Are you afraid to show your real SELF to others?

@joice86 (1079)
Philippines
July 13, 2007 12:46am CST
Yeah, I think I am. Why? Because I grew up feeling that everything I do is wrong in other's people eyes thats why, now, I am so afraid to be my real self. Or should I say I really don't know who I really am. That's why at times I just want to be alone. How about you? Can you say that you can really be REAL?
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@stephcjh (32303)
• United States
13 Jul 07
I am definitely afraid to show my real self because people do not accept me anyway for who I am or try to be. I am not sure anymore who I am either because I have tried very hard to fit in alot of places and still come out feeling ike an oddball. I always want to be alone because I never fit in either and no one listens or hears a word I say. They cannot take the time to comprehend or understand where I am coming from.
@EvanHunter (4028)
• United States
13 Jul 07
I have been real most of my life but I am also a quiet person when it comes to conversation. I can type volumes of things I care about and the way I feel but when it comes to speaking I rarely run at the mouth. It usually has to be something I am very passionate over to get me to talk alot.
• Philippines
13 Jul 07
There are times I am but those times were when I just got up from bed. I wouldnt want to show such horrible sight. LOL. But I am not really afraid to show my real self. You could even notice that I had placed my real photo on my aviatar. I always like it more to show my real self and let people decide if they could like me or not.
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@Nardz13 (5056)
• New Zealand
13 Jul 07
Hi there. Yes I can say, I can be myself and I choose to be exactly just that. Fortunately for me I was never around people who gave me negative judgement for things I did. Although I was around certaint negative people, I dont think they affected me and the way I am today, which is loving me for who I am, accepting myself for who I am and what I am capable of. I will never ever try to be something Im not, or act like something Im not, because as Ive said before in another post... Being the actor and not yourself, means you will never learn to know who you are, what your personal strengths and gains are and you'd never know how to be yourself... Good luck in future...
@kamran12 (5555)
• Pakistan
13 Jul 07
Hello joice86! I do share my real self with other but only to a certain extent and limit, not beyond that, and that boundary isn't far when I start sharing. I still have much to share. I think that it's not that I am afraid to share, rather it has to do with the fact that not many people can take it in. We all have our experiences in life much different than others. I wouldn't like someone blaming me as a liar and I won't blame someone if he/she says so after reading my unbelievable story which though is true for me but not understandable for others. My reason of not sharing something is not my fear that other people will say it is wrong but only that they won't buy it. I don't think you shouldn't share just because somebody says that you are wrong (in ethical, moral or such sense) and you shouldn't be afraid of your real self. You can always be real and not too much self revealing at the same time. Whether or not you share yourself, just be yourself:-) I hope I don't sound preachy!? as I would hate to sound like one1
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@wisconsin26 (3859)
• United States
13 Jul 07
Never be afraid to be yourself, however those words can't change a person. Alot of people are like that from growing up though. I myself am too. I have always been the kind that never spoke my mind or what was on my mind, i never thought as myself as pretty though i am. I never thought i could be the person i am today.. A person who knows what she wants and that will do it, pretty simple. I don't hold things back anymore i learned over the years that holding it back just makes things worse and not to mention not good for yourself.. So yeah i am real because i changed who i used to be to me who i am today, believe me it feels nice too.
• United States
14 Jul 07
No I am not a phony and I do not like phony people. With me what you see is what you get.
• Moldova
14 Jul 07
I think it is better to be always positive, i enjoy being myself and enjoy real life, i think it's all about what you think about yourself...
@rb200406 (1825)
• India
29 Jul 07
Actually i think everybody here don't show there true self always.Everyone is acting in front of all.Everybody is concerned that i might hurt anyone by my saying or honesty.I try to be honest to everyone but if i know that i can hurt anybody i try not to say anything.Actually you have to be real nor you will loose your true identity.
• United States
14 Jul 07
At 48 I am finally the real me and I do not care what people think. For a lot of years I was afraid of what people would think if they found out who the real me was. I would bend over backwards to help people I would do what I could for someone else putting myself last for the sake of being loved. I lost myself. When I started sticking up for myself I did lose some of the people that where using me but I gained respect in myself and I gained some real friends. I also grew up feeling like what ever I did was not good enough. I feel that some day you will learn to love yourself and find strenght to shine the true you or find the true you. What helped was finding the right antidepressant and couseling and learning to let go of some things.
@comgurus (11)
14 Jul 07
if am not real, what will i be. i don't want be anybody else. i love who i am. i kept myself from people for long. i don't want to make them get angry. but some how, its like they don't care. some time i have solution to some thing but i will keep quite for fear of mistake because i don't want people to laugh at me. some how i could feel i was killing my talent. i remember the person who refuse to use his talent and it was taking from him to the person who make good use of his talent. i want make good use of what God give me, if u like, like it. if u don't like, its ur problem. many people did not like my new self but am sorry i can't please them and displeas myself. it was from being myself i found out that i have a style. it was from it that i found out am among the peopel who will create a foot print on earth. the one that peopel will talk good about. be yourself my freind. it is the most lovelly way to enjoy youor life.
@gsat2002 (22)
• China
14 Jul 07
I know that I am afraid to show myself to others.But I think what I show to others is real me.I am endocentric.What do you think what are real you?
@ratburn (939)
• Philippines
14 Jul 07
i have exactly the same thoughts as you, joice86. it's hard to be my real self for fear of being judged. at some point, you just want to say "so what!", but i can't help but care about what others have to say. i can only be my real self when i'm with my true friends. but there are still times when i'm even more comfortable with a stranger because who cares with what that stranger has to say. he can't judge me. he doesn't know me. unlike with my friends, that what they have to say really matters to me.
@lynboobsy11 (11345)
• Philippines
13 Jul 07
Ohh how bad that your treat your self like that.. Maybe you just feel it that because your still in a situation that you are not still adjusted, alone and no friends there in your new place now. But don't worry too much friend. Anyway me, no I'm not afraid to show what is real me to others. Eventhough they said that I'm not easily to get with. Most of my friends now, they told me that there first impression to me is not that good they already judge me even they not got along with me. But now were friends already they told me that It was only an impression. As much as possible I want to show sho I am so that no one will accused me that I'm not real..
• United States
13 Jul 07
I think over the years I have overcome my desires to hide from myself or others. There is just too much wasted energy trying to pretend to be someone I am not.