i'm so frustrated

Your welcome. I can sure understand that. It is awful we have to trun to our family members for help because some deadbeats won't step up to the plate and do what they should do without being made or told to do it.

i figured out my monthly budget and not including food for the month and and personal items like shampoo etc and clothes for when my daughter grows out of hers i'm going to have 65$ left over for that stuff. i can't count on his child support comming in every month cuase he barely ever pays that. but then he considers himself a good father cause he takes her every second weekend. it just really upsets me how he still gets to take her and do all the fun stuff but then not contribute to actually raising her and keeping her fed. i don't know what he expects me to do. i'm doing everything i can to raise her and she needs daycare, she's 4 she can't come home to an empty house but appearently that would be ok to him cause he won't help out.

thanks, i don't think doing online work will do good now. i won't have time, between school and traveling an hour and a half to and from school and taking care of my daughter and homework, i'm definately not going to have time for a part time job or working online. but good news is that my parents have agreed to help out a little.

ok but the problem is this. the courts say he has to pay half of day care but what if he just doesn't pay. they can't take that directly from his pay cheque, can they? right now it also says he has to pay child support but he is still getting away with not paying and nothing seems to get done. i even go through a third party government thing for that. i'm definately calling a lawyer tomorrow to see if and how they could force him to pay

I don't know how they work it where you are but here they can do that...Do call your lawyer because this just isn't right..I don't know why people have to go through this. There is no way he should be able to get away with this..I am sorry I am not more help...I feel for you...

he's only saying that as an excuse not to pay. he has no other reason so appearently cause i didn't tell him sooner that i was thinking of going to school that he thinks that could be used as an excuse not to pay. even though i only decided this a few days ago myself that i was going to return. appearently i should of thought of it sooner and told him before i started getting things ready to return.

thanks for the advice. i'll be travelling an hour and a half each way to school. my daughter will be staying in our town to go to a french school where she is in a special program for mostly english speaking kids going to a pure french school every day and i can't get that near my college or the daycare in my college won't do me any good either. i've asked about subsidized daycare and i'm not able to get that either. i have applied for osap which is a student loan. they give me 1300 for a dependent child so that won't pay for daycare for the year, not even close. i've spoken to my mother about what is going on. she will help out as much as she can but she also lives out of town and works a full time job but maybe once a week she will babysit so that will save me a little bit. i have a different attitude than him, whatever i have to do i will do it for my daughter. if it means going to school all day, 3 hours of travelling, hours of homework and taking care of her and getting a part time job for weekends then i will do it. i'm not even going to count on him cause i'll just keep getting dissapointed. but i will still try to call the lawyer to see if it can be inforced for him to actually pay the daycare. not sure though, how that would go but it is allready stated that he has to pay.

i allready called about low income or subsidized daycare and i can't get it while on osap. (student loan). which i think is rediculous. i'm obviously on a low income. anyway even if he gets billed by the daycare and the daycare doesn't get the money from him and then decide to stop watching my daughter where am i then. and yes it applies to me going to school too. he has to pay half of any extraordinary expenses. sports, school trips, daycare, medical and so on. he's refused all in the past except he actually payed half of her glasses but then he took my receipt and claimed it at work and kept all the money and didn't give me my half back