Something Terrible Happened yesterday and I am so furious!
By jennybianca
@jennybianca (12912)
Australia
July 31, 2007 10:43pm CST
Some of you may know that my husbands ex is a nasty, vindictive & unstable person. We have had trouble with her for years.
Her latest piece of damage, unlike previous incidents which have always involved my husband or myself, this one involves my 14 year daughter.
And unfortunately she has involved Clarice with her nastiness.
Her & my 9 year old step daughter went to the Police & made a complaint that my SD had been assaulted by Bianca. Hubby & I heard about this late yesterday, when a Police Officer rang us. She is from the Child Protection Unit at Ch..... Beach Police station.
Clarice & the ex claim that:
1. Bianca tied SD to a tree.
2. SD crawled under the computer desk & when she crawled out got caught in Bianca's legs.
They are the only two examples they gave.
If the police officer taking the report asked the right questions, he would have found that about 18 months to 2 years ago, all the kids played army games where part of it involved tieing their prisoners up. Bianca was tied up, my step son was tied up, the boys next door were tied up, all 6 of our friends children were tied up. SD begged to be a part of the game & was tied up too. The object is to escape.
The second incident occured around 6 weeks ago. I don't know why the stupid girl crawled under the computer desk, but she did. As Bianca was on the computer at the time, when SD crawled out again, she went between Biancas legs.
That's it. The police were stupid enough to take this seriously... * hence, Bianca is to be questioned next sunday afternoon. I have no doubt she will prove herself innocent, but that is not the point. I don't want to take Bianca at all. She is guilty of nothing, except having step siblings who are a fair bit like their mother.
The irony is, if the ex is truly concerned about assaults on Clarice, then she would be looking at her own son. MY SS regularly hits, punches & kicks my SD (his real sister). As the ex doesn't know how to manage her childrens behaviour, this fighting between SS & SD continues in their own home.
I have spoken to the Ombudsman, The Police Complaints Authority, neither of whom can do anything, is it is not their business. I have spoken to the sargeant at C.... Beach Police Station. I am now trying to make an appointment with the boss at Christies.
My aim is two fold. To stop this malicious claim against Bianca, & to take action against the ex for making a false & malicious complaint. Most probably I will not be successful with either.
It seems anyone can walk in from the street, & make up a complaint about child assaults.
Naturally, my SD, & possibly my SS, if he is involved, will not be happy children in my home for some time to come.
If legal means can not do anything the ex making false allegations against a child, which seems likely, then I intend to retaliate. I am after blood. Any ideas??
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9 responses
@Calais (10893)
• Australia
1 Aug 07
Oh , Thats absolutely aweful, I can totally understand your fury...I would want blood too...But you have to be really careful what you do..
I think though maybe the best thing to do is to be the beter person here...as hard as that might be...I really hope that it works out for the better and this psycho gets whats coming to her..
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@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
2 Aug 07
Yes, I will be careful what I do!! I have a plan. There is no legal way of sorting out this psycho. Believe me, I have tried.
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@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
2 Aug 07
I have looked into this, & I can not charge her with making a false claim. As it is the word of one person against another, with no proof either way.
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@weemam (13372)
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1 Aug 07
people always say that a diary should be kept but how on earth could you see such inocent happenings being made to look wicked , I would try to avoid her as much as possible and talk to her as litle as possible , she must be a really wicket person to use chilren like this , Take care my friend and be happy just to spite her xxxx
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@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
2 Aug 07
I have had no contact with her for years, but it didn't stop her making a false claim.
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@GardenGerty (169505)
• United States
4 Aug 07
How frustrating, and my only idea would be to do daily documentation while they are in my house and take lots of photos. I would make note of everything SS did to SD and any bruises either one of them comes with. The only thing is that when you stoop that low you run the risk of rolling in the mud with the pigs.
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@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
17 Nov 07
I figure that I will have to document everything they say regarding their Mother.
@whiteheather39 (24403)
• United States
2 Aug 07
It really sad that the Child Protection Services got involved especially over something so harmless. Cant you send the Stepchildren to stay with their mother for a while? If she is so nasty they may be glad to come back and behave themseves.
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@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
3 Aug 07
It is the Police who got involved, although Child Protection Services will be informed too.
That is why we are so furious.
I love to send them back to their mother permanently, but that would mean a change in Family Court Orders, plus, hubby is afraid of totally loosing them. Although to be honest, he is thinking of giving up on them completely.
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@KarenO52 (2950)
• United States
1 Aug 07
That's horrible. She must be a very sick woman to involve your daughter in that kind of false claim. I think the best thing you can do is to try and protect yourself and your daughter anyway you can. This woman probably won't stop.
@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
2 Aug 07
I will go all out to protect my daughter.
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@dnatureofdtrain (5273)
• Janesville, Wisconsin
9 Nov 07
I used to play such army games myself, and understand, I have also witnessed both of my parents, and some of my relatives deal with such false allegations themselves.. and yet have on the other hand witness abusers go scott free, it makes me mad and sick, and I am sorry this is happening to your family too...
What you definately need to do is sit down and document everything in detail, and date it. If Bianca is old enough to write, having her document what happened too helps. This has helped clear up alot of stuff just hand them a piece of paper, ask them to write about it.. and date it walk away let them write... And anyone else who witnessed or was involved in these games if they want to witness to help clear up the false allegations should do the same, and the documents handed in...
I don't know what else to say.. But I'll keep this in my thoughts and prayers... that the Justice system is able to see the truth of what really happened, and that the blinders are removed..
- DNatureofDTrain
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@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
17 Nov 07
She was proven innocent as it turned out. My 9 year old step daughter apologised to my daughter, but my 14 year old step son didn't.
@brendalee (6082)
• United States
2 Aug 07
Thats horrible. I feel so bad for you and your daughter. The first thought that came to mind was finding a hitman to take the ex out but that can be very expensive. The only thing else you can do is keep away from her and the others.
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@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
2 Aug 07
Yes, I want a hitman, but probably couldn't afford it, & I have no way of contacting one!
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@66jerseygirl (3877)
• United States
2 Aug 07
My goodness,how terrible! Is it possible keep your ex away from your family? I think it's horrible that she is doing this and is getting away with it. i just hope that something can be done
@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
2 Aug 07
Yes, we can keep the ex away from our family, but aside from banning all contact with my hubbys kids, there is no way we can stop this malicious woman from making false claims.
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