It is hard to do therapy when your cat can't talk!

@speakeasy (4171)
United States
August 1, 2007 3:23pm CST
When we got Russell from the shelter almost a year ago, we were warned that he had been abused. He had a slight limp: plus, his tail had been broken and cut with shears and had to be amputated because of a serious infection. But, he is such a sweetie; that, we didn't mind the extra work, making him feel secure and safe with us. We though we had made real progress. He is still skittish about things that "flap" and he jumps at sudden sounds; but last night we had a major setback. My son and I were in the kitchen and Russell was in the bathroom off the kitchen (doing what ever kitties do when they are alone in a bathroom). Suddenly, a "sun spider" came running across the floor straight at me! 1) Suns spiders look like a cross between a spider and a scorpion - very "ugly" unless YOU are also a sun spider. 2) I am allergic to ANY spider bite. Needless to say, I screamed! My son stomped; and Russell came crashing out of the bathroom, jumped up on the coounter and sent things flying across the room, and dashed off! He was a very fast moving orange blur! As soon as we calmed down, we went to look for him calling softly; but, he was not in his usual hiding places, did not come out, and we didn't look real hard. Almost 20 minutes later, we were getting worried and started REALLY LOOKING and we found him hiding under the sofa; eyes very wide and dilated and as flat as he could get to the floor as possible. He would NOT come out or even move. I reached under and pulled him out and he was fighting to go back under the sofa; but, I would not let him. Once he was out, it took less than a minute to reassure him that he was OK, safe, and not in any trouble or danger. But, I really wish he could talk, so we could get him to open up about his past and help him get past the abuse he suffered. I have no idea why my scream upset him so badly; but, it must have triggered some really bad memories for him to react the way he did.
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5 responses
• United States
3 Aug 07
Oh sweetie, bless your heart. They talk their own language and show body language. Just give him lots of love as you are, and accept him as he is. God bless you.
@speakeasy (4171)
• United States
3 Aug 07
I do accept him "as he is"; but, like any good "mom" when a child (human or cat) is in pain (mentally or physically), I "NEED" to at least try to comfort and help them. Body langauge and cat language are only good for "NOW" - the present. To help avoid things that will upset him and/or help him deal with those things; I need the "keys to his past" and he cannot communicate them to me. Giving him lots of love, is a given; he is part of my family now.
• United States
2 Aug 07
Im sorry to tell you IMO is can take a long time, if ever, to get an abused animal to completely be at ease and trust humans after they have been mistreated. My last rescued chihuahua is very skitting and scares very easily. I keep think she is doing so much better and then something sets her off again. I use a lot of patience and love to try and show her she is safe.
@speakeasy (4171)
• United States
2 Aug 07
We have been amazed at how loving and trusting he has been with his past history. He loves to climb on us and get a good petting or groomed and he drools on us. But, he is still very skittish and cautious. Of course, when he and our other cat like to sneak up on each other and "pounce" unexpectedly - some of that is natural. We have had loud noises in the house before and he has never reacted THAT badly (he usually just freezes till he sees what is going on). We think the person who abused him (a female) may have been screaming at him when she hurt him so bad.
• United States
1 Aug 07
So, you're a cat person, too! I have a dog in my avatar but that's only because he gets jealous of all the attention our 4 cats receive. Anyway, we have one cat that tangled with something really mean out in the woods one day. We still do not know what it was. But it sure scared our sweetie really bad. That poor cat huddled trying to hide in a dark place behind our bed for over 48 hours. We just placed water and food where she could get it. Also, include a nearby litter box. Then we waited. After enough time, she came out and returned to normal. Good luck with your cat. I think she'll be fine.
@speakeasy (4171)
• United States
1 Aug 07
I have had both cats and dogs; but, I currently just have 2 cats and a mouse. Russell is already "over" his scare; he settled right down in less than a minute when I forced him to come out and soothed him. But, I wish he could talk so we could help him better. Right now, I just know if something like another large spider startles me; I will scream and he will panic again. If he could talk and tell us what happened to him, we could at least TRY to help him deal with this problem.
@GardenGerty (157671)
• United States
2 Aug 07
I dare say, if Russell had understood, or known what a crisis a spider was, he would probably have tried to rescue you, save you from the spider. It is too bad that all of you had such a shake up. I am glad you found Russell, and he could be calmed so well.
@speakeasy (4171)
• United States
2 Aug 07
I don't know about that. He loves flies and moths; but, is not fond of even regular spiders; and, sun spiders are really "creepy". This one was about an inch and a half long. Fortunately, they are not real common. I have no problems with the small spiders, I just squich them. But, coming across a larger spider unexpectedly; especially when it is coming straight for me, will get a scream every time!
1 Aug 07
I sometimes wonder what goes on in their little minds?? My cat doesn't like the vacuum cleaner so I wonder if he was frightened by it when he was a kitten. He is just a year old now and not so frightened by things. Your cat will be ok with a lot of love and support.
@speakeasy (4171)
• United States
2 Aug 07
Thank you for your support. Like a lot of people, I just wish there was some way to help him faster. Tonight, I turned around fast and dropped a can lid on the floor by accident and he "jumped" at just that little sudden noise. It is like we took three steps forward over the past year; and, with the one incident we went two steps back in making him feel safe and secure. I have had many cats over the years and NONE of them liked the vacuum cleaner; but, most of them don't "run and hide" they just get up and walk away. I think it is becasue their hearing is so much more sensitive than our hearing. Listening to a vacuum cleaner would be like us standing next to a jet engine when it was running.