is it ok to be the other man/woman?
By rexiemay
@rexiemay (401)
Philippines
August 5, 2007 6:47am CST
meaning you'll be contented being the other woman/man. aside from being a homewrecker, you will spend your christmas on the 26th of december, valentines on the 15th of february and you'll never be that happy thinking that tomorrow he/she might realize that he/she must go back to his/her number 1.
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@GyurlTrini (67)
• Trinidad And Tobago
6 Aug 07
no I don't think it's ok. I know some people think it is because they think all the "good ones" out there are taken, and they want some of that for themselves. They want to make sure that any children they may have do not suffer from having a "bad" parent.
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@GardenGerty (169568)
• United States
5 Aug 07
No, it is not okay to settle for second best. It is not okay to hurt other people and to put yourself in a place to be perpetually hurt. That is just asking for trouble. It is better to be alone than to settle for being number two, or three, after any kids or other family obligations.
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@disvachic (10117)
• United States
5 Aug 07
HEy rexiemay,in my opinion i dont think its okay to be the other woman.I feel you may get hurt and really be lonely well especially if you're not seeing other people and putting time into this person. Theres a void that needs to be filled.Just knowing someone you love is going home to somebody else would make me feel sad.Unless i was that type of woman that didnt give a freak becuz i had many others but im not so i could not do it.YOU may have feelings for that person but yet he or she is going home to be with their number 1.
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@lecanis (16647)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
5 Aug 07
I'd only be contented to be the "other" in a consentual poly relationship, not a cheating situation. I don't do the whole cheating thing. I have been in a situation where I settled for being "second" for someone, but their primary partner knew about me and had agreed to it. It is kind of hard in terms of holidays and just generally feeling important, but it can also be kind of freeing in having time to spend on your own interests and such.
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@no_chao (548)
• Philippines
11 Aug 07
in my case.... i hate those people who are keep in making an affair with someone who is already commited... there are lot of boys and girls around that are still single. why wont they try their luck. being other to someone is not happy at all for you know that you are cheating someone else and at the end the posibility if being a looser is there..... its a risk of your own.....
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@mkcallejo (318)
• Philippines
5 Aug 07
Definitely not. It has adverse consequences not only to you but to the other people who might be possibly involved including innocent children...
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@Lydia1901 (16351)
• United States
18 Aug 07
Let just say I wouldn't want to be that person at all. First of all, you are trying to break up two people that might be destined to be together somehow and you will never be the only one. So, why put yourself through that? I wouldn't go there at all, not now and definitely not ever.
