My suicidal friend...
By mycharm88
@mycharm88 (2288)
Philippines
August 7, 2007 5:59am CST
I met a friend from highschool yesteday, she looked so depressed i almost did not recognize her because she use to be so beautiful,witty and with her always is that flashing sunny smile. She looked so different, she was pale and looks like she had the whole world in her back. I patted her back and there was a little smile, we were not that close then but i was surprised to receive a tight hug, as if she was relieved to see someone she knew. We talked for hours and found out that she just had a cut on her wrist, i could still see the wound bandaged with a litte blood. She was lucky her 6 year old daughter saw her in the bathroom and immediately called for help and brought her to the hospital. It's all because her husband left her for another woman, she was telling me the details crying, this was not the first time she had suicidal attempts, everytime she was lucky to still be alive... I was really shocked to hear all that she said and didn't have the right words to ease the pain she has been through and i feel so sorry for her. The only thing i can do for now is to be there for her, and let her know that if she needed anything i'll be glad to help.
Anyone who had experience like this? If yes what did you do to help?Do share your thoughts pls.
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11 responses
@stella1989 (2274)
• India
7 Aug 07
hey ..! please first tell your friend that her life is not her's now..!
she has a little daughter to take care of here. She can not punish HER daughter because of her husband..!
There is always a tomorrow.
Tell her that she can not do this to her daugther,she cannot leave her in an orphange or somewhere else like this.
Tell that so many people out there are struggling for their lifes and she has no value for her own life..!!
life is the greatest gift one can ever give to someone she has that this gift wit her she cannot let it go that easily.
And also how can she die for a looser like her husband a ditcher a moron who do not care for her, do not love her.
She has to live.
@mycharm88 (2288)
• Philippines
10 Aug 07
hello stella!! You are definitely right about that. That was the first thing that came into my mind while she was sharing her problems to me. I pity her daughter and i believe that we have no right to take our lives because this is only a borrowed life... I'll remind her that. Thank you so much friend.
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@shenzhouplaza (1676)
• China
11 Aug 07
ask he if she still loves her daughter, if her reply is yes,and then ask her who will take care of her 6 year old daughter if she is gone.
I feel sad for her and her little girl.
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@mycharm88 (2288)
• Philippines
14 Aug 07
Hello shenzhou!!1
A very nice response my friend, simple but true..thank you so much and take care.
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
7 Aug 07
Sweetie many years ago I was yes you are doing the right thing by being there for her but you need to try and explain to her that she needs to go and see her Doctor and also you need to try and get through to her when she gets that down she needs to think of her Daughter and no matter what time it is she needs to go and cuddle her Daughter and feel the love from her Child what I mean is even if it is the middle of the Night she needs to go and look at her daughter sleeping and just sit there till she realizes that her little Girl needs her Mum
I felt like that 6 years ago when my World fell apart when I was diagnosed with this Disability I went and looked at both my Children one was 14 and the other 17 sleeping and I knew I had to fight as my Kids will always need me and that stopped me
But it also made me see that I had to make changes and one of them was get out of the horrible Marriage I was trapped in
So tell her this or should I say try and get this through to her
It is not good for her little Daughter having to deal with something like this
Hugs to you Sweetie
@mycharm88 (2288)
• Philippines
10 Aug 07
Hello sweet gabs!!!
You are one brave and loving mum! Your children are very lucky to have a mum like you...I would try to convince her for treatment or counseling. I just hope that my friend will get over this problem like you did and realize her daughter's worth for her to move on...Hugz to you too Sweetie!!Take care..
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@DavidReedy (2378)
• United States
7 Aug 07
Well, as a true friend you need to be there for her. But she really needs to seek the help of professionals. A combination of behaviour therapy and anti-depressants may be what she needs.
@mycharm88 (2288)
• Philippines
11 Aug 07
Thanks david for the idea, i sure will try to convince her to seek for professional help because i'm really worried about her and yes anti-depressant is a must for her. Take care DR
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@jatamogue (367)
• Philippines
10 Aug 07
It is the pain she feels. It the difficulty of it. The pain she feels drives her into doing stuff like those. There a lot of important things in life. A very powerful tool is prayer. She should always throw her anxieties to God. 1 Peter 5:6-10
@mycharm88 (2288)
• Philippines
14 Aug 07
Hello Jatamogue... i do believe that prayer
is a very powerful tool to get through with all life's pains and sufferings, i have been through w/ so much heartaches too but God has never let me down, when i needed anything, He provides. he alone knows the deepest desires of my heart...She is always in my prayers and glad to know that she is trying to put herself back as of this time and her relationship with God.Thank you for this very nice response my friend.
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@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
12 Aug 07
When me and my bf broke up. The thought of my life beeing over crossed my mind more than once and I also thought about finishing it off. There have been so many things going wrong in my life in the past 2 months and when we broke up 2 weeks ago i felt like - THATS IT!!!
However - it was a brief thought and I would never think about REALLY doing it - but the thought was there and that was scary.
I can really relate to what your friend is feeling and I can also understand the desperation, however SHE needs to focus on the fact that she has a kid now. She is not just messing with her own life. That 6year old does not deseve to find her mom in that condition and be the one to contact medical help. She is a kid and her mom is supposed to take care of her.
I do not think that u should feel sorry for her, but be there for her incase she needs you and also make it clear to her that u are at all times.
Everyone needs someone when they are experiancing their whole world falling apart.
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@raijin (10345)
• Philippines
7 Aug 07
I don't have any friends that are like that, because we all support each other and deal with whatever problems one have. We are like brothers, we give advice and cheer one another.
But I think if ever I know someone like that, I will surely give every ounce of support that person needs just to save his/her life. Though it's a bit delicate, as there are no known cure for heartaches. I will just let them know what life on the other is, to have them back and face the reality no matter how painful it is/was..
@mycharm88 (2288)
• Philippines
10 Aug 07
How lucky your friends are to have a caring and very supportive friend like you... You must be a loving and kindhearted person. I will try to do my best to save my friend.. you take care my friend and do continue to be a caring friend, cause that's what the world needs.
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@healwell (1268)
• Ahmedabad, India
8 Aug 07
I am a healer ans i think that she needs healing of her odd feelings regarding the suecidal element! She must have thought that the world is eneded for her so why to live? But her daughter was there who has helped for survival... From this example she has to learn that here the reason to live and enjoy the life for her daughter! Otherwise by her example she will provide suecide as the solution to her daughter so when ever such situation will come she will also think about that and might do the same!
She has to come out from her self centered nature for the sake of herself and her daughter! Good positive reading, prayers and life oriented activities may help her to relieve the old thing and to regain the old smiling nature of her own! She has to love herself and her life should have the positive processes now and onwards!
@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
8 Aug 07
Your friend must remember that she now has a 6 yo daughter to live for and her life is no longer her own.
Next she needs professional help, a psychiatrist, psychologist or a support group and some antidepressants is a good place to start.
She has to learn that she was too godd for her husband and no one is worth her life.
She has to learn, she has friends to help her, people who love her and these people are there for her. You are her friend, you have a big job, but it is worth it, knowing you helped make her life better.
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