What the hell is my friends problem???

Canada
July 15, 2007 12:43pm CST
I have this friend who never seems to be happy for me... Recently when my hubby purchased a new car, she commented on how nice it was, but she wondered if we could really afford it... Then we were looking at renting a house, again, could we afford it?? My hubby and I both work full time, and make well over $3,000/mth. It is really starting to piss me off that whatever comes out of her mouth cannot be anything positive always negative.. I feel like just telling her off somedays when she acts like this...Arugh!! Have any of you been in this type of situation??
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21 responses
• United States
16 Jul 07
ignore her. be happy you can get by.
@DeenaD (2684)
• United States
16 Jul 07
Sorry to say, but it sounds like your friend is jealous.
@magikrose (5429)
• United States
16 Jul 07
I have a friend who does that too and all I tell her is that it is none of her business if we can afford it or not. It is our business. The thing is as long as you budget your money right you can afford to get the things you NEED.
@kparab (301)
• United States
16 Jul 07
its better to ask her why she is always negative with you. its better to have clear understanding other wise the friendship won't last for long
@youless (112177)
• Guangzhou, China
16 Jul 07
I think a person like this won't become to be my good friend. I don't like friends like this. It's just so shallow. In fact she may be just jealous to you. Women always like to compete to each other.
@cuif_d (20)
• United States
16 Jul 07
I have these types of friend they seem to be jealous about me, just ignore them because i rather not be their friends because friends will always be there for you and be happy when your happy. Some friends are bad and some are good.
@rusty2rusty (6751)
• Defiance, Ohio
15 Jul 07
I would speak to her and find out why she is doing it. She may not realize it. Or possible she lives on a budget and that is how she thinks....but if it is to personal. You need to speak up and say something. That is the only way you can change things...communication.
@nana1944 (1365)
• United States
16 Jul 07
Sounds like the green-eyed devil has her by the hand. Just plain old jealousy. She sounds really resentful of the fact that you can afford things. Maybe you should ask her what is bothering her about this.
@venshida (4836)
• United States
16 Jul 07
You know I have a friend like that. She is not negative towards my financial choices, but she is negative about every relationship. Do you think she might be jealous? I think in most cases that's the scenario. Unfortunately some people hate to see others succeed, and always wants to knock them down. I would say limit your conversation about your financial goals or discuss how you feel with her.
• Philippines
16 Jul 07
My first question would be- How long have you been friends? If she really is your friend she should be happy for whatever achievement you would have. Or she might be jealous of what you are having , I think you really better talk to her and tell her how you feeling so that she will be aware that she hurts you. And if she is really just concerned to you. remember that being open to one another where it could hurt you is still the best thing that friends should do to maintain their friendship. There could be reason why she is like that. find out girl.
@fly_shay (333)
• Philippines
16 Jul 07
well, I haven't experienced that one but this is somewhat almost the same.I have this friend telling her husband why can't he stop his work and transfer her in our place.That means losing his job just to be with the family and then told him to look at us(me and my husband ) we did afford to have a car (although a 2nd hand one) even if I'm the only one who worked.When she said that to me, I was surprised and I ask myself, don't I have the right to have that?I don't know if i was just too sensitive but that was how I felt.
@guss2000 (2232)
• United States
16 Jul 07
It sounds as if she is either really worried about your finances, or just jealous of you because you are able to do things that she isn't? Maybe you could tell your friend that you have your finances under control and she doesn't need to worry about you. Luckily, my friends dont meddle in my finances, but sometimes I have family that do-- I just blow them off when they question me about things though. it's easier that way :) Good luck!
• Atlantic City, New Jersey
16 Jul 07
I have a co-worker/ friend at work that has the same negative attitude- and me and her have gotten into it quite a few times because I hate when people cannot be genuinly happy for me. For instance- my avatar is a picture of my dog- I just got her about 2 1/2 months ago- now this co-worker knew I had been looking to adopt a dog for a long time- and when I finally found Karma- her attitude seemed more like jealousy to me then anything else- because her first response was - geez are you going to be able to handle this- that really pissed me off- so yes- I do deal with the same people. I used to hang with her outside of work- but cut that to a minimum because I get so tired of her negativity.
• Saudi Arabia
16 Jul 07
Hahaha, the question is: is your friend really your friend? She could be jealous of you or she could be just a tactless person. In either case, you ought to tell her to mind or own business. Or better still just don't tell her anything about your life!
@mrsbrian (1949)
• United States
15 Jul 07
I have been there done that It sounds like she is jelious and dosnt want you to get ahead, I dont know why friends think they have to try to run your finances or homelife, I told my friend that if she was any kind of friend she would stay out of our business unless asked for her opinion , she was angry but only for a little while and than she came back around and now things are fine.
@piggyxoxo (169)
• Canada
15 Jul 07
i had a friend who was very snooty. i dont think that she does it on purpose, she just does not use her brain when she makes comments. she would make snide remarks every so often. one day i just confronted her and told her that it was rude. she said that it was out of habbit. i told her that i did not appreciate her habbits. she apologized and tried to "think" before she opened her mouth. i still hang out with her once in a while. i think that you should tell your friend that it bothers you and talk about it. especially if you two are close. then the friendship might be worth saving. if you dont really care that much then you should just stop hanging out with her or just drop her. i really cant stand people who say stupid things. have a nice day!
@Feona1962 (7526)
• United States
15 Jul 07
My sister used to do this to me..saying that I shouldn't have this car and pay that much insurance and I don't need this or that..I feel it was a jealousy issue with my sister and maybe that is how your friend feels..maybe she envys you and wants to be like you..it shouldn't matter to her what you spend your money on and vice versa..my sister has way more money than I do, she just couldn't control me after I moved away..I am not sure what it could be with your friend but she sounds jealous but I could be wrong because I don't know her..
@raychill (6525)
• United States
15 Jul 07
I'm not one to blame things on jealousy but I would say it's either jealousy or maybe your friend is having money problems? I'd see if there's something bothering your friend and maybe that's why she's acting this way. Don't just chalk it up to her being obnoxious or rude or even jealous. I'd talk to her about it. Talking is always the best way to resolve things.
@wiccania (3360)
• United States
15 Jul 07
Maybe she's jealous? It's the only thing that makes sense to me. Perhaps she can't afford any of these things and thinks that no one else can (or should) either. Next time the subject of something like that comes up, beat her to the punch and say "Yes, we can afford it."
• India
15 Jul 07
lolz..i guess she is plain jealous of ya or a pessimist..or mayb a loser in lyf..i dunno which one is the correct one but i dun think her advices r wel meant..jus mah two cents though.1!