I am so depressed

So sorry to hear you're struggling so hard, physically and financially. I can sure relate. I was making darn good money before my Fibromyalgia and arthritis kicked in and now I can't work a regular job at all. My husband barely makes above minimum wage and good paying jobs around here are scarce. So we struggle every month and basically live paycheck to paycheck, all our savings is gone and we're in debt up to our eyeballs from having to put necessities on the credit card and hospital bills after my husband ended up in the hospital for an emergency angioplasty last November. If it wasn't for my mom and stepdad helping us out we would have a hard time buying groceries. It gets very depressing and frustrating struggling all the time, let alone being sick all the time. We do what we can and live day to day as happily as possible and things keep getting in the way. I hope you can find a doctor who can diagnose your problem and treat it. (((hugs)))

I am so sorry to hear that you are having so many problems! It's horrible not being able to work! The job that I'm missing right now wasn't anywhere near as good as the one you had, but I'm missing it just the same, so I know how you feel! I have the same problem with the online stuff, so much of it requires money to get into, and I just don't have the money in the first place! And with the things that cost money, it's so hard to tell which ones are real and which are scams! I do hope that you find some programs that work for you! The health stuff is very frustrating... it's so hard when you don't have a firm diagnosis, because then how are you going to get treatment and get better? It sounds like you've been to a lot of different places, and still come up with nothing. I wish there were something I could say to make it better, but I just wanted to let you know I'm thinking about you! =)

well what can i say! it is sad!realy that you have so much problems butt let me tell you someting! now that you have 1500 per month tat is from my point of weau praty cool you know in my contry what is the minimul pay out? 300 dolars! 50% from this country don`t make better than 300 dollars!it is verry sad! but what can we do? hoping for bettre days! don`t lose your fait

Hi That sounds pretty dire, and if I may say so, the idea of borrowing to 'pay off' those kind of payments is not a good idea in the long term (you know this I'm sure, but sometimes these things need spelling out). One of the hardest things about your situation is that you are probably in the habit of spending your old income even though your new one does not match it. Addressing this inbalance is vital for your future financial and physical well-being. I wrote a squidoo lens on the subject 'the quickest way the make money' - the truth is that the quickest way to MAKE money is to SAVE money... You can read the lens here for what it's worth, maybe something there will help you: http://www.squidoo.com/makingmoneyquickly/ I think a lot of people look for extra income without thinking how they can plug the holes to stop their existing income from leaking away..

Hi, sorry things are not going to well for you. I do understand where as I have never made big money and I consider your former salary big money. I have found that we get accustomed to living on what we make. For myself the most money I have ever earned is 11 dollars an hour. so i never had a lot of stuff, car, big TV,cell phone, etc. so i do not miss them now that I an on a disability pension, which comes to $850 per month, My budget is as follows : mortgage $306 strata fees $154 Cable Bill(INTERNET, phone TV) $139 Hydro $30 Life insurance $10 and property tax $40 $75 Visa That comes to $744 and then there is food, and transportation, as well as prescriptions and all the other stuff I need. It is a very tight budget but I can and do live on it. If your disability becomes permanent, you may have to look at down sizing, but until you know try to keep up your payments even if it is only the interest, Talk to all the people you owe money to and see if they will lower your payments for the time being. a lot of banks and credit card companies will be more than happy to do that as they do not want to have to deal with a delinquent account and nor do you. I hope every thing works out for you Robin

I know how you feel...I'm 29 yrs old and I have alot of health problems...And I am manic depressive....I have a hard time to do anything..I hate even to wake up...I hate myself for what is all wrong with me...I feel like I'm losing my mind and myself at that! I even cut myself to make the pain and everything go away.....I know thats not a healthy way to deal with it.. I feel for everyone that feels like crap...It hard to pull yourself out of the depression..I take a crap load of pills that are suppose to help...They help some but it don't take everything away...And I don't have anyone to help me and that is hard trying to even get money to pay my bills....But I will pray for you and your family....

Wow, it sounds like you have a lot going on. I hope you can find out what is wrong.

Sweetie I know what you mean and I know how you feel I am still trying to adjust after 5 years and it is not easy no matter what I am sorry that your Health is deteriorating again and I do hope that they will find out soon what is wrong I am sending you a big Hug from here

I am very sorry for your troubles also. I can relate. I have no advice to give but just hang in there. Hopefully something good will come along very soon! I too am thinking of you and sending positive thoughts your way!

I have only one piece of advice for you, it is all you need. When you get tired of looking around, look up. He is so much help for his children when they are in trouble. You have to trust God when you have these kind of problems. It breaks my heart to hear this, please look to Jesus. It took me a long time to understand what it meant when the Bible says to cast your cares on him. This is the way I pray when I get in a situation like that. Heavenly father, you know what I am going through. You told me to cast my cares on you because you care for me. Lord there is no need for me to try to figure this one out, because I can't. This one is beyond me and if you don't move on my behalf, nothing will be done. If fact, this is not my problem anyway Lord, you said in your word that the battle is not mine, it is yours, so I will leave this problem here with you and go forward. And you know what I do, I leave it there and I don't worry about it any more. I go on like I don't have a problem in the world. I don't let problems steal my joy any longer. I am going to keep smiling and know that God is going to work it out. Leave it alone, stop fretting about it. Give it to him in faith and let it go. That is what he is waiting for. You can not do anything in your own strength anyway, so why worry about it. Say in the name of Jesus I am healed, in the name of Jesus my bills are paid, in the name of Jesus everything that is happening right now is working together for my good. In Jesus name, rise up and go on.

Such problems come and go.You should have patience dear and don't take tension, you can arrange for loans and slowly recover out of it.

Talking of depression..............i got a lot.There are lots of depression in life. I got my first depression when i was in my 3rd year in college and my father abandoned us without saying anything so i need to quit schooling. My next depression was..............we can't eat 3 times a day........i can see my sisters and brother keeps on crying while my mother was in real depression. ANother depression was when my husband abandoned me and my daughter without saying anything too and run away with my cousin. Another depression was when my husband wanted to get may daughter so he brive my daughter just to leave me too. They wanted me to become crazy. He told my daughter to put that sleeping pills on my coffee so i got asleep and when i woke up the door is open, the gate is open and nobody in the home while i was sleeping............so PAINFUL.........have you ever experienced that in your life . thank you for my faith.

i can understand how you feel right now..we're on the same track and it really frustrates me to the fullest when i can't do anything to resolve my problems.but just remember that on every problem there is a possible solutuon that im sure ul find.just don't loose hope coz everything will be alright.

Most time, its my work..with ontime deliveries and work loads. I try to divert mind on music and i feel better. We need to manage depression, as it is part of life in busy world. But if we concentrate, we can manage it. I does it through my yoga, listening music and going out on vacation.

By the way, can I know where are you living now? In a serious financial situation like you are facing now, I suggest that you make a sacrifice. This is for short term only, and I hope you can bare the uncomfortable effects from doing this. If you have your own house, I suggest you sell it. Housing property has an increasing price value, and will never go down. It will only go up. So by selling your house you will get double the money you have spent when you first purchased it. Pay the rest of the morgage of your house, and use the balance to buy another low cost house (by cash, if possible). After that you will no longer have to worry about paying for your house to the bank, and this saves a lot of money and you can use it for your medical purposes. I hope this makes you relieved a little. God bless you. I pray that you will get well soon. Don't worry.