I want to raise a happy child...

@babykay (2131)
Ireland
August 20, 2007 6:22pm CST
Hi everybody As a kid I was really unhappy. Now that I have my own child (one and a half years old!) I want to do the very best I can to make sure he is happy, secure and normal. Some people say routine is best. I had no routine as a kid, none, so I while I can't say if this was a contributory factor to my unhappiness I would be willing to give it a try with my child. Other ideas to make a child happy would be appreciated. So have you got any tips?
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@cutepenguin (6431)
• Canada
21 Aug 07
I honestly think that a stable routine, family ties, and patience is what a kid needs to be happy. (Ummm, the parents are the one whom need the patience). I think so long as you are trying to provide a stable, happy home, then your child has a good chance of being happy.
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@babykay (2131)
• Ireland
22 Aug 07
I hope you are right because I want more than anything to provide him with a good and happy home.
@Malyck (3425)
• Australia
21 Aug 07
I think that a healthy routine/discipline is vital for a child to learn self-control and boundaries. One of the most important things in my childhood was that my parents were always fair with me and encouraged me to be myself. There is nothing more challenging than staying true to yourself through school, with other children often being cruel. Always being there for your child, but not spoiling them, and not letting them get away with bad behaviour is also great for character building. In the end, you just have to adjust yourself to your child's needs. We're all different and there isn't one formulae that will always work.
@babykay (2131)
• Ireland
22 Aug 07
ya we are all different, you are right. I am so afraid I will f**k up...
@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
20 Aug 07
I believe every child has the right to a happy childhood where they can just be kids, happy and innocent,I had the best childhood and I feel kids have plenty of time for worries in the future so they shouldn't be too bogged down with schooling as when I was at school other than maths and English nothing else I learnt at school was any good really, so I think kids should have a free unstressful childhood, for this is what they will have to look back on when they hit the adulthood where they have to deal with the nasties of life.
@babykay (2131)
• Ireland
21 Aug 07
yeah me too. Would like my son to have an idylic childhood, free from most stresses. But in this modern world its hard...there's bullying in school, pressure to look good at an increasingly young age. There is the issue of friends, I want him to have lots of friends, I also want to give him freedom but at the same time keep him safe. Its hard being a parent!
@wisconsin26 (3859)
• United States
21 Aug 07
Just be sure that your son has alot of love and attention and he will be happy.. Most kids that don't get that do feel sad and hurt and very unhappy in their lives and as a child.. I hope this helps and i am sure your child will be extreamly happy in life!
• India
21 Aug 07
Well its heartening to know that you want to give your child the best in the world.Yes its not only the material things in the world but the love ;care ,attention given to a child which matters most.Take the following suggestions . Massage:-It should be done properly and regularly. Move arround :-Allow the child to move arround freely.It will help him develop and grow.
• United States
24 Aug 07
Love, patience, and consistancy with the care you give him. You also need to spend time with him. Teach your child right from wrong and learn to pick your battles. I was unhappy because my told my twin and I we where not wanted. So I never told my children that they where not wanted. Try not to be the type of mom that made you unhappy if that is feeable.
• Kuwait
21 Aug 07
are you single mom?how can you say that your child is not happy?give to your child all the love that you dont even experince before.always have you love and tenderness to your child.so he/she will be happy as he/she grows.if you can have a perfect potential father with his/her approval then it would be perfect too.
• United States
21 Aug 07
Well people tell me I have one of the happiest babies ever. Well he isn't a baby anymore as he is three but you know what I mean. How do I make him happy? I make him my focus in life. I give him tons of hugs and kisses. I tell him all the time how sweet he is, how much I love him, etc. Seems to work. My daughters were treated the same. They were pretty happy too. Now that they are teens they have typical teenage angst.