Do you ALWAYS say what's on your mind?
By rabejuela
@rabejuela (20)
Philippines
August 5, 2007 6:07am CST
YES! because i hate to pretend... I don't want to be "plastic" as what other people call it. I'm always FRANK wether you like it or not. I will tell you what i feel and how i see things. But not in a brutal ways, i also make sure that I can deliver it in a nice way but as expected if its bad the people will tend to get angry but I know as days pass by they will understand. Even if you're my best friend and for example i don't like the way you dress, (even if my best friend thought that she looks sexy and beautiful in her outfit) I will really tell it straight to her face, for her to know the truth. I mean that's what i'm here for...to be a REAL friend to her. To show her what's right and wrong. I also want my friend to be like that coz I value my friends comments. It is also one way of showing her that you care, that you don't want her to be embarrassed outside by always being honest. In that way you are also protecting.
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22 responses
@jlara_gtr34 (3491)
• Philippines
5 Aug 07
hi there! ;0
even though sometimes its nice to say what is exactly on our mind, i myself wouldnt really say what is on my mind. :) you know why? because i have gotten into a lot of troubles whenever i say what is exactly ony mind. sometimes it is better to have some "tact" as they say. sometimes, when i know that what im thinking is too harsh, i just shut up and keep it to myself. lolz.
thank you and good day! :)
@philman (4)
• United States
6 Aug 07
Stay that way. To tell the truth of how you feel is the best way to live. I have a lot more respect for people that are real, rather than to put on a show. Don't candy coat any thing. Don't be a jerk, just be reak if that is you. If your friends can't handle that, no great loss for you.
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@pendragon (3350)
• United States
5 Aug 07
With certain people, that are close to me,I'm careful, because I care.I will tell them the truth but not harshly if it's unfavourable.The rest of the world is on their own with me,lol.
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@gunlock (55)
• Philippines
6 Aug 07
At some point it is okay to be not "plastic", but you still have to consider who you are talking with. Because some people take comments seriously and it may end up in a bad conversation leading to misunderstanding. Always consider the other person's personality, because you don't know how they perceive things which may sound offensive to them. Your intention is good but you have to be careful on how you do it.
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@philman (4)
• United States
6 Aug 07
Stay that way. To tell the truth of how you feel is the best way to live. I have a lot more respect for people that are real, rather than to put on a show. Don't candy coat any thing. Don't be a jerk, just be reak if that is you. If your friends can't handle that, no great loss for you.
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@diannebcrs (1549)
• Philippines
6 Aug 07
I don't know. I think I'm careful with my words, but my friends always say I'm uncomfortably frank.. Well, since I'm the impulsive type - I easily get carried away. For instance, when I don't like her make-up, my mouth immediately opens and tells her honestly what I think about it without having the intention of hurting her or anything like that. Or sometimes when I someone's bugging me, I get irritated and then I snap at that person how irritating he or she is. Something like that.
Honesty is the best policy. Truth hurts. Yeah, yeah, I've heard those lines before. In my opinion, my only opinion (forgive me), I think it's better to be honest and frank to others so there wouldn't be misunderstanding and pretentions.
Truth can hurt. But I honestly believe that it's better to get hurt because of the truth than get hurt because of a lie.
Thanks for this discussion!
@diannebcrs (1549)
• Philippines
6 Aug 07
One more thing. Although it's good to be honest, there are instances where you won't have to tell the truth - or tell a lie.
I still think it's best when we don't say anything unless we really have to for the intention of sparing the other person from humiliation.
But when it comes to certain matters, I think that we should wait until the person asks for our honest opinions. Blurting out frank remarks can cause trouble... "Who asked you?" that's the common line said by the one who got offended by a frank remark.
God bless!
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
23 Oct 07
It depends on the situation to situation and whom I am talking to. If I talking to someone very close to me...then only I divulge what is on my mind, otherwise I do not like to share rather feel comfortable sharing my inner feelings.
@CoffeeAnyone (3210)
• Canada
6 Aug 07
You sound like you have a good balance in what you are talking about and therefore you sound like you would be a good friend. I myself have tried to be that kind of friend but I have not found that kind of friend in return! It makes me question whether or not I should be the way I am if the favor is not returned? I long to have a friend who is upfront and honest with me!
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@puchapox (579)
• Philippines
5 Aug 07
I try to, but sometimes I consider the consequences of my actions. There are instances though that I forgot thinking about what other would feel about it, so I keep my mouth shut. I'm a stickler for grammar though, so when I spot a mistake I immediately tell it so.
Its a different thing to, when online, I'm a lot more frank and honest, so maybe that's why my star keeps fluctuating. I tend to lace some of my responses with sarcasm and others don't think its nice. I know its not but thats how I am, take it or leave it. :)
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@marje_09 (63)
• Philippines
5 Aug 07
Yes, i always say what's on my mind. At first i don't want to hold any anger in my heart. If i hate and mad to someoe else i tried to tell him/hr early as possible to settle it down or else never come to work for it. Anither thing,i really wanted to show that i am not infavor of things at least they will know. I also wanted to say that things because it really HURTS me if i can't express. After all those things that i need to tell it made me totally free or upsetto anybody else then. Epressing one's emotion helps us most often to refrain from heart failure and cardiac arrest.....After all i told...........then it's forgotten and start for a new beginning...........how would you accept failure then if you can't speak out?
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@Daelin (683)
• Brazil
5 Aug 07
I hate to pretend too and I try to always be frank, but it is hard sometimes and I prefer not to say anything when the matter is delicate.
If I know someone who only recently became my friend I wouldn`t risk this new friendship by telling things that I could just ignore.
As for old friends I don't have this problem because we are really frank with each other.
In the job I like to be frank too. Like if I get late to work I will tell the truth about the reasons.
Of course I will keep my impressions about my boss to myself ;)
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@wotfpatty (2065)
• United States
6 Aug 07
No, I don't. I work with a lot of people and interact constantly. If I said what was on my mind every time a thought popped into my head, I would come off as a real b*itch. I often bypass being sarcastic or whatever and simply step away. It's not good to be confrontational constantly and I could be, I think, if I allowed myself to just let my mouth (or fingers) run before I think things through. I tend to get angry quickly and it passes just as quickly. Why start drama for nothing?
If it something I feel strongly about, then yes, I will speak my mind and take the consequences with no problem.
@gloria777 (1674)
• India
6 Aug 07
Earlier I used to speak out what I think or in mind, but when it started hurting some of my dear ones, I really stopped that habit. So now I just control myself.
@miamilady (4910)
• United States
6 Aug 07
No. I don't always say whats on my mind. I think sometimes it is more important to spare people hurt feelings than it is to speak my mind.
Everything that goes through my mind isn't always nice. I've heard the saying "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all".
You can't always follow that advice but I think sometimes it's a good idea.
People don't always need to know what is on eachothers mind. Sometimes we don't want or need to hear the opinions of others and we don't always need to share our opinions.
We should be considerate of other peoples feelings.
@jeanniemay (1798)
• Philippines
22 Oct 07
Yes! I do say what I have in mind. I don't want to be unfair by not speaking out my mind. I don't want to also burden myself keeping unnecessary things in mind. It always is more important to think loud, you can gain more friends and keep the trust of your friends.
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@jaichen (142)
• Philippines
6 Aug 07
yeah, be frank but in a nice way if it is really not nice to hear... we don't need to pretend but there are really times that we need to shut our mouth up for the greater good... you will experience that time in an unlikely time of your life... but as for now, just be cool
