "my children". I have; however, used my cat's name. LOL! I don't think you are being overprotective at all. There really isn't any reason that other people on myLot (or anywhere else in the internet) need to know his name, even if you do feel comfortable and like everyone.
@makingpots (11916)
• United States
11 Jul 07
Come to think of it, I hate put one of my dog's names in a discussion. Lol. Beware the animal preditors! Thanks for the response.
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@GardenGerty (128382)
• United States
11 Jul 07
No, you are being smart. Why risk the possibility of something bad, when this is in your power. Keep on doing that. I think most of the parents on the forum do similarly. I have let a lot spill out, and post quite a bit on my profile, but I have no small children to protect. I do not use my real name, or hubby's. You can always fall back on "better safe than sorry". It is an old saying for a good reason.
@makingpots (11916)
• United States
11 Jul 07
Thanks
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@urbangirl (1461)
• Australia
11 Jul 07
I don't think you should do anything you don't feel comfortable with - whether it's from gut instinct or whatever.
@makingpots (11916)
• United States
11 Jul 07
Thanks
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@mummymo (23707)
11 Jul 07
Well my dear friend I don't think you are! You love your son and feel very protective of him but won't do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable - that means you are following your instinct, something every good mum does! Maybe I am not being protective enough but then I too feel I am following my instinct - I do not mind people knowing my children's names or what they look like as they are well supervised and also very well educated about stranger danger and what is right and what is wrong. Maybe I am naive but I do believe my kids will be perfectly safe! We all have different parenting styles and ideas on how to keep them safe - no one should ever be criticised for trying to look after and protect their children. I think you are and will continue to be a wondeful, warm , caring and loving mum - just as you are that way as a friend! Hugs xxx
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@makingpots (11916)
• United States
11 Jul 07
Oh, mummymo, you say the nicest things. I look forward to replies from you. Thank you for the kind words. I can't wait until my son is old enough to understand about stranger danger. I know you have your children very well protected.
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@byfaithonly (10715)
• United States
11 Jul 07
No, I don't think you are being over protective. Their is no way of knowing the people here with so many and I have no doubt there are some who have bad thoughts... I may have a few times mentioned my kids names here (all adults except one who is 16) but I don't mention my grandchildren's names or post pictures of them here.
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@byfaithonly (10715)
• United States
11 Jul 07
Ok, I'm awake that should read 'There is no way' not their :( Need more caffine, long night...
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@tinamwhite (3255)
• United States
12 Jul 07
If not giving his name makes you more comfortable then I think that you are doing the right thing....you are trying to protect him and I respect that!
@Shaun72 (15965)
• Palatka, Florida
12 Jul 07
I can't say I blame you. Really I mean giving out to much information online can be dangerous. I am picky about letting people know things about me also.
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@Foxxee (3653)
• United States
11 Jul 07
It's always safe to never give people your name or your kids names on the Internet. I don't think a first name would harm anything, but giving someone your full name, they could find out more about you, like your number, address and so on. So I think playing it safe is for the best. And putting pictures up on the Internet can be dangerous to. I don't put pictures of my kids up here on myLot. To risky.
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@Lucille7 (509)
• South Africa
11 Jul 07
Gosh I have never thought about somebody trying to get to my children and stuff like that through the internet... how weird is that. Can they actually do that hey... it is not like we put our addresses and stuff in so that they can trace us... but I am sure anything is possible.
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• Canada
11 Jul 07
I don't put my son's name down either and their are no pictures...not even of me or my husband.... I always check my typing before I post as sometimes I type his name without thinking about it and then have to change it before I post. I think we are wise makingpots. There are others that have mentioned the fact that no one puts out thier address but still...I would far rather be safe than sorry. I really don't think we can be overprotective when it comes to the internet with ourselves or our children!
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@makingpots (11916)
• United States
13 Jul 07
thanks
@joice86 (1079)
• Philippines
12 Jul 07
Hi makingpots! Yes, you are right, though we don't know you personally, it's not really right to talk about people here in mylot specially if his your son. Maybe someone might read the discussion and that person knows your son then it is not a good thing. So that's alright, it's ok to be protective.
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