How long would you stay at a job you had come to hate?

United States
July 17, 2007 2:49pm CST
Out of curiosity, If you had come to hate your job, I mean really hate it and the people you work with, how long would you stay there? At what point would you say, "I've had enough! I Quit!" What would most influence your decision?
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• United States
19 Jul 07
i usually quit when i see me getting added to the schedule more often when the people i know are calling out to goof off,and yet i can't get one day off for an appointment. or when i have hours disappearing (it's rampant here). or when i consistantly don't have the supplies to do my job and get yelled at for it. although i did leave one job that offered me a 5 cent raise after a year (and i'd been there 4 years at that point),and told me i "got more of a raise than some people" after they'd committed all of the above.
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• United States
11 Oct 07
oh..you know what i really loved? when people i trained got promoted over me. i'm good enough to train,but not elevate? rrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.
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• United States
11 Oct 07
Yeah, that would be a big disappointment. I just watched The Devil wears Prada last night, and that happened but I'm sure the circumstances were much different in your case, lol. The girl that did the training but didn't get the position she wanted was real snooty and deserved what she got. Sometimes companies don't always make the best decisions. They sometimes keep you in the same position as you are too valuable where you're at and they know you would be hard to replace.
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• United States
16 Oct 07
that's what i figured in most cases.they needed me exactly where i was.
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@abbey19 (3129)
• Gold Coast, Australia
18 Jul 07
I walked out on a job only once in my lifetime because I felt driven to it. I am normally a very responsible, loyal person wherever I work, but at this particular office one girl made my life miserable every single day - the reason being that I was her boyfriend's secretary, (he was married to someone else and cheating on his wife), and this girl couldn't cope with me going into his office every day to take dictation! Can you believe that? I stuck it out for a year, hoping she would see that I had no interestin him that way, but then one day I decided I had taken enough crap off her and just walked out, telling my boss why. I never regretted it.
• United States
19 Jul 07
Well you know what they say about cheaters. I'm sure she had every reason to suspect any other attractive woman, lol. I've only had one I actually walked out on too. I can usually give a two week notice to make sure I don't leave any thing pending. I hated to do it when it happened, but I reached the breaking point when I had to go on a collection call to try resolving a billing dispute that was holding up payment from a customer that always paid ahead of the due date. When my business partner lied to me and the customer when we got him on speaker phone, I lost it. He told our customer that I had never given him the message that he needed to call & resolve a dispute. This was a complete fabrication since I had been reminding him 2-3 times each day for 2 weeks. It was the final straw after I had spent 2 months getting our computer network repaired after he had opened a Christmas virus I told him not to. We already knew our virus software couldn't clean the bug, but he thought it would be ok to open it after Christmas. GROAN! I had definately reached the "Enough is enough! I quit!" stage and was out the door within 2 hours.
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@abbey19 (3129)
• Gold Coast, Australia
20 Jul 07
I can understand how you felt, and exactly why you quit - I would have done the same had I been in your shoes. Good on ya! I don't take lying from anybody, and especially not from my boss when he makes me out to be a liar. You did right.
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@GardenGerty (118117)
• United States
18 Jul 07
On the surface, I would tell you that I would be out of there as soon as I could secure a comparable position, but that is not necessarily true. In service type jobs, for instance, you may hate the job itself, you may detest and or distrust some of the co workers, but you might have a deep compassion or a serious passion about the people you serve, and so, loving the people, you could very well stay, just a little longer, and try to be a catalyst for change.
• United States
18 Jul 07
You are a very compassionate person GardenGerty. :) Hubby is in the construction industry so I'm not sure how much is going to change without a complete change of scenery. Hopefully he can still his tounge long enough to find a better position as we depend on his income. Getting a demotion and paycut aren't sitting too well with him at the moment though.
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@GardenGerty (118117)
• United States
18 Jul 07
I reached a place at a job where I felt slapped in the face by admin. and was made to feel as if I was "the employee from hell" but I got additional training in another field, and planned a full year before leaving. It was ironic that the same people were always ocming up to me the next year telling me how much they appreciated me. There has been a lot of politics that have continued since I left. Hubby keeps getting in similar, and has been out of work quite a bit, so I also work a second job. Some days I like my jobs, other days I am just exhausted. But I stay because of the people I serve. He does the same in the position he is in now.
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@faith210 (11233)
• Philippines
21 Jul 07
Hi paidreader! If ever I came to a point of really hating my job and the people I work with, then surely, I won't waste my time working with them anymore. The money I may earn there would never compensate on the stress I'll be getting from that. No one and nothing can influence me or trigger me to say I quit, it would simply the mere fact that I can't be effective and efficient if I hate my job and the people I am working with. Well, that's just my point of view. Have a good day!
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@tuffy999 (794)
• Philippines
19 Jul 07
as soon as i feel i'm not productive anymore. i'll quit
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• United States
30 Jul 07
I guess it would depend on the job then.
• Singapore
19 Jul 07
I'm sorry that this had not happened to me before. I'm a person who will only take up a job that I like in order to be my best and to upkeep my name.
• United States
30 Jul 07
I've liked most of the jobs I've taken too, but they don't always stay the same as they started. ;)
@healer (1783)
• India
18 Jul 07
Actually for me if i am not comfortable with anything in my working place i just don't care. I quit i won't care about getting another jog or not but all i care is to enjoy what i am doing. And if the environment is not my type i better go out hunting for another.
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• United States
30 Jul 07
Luckily I've enjoyed most of my jobs. You are right though, it is important to enjoy what you're doing.
@aprilgrl (4460)
• United States
18 Jul 07
I would stay as long as I can that is if I can handle it. So I would try to look for another job and if I got another job then I would say to the old job goodbye and take this job and shove it!
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• United States
30 Jul 07
Financial security is a very important consideration. :)
@Omoidasu (28)
• Philippines
18 Jul 07
I wouldn't stay in a job that I hate. Wasting time is so hard, you procastinate a lot until you're in a rut and suddenly you don't know what you're doing and what you're doing it for. It really is best to quit while you're ahead. You ought to know if you're unhappy doing something right? Who likes hearing, "Boy, you look miserable!"
• United States
19 Jul 07
Hello and welcome to MyLot Omoidasu! It really is better to have a job you can enjoy, but it may depend on whether it's the job or the people that make you hate what you're doing. :)
• United States
18 Jul 07
I'd probably leave the job as soon as possible, depending on how much money I had at the time and if I was being offered a better job. You're at your job on average 40 hours a week, there's no sense in staying somewhere for that much time at a place you despise.
• United States
19 Jul 07
Hello and welcome to MyLot wackeytiger! Luckily there are 4 companies hubby could go to in town. He's checking with them as he continues working, so hopefully it can be a Friday "I Quit" and start a new job on Monday, lol. :)
@venshida (4837)
• United States
18 Jul 07
I would stick it out until I find something compatible. I would hate to leave a job and don't have anything else lined up. I guess I like security.
• United States
19 Jul 07
LOL, I think most of us do. :)
@abroji (3247)
• India
18 Jul 07
That depends on many factors. In the first place the job is needed for me to lead a decent life. If there are real chances for getting at least a sme type of job if I quit, I will do that at the earliest. Otherwise I will compromise with the situations. However if the circumstances deteriorate to the extent to affect my integrity and individuality I will be constrained to utter those unpleasant words. Everything depends on the situations. Thank you.
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• United States
19 Jul 07
That is very true. :)
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@makingpots (11920)
• United States
18 Jul 07
Sorry to read that your husband is in this position. I have been there and I know it can bring you down pretty fast. I had an excellent support system around me, doing everything they could to make the other areas of my life as manageable as possible until I could get out of the situation. Don't let him stay until he is desparate to get out. He will get a healtier, better fitting job if he is in good mental/physical/spiritual condition while interviewing for a new position. I hope it works out for you soon. Best wishes.
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• United States
19 Jul 07
Thanks makingpots! I'm definately his support system, so I can relate, lol. Unfortunately, he's in the doghouse at work right now & getting the worst of the jobs to deal with. When he called me at lunch today, he did have a lead on another company in town that may be going into production on a new building, so maybe he can make the change soon. :)
@shmeedia (1044)
• Canada
18 Jul 07
i could easily add "how MANY jobs did you do this at?" ;) i've had quite a few experiences like that. i think the longest i stayed at any one job i hated would have to be 2 1/2 years. all my co-workers used to tease me 'so i thought you were quitting' ;) coz i just kept showing up to my shifts, and they all expected me to just disappear one day. i was working at a film animation company that was run by a horrible boss, with moronic 'puppet' workers below her. i ended up staying that long because i couldn't find something that paid equal or better. i did a transitional period moonlighting at a better animation company for my last 3-4 months with the (crappy) company. so working 7 days a week most of the time ;) until i finally felt stable at that second job to entirely quit the first one. i guess the second longest i've spent hating and not quitting a job was 7 or 8 months. my boss railroaded me into staying one more month one more month until it was 8 months! we had heated arguments at least once a week, but he didn't want to let me go since he needed me, even though i'd already given my resignation months prior! ugh.
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• United States
19 Jul 07
LOL, I had a job like that before. It put me in a real bind to work beyond my two week notice, but I did it so I didn't have to deal with numerous long distance help calls after I moved. Let's say it was a rapid training course for my replacement, lol. Unfortunately, that left me with packing a 2 bedroom apartment by myself, the same week my daughter started 2nd grade. It was a pain to start her at a school she would only be at for a week, but I had a lot to get done with only 1 week before the truck arrived to move us. groan...
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• United States
18 Jul 07
I went through that on a good job I had. I did not really hate the job that much. I hated how I was being taken advantage of. I took it for a few months then one day the *itch got slick with me. Leaving me all the rooms to go to. I told her off and quit my job right on the spot. I was offered another floor to work on but it had got too out of hand for me.
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• United States
18 Jul 07
Luckily I have enjoyed most of my jobs. That doesn't mean I wasn't happy to leave some of them by the time hubby transfered, lol. I've only walked out on one job, but after 6 years it had gotten to the point that it would have cost me considerably more to have stayed any longer. I figured it was better to cut my losses before they got worse. Hubby's the one whose ready to quit this time. I just hope he can get a new position before he calls it quits. We depend on his income, but it's hard for him to go back in after a demotion and a paycut. I know he'd be happier with another company but it can take time to line one up. :(
@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
18 Jul 07
If the situation had become so unbearable, paidreader, I would be doing everything in my power to find another job(even if I had to start my own business). I cannot imagine working in an evironment that I hated so much. It's kind of like your home-you wouldn't continue living in a place where you were miserable.
• United States
18 Jul 07
Actually it's hubby. I work from home and earn a little extra online, but hubbys income is primarily what we depend on. I'm just hoping he can be patient a little while longer so he can get another position lined up before quitting this one.
@brokentia (10395)
• United States
18 Jul 07
That would all depend on what may income was covering. If my income was the sole income, then I would not quit until I had another job. But if my income was of non-necessity...then I would probably be more inclined to leave the job after discussing it with my partner. So...it depends on if I truly need it or not.
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• United States
18 Jul 07
I agree that if it's the sole income, there's alot more to consider. I'm trying to convince hubby to be patient & get another position lined up before doing something he'll come to regret. Unfortunately, we depend on his income so quitting really isn't an option at this point. My truck broke down just before I was to start looking for a part time job, so the timing hasn't been in our favor. :(
• United States
18 Jul 07
I would honestly wait about a month and if it doesn't get any better I would start looking for a new job. What would influence my decision is that if I wasn't well repected or get paid what I was worth.
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• United States
18 Jul 07
That's what my hubby is facing at work right now. It's hard to convince him to keep working there after getting demoted and a paycut because of false information given to the bosses. I'm trying to steer him toward checking with the other companies in our area so he doesn't have to put up with it anymore, but we depend on his income, so quitting doesn't really work for us right now. I'm hoping the bosses will quickly see the falsehoods for what they are and that things improve, but once there's a lack of trust with your coworkers, it's time to move on. Preferrably sooner than later.
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@vijigopi (991)
• United States
18 Jul 07
As soon as I realise I hate my job I start trying to find the next one! And as soon as I get another one, I will be giving my notice to say bye bye. If it's really very very bad, I would have to say byebye sooner even if I had to pay $$$ to get out of it early. So far, I only had one such job and I stayed in it just 20 days. The first week was enough to tell me it was not the job for me. It was clean s***. I didn't even wait till I had another job because it was so disgusting!!
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• United States
18 Jul 07
LOL, I guess the situation would determine whether to give notice or not. ;)
18 Jul 07
My work experience showed that once I started getting bored with the job it'd be about 3 months later that I would be looking for another job. Out of every 12 months I'd usually worked about 8. How's that for a lousy work history
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• United States
18 Jul 07
Hi JMCarebear! At least you didn't stay once you were dissatisfied with the job. LOL, at one point I could say I never stayed at a job for longer than two years, but it was mainly due to my husbands work transfers. I managed to stay at one for 6 years and it wound up being messy and costly experience for me. That was one that I said "I Quit!" and walked out before it it could get any worse.