How would you respond if one of your children were killed?

@AnnaB87 (761)
United States
July 22, 2007 11:01am CST
By a hit and run driver? And what would you tell your other children?? Our son was recently killed by such a driver, and after two nearly three months, they finally decided to file charges then this driver was released on a very small bond in my personal opinion. This just seems so hard and I don't know what to tell my kids really, about why someone would decide to get in a vechical and decide to just run someone over, or whether or not they decided to they did, and then went home. Anyway, how should I respond when my little ones ask me why? How would you respond?
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@wiccania (3360)
• United States
23 Jul 07
Sit them down, explain to them what happened. Be honest. It might be a little upsetting, but it will also give them a good reason to be extra watchful when near or crossing the street.
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@AnnaB87 (761)
• United States
24 Jul 07
The driver that killed our son ran off the road in order to do so, our son was not crossing the street just walking home. It makes no sense at all/
@wiccania (3360)
• United States
25 Jul 07
That's horrible. But it might make them more careful just being near the street, you know? And that watchfulness might rub off on their friends and could very well save a few lives.
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@rachelcaron (1680)
• United States
23 Jul 07
I am so sorry for your loss. I don't know what to tell you. That must be tough. I would say something like sometimes bad things happen and there's nothing that we can do. We should just continue to live life the the fullest and not worry about these things happening. You should be happy for what you have now.
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@AnnaB87 (761)
• United States
24 Jul 07
I am thankful for what I have now but it is still hard and I do not understand why this happened at all. It is so hard though knowing someone just killed our ds and then proceeded on down the road, never even slowing down at all.
@patgalca (16371)
• Orangeville, Ontario
22 Jul 07
I am sorry about what has happened to your son and to your family. I know it must be devestating and can't begin to imagine what you are feeling. A friend of ours lost their 17 year old son in a car accident earlier this year. It was heartbreaking. Their oldest and their only son. I don't know how they can make it through. I guess their faith helps. In this case the person at fault was the boy himself as he was driving too fast. How do you come to terms with that? For the last 3-4 weeks I have turned on the TV news at night and seen at least TWO fatal traffic accidents in the Toronto and outlying areas. The are devestating crashes and it scares me. I don't even want to DRIVE on the highways. I hope I never have to deal with losing a child. I saw a story on a newsmagazine last night where a man was charged after killing this woman's son. People always say there is closure when justice is served but she said there is never closure when you lose a child. Justice makes living with it a little easier, but there is never closure. God bless you and your family.
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@AnnaB87 (761)
• United States
22 Jul 07
I wish I would just wake up and this nightmare be over, but I don't believe I will ever ever get over the loss of my son. He was the only one of our children that I could really connect with on certain subjects, but he is gone, And now everything is even harder than before, I am so tired of trying to figure out what to do. About anything. And I feel like the person who killed our ds is going to ty to get out of it by pretending that he did not know what happened. Somethings are just plain hard I guess.
@soccermom (3200)
• United States
22 Jul 07
I really don't know how you respond. I guess the only answer would be is to tell them you don't know why this happened, but that you believe justice will be served. I guess it also depends on how you're doing with the grieving process. It's hard to tell kids things you don't neccessarily believe yourself. I am so sorry to hear of your loss. My hubby got upset at me today becasue we live at the bottom of a hill that also happens to curve. We have a lot of drivers that fly through here, don't slow down and don't pay attention to what a dangerous portion of street this could be. Our mailbox gets hit at least once a month, as does our neighbors. Anyway, I was in the front yard weeding my flowerbed today and my 20 month old was riding his big wheel in the driveway. I looked up and he was right on the edge of the street. I yelled at him to get away from the road, which he did promptly. Not even 45 seconds later this crazy guy came flying around the curve, not even on his own lane (lucky there was no head on crash there) and almost took the mailbox out. This guy was probably trying to go 55 in a 25. If my son had been one foot out in the street he would've been hit, and no doubt killed. It made me sick to my stomach, so I picked my son up and we went into the backyard instead. My hubby said that for me to stop working in the front was ridiculous, but it gave me the heebies to think of what might have happened. Like I said Anna, I don't know how I'd respond. I commend you for being so strong for your other two children.
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@muralimn (534)
• United Arab Emirates
23 Jul 07
It's really sad that you lost your loved one. IT must be a tough time for you. I don't know what to tell but I just pray you and your family have the strengh to bear the pain. God bless you and your family.
@Angela07 (202)
• United States
23 Jul 07
i dont know what i would do because that is a very complicated question....dang....that is very deep.....i dont know why the drivr would go back home...why? he had just killed a child....."your sin will find you out" i think thats a bible verse.....turn to religion.....