If your HUBBY'S HAVING AN AFFAIR....what would you do?

I wouldn't worry about it, because it's only borrowing trouble. if you have no reason not to trust your husband, then you should trust him. After all, it's not like you'd go out and have an affair and break up your family, is it? Your husband most likely wants to have a happy family just as much as you do, and so he has no reason to have an affair. If you're really worried about it, remember that there is always marriage counselling or church retreats. You are not alone in the world.

For almost 7 years of marriage, I had encountered that too. My husband got an affair with another girl. It will be sounded silly because I had just let him to do it. It really hurts but in the other side of my mind kept on telling me that if he loves me and the kids he will just be back. At first I was shocked and had mixed emotions, I had tried to composed myself and had made my own simple ways to let myelf kept busy. And yeah becuase I also entrusted everything to God, after a year we had resolved it. He came back and ask for forgiveness and thanks to God coz I had feel and seen that he had changed... and at last for the better. :) It sometimes happened in our lives but just hang on and entrusts all to God. Whatever may happen just still go on with your life...coz LIFE is still wonderful to live on. Don't worry if you did everything all the best for your relationship, mark my word, he will not stray yet will definitely stay forever. ENJOY LIFE!! See yah around sistah...:)) hehehe

I wouldn't worry about it. I think we should always stay alert in a relationship. But you should pay more attention to keeping your loving relationship with your husband as stress free as possible. Pay attention to his wants and needs and keep an open line of communication. Let him know how important it is for you to have a strong and loving marriage and family. Keep your business to yourself and most of all pray that things will remain positive. Now, if all of that doesn't work, please let it go. It's not worth your dignity.

It sounds to me as if you are worrying way too much over something that has not happened yet. Your lack of trust in your relationship could ultimately be the cause for your marriage falling apart. If your husband has given you no reason to believe that he has cheated or that he might, then it is only your fears. I have been on his side...boyfriend fearing I wo uld cheat. I never would. I loved him and only him. HE never trusted me and was always questioning me. I worked in the public and know lots of people. If I said "hi" to a man...he got upset. I got very insulted. I am not that type of person. It got frustrating defending my integrity all the time. I concluded that I was making his life more miserable than happy and he was doing t he same for me. I broke it off finally. Now he doesn't have to worry if I will cheat on him and I don't have to continually reassure him that I won't. I am much happier now but I am guessing that he will carry this problem into the next relationship and still be miserable. You have to have trust.

This is one of the damnedest evils to entertain. DONT EVEN GIVE IT A BENEFIT OF DOUBT. coz this will destroy ur family. Give all ur love to hubby and you will not be left out.

Don't worry about what may happen in the future.Just do the right things today.Don't let your unwanted fear shatter your life.Think positively.As thoughts have a power,always think of good things in life and enjoy it!

Have you asked this question only to women? Don't you even trust mature men also?

I'll be very angry of course, unhappy, depressed for a while...and who knows what I'd do...(I'll cross the bridge when I get there)...but after the hysterics and ugly confrontations, I'd say that if he chooses to be with the 'other' woman, then it's his loss, not mine. My two children are now grown up (aged 25 and 22) and are also earning like me...so we are not really financially and even emotionally dependent on him...of course, the betrayal would hurt so much, and it would take time to heal the wound....but I'll trust that God will help me overcome this crisis, if ever...but I'm praying that it would not happen...knock on wood!

I wouldn't spare him in case he was having an affair with anyone else. I think you too should not forgive him. Please leave him and lead a life on your own. Please dont loose faith in GOD.